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in what situations. what do you think is the best way to handle it?

2007-01-26 06:15:16 · 38 answers · asked by Cloud Nine--Sez YAHH 2 tha hatas 4 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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nope. i did that once and wonder of all wonders....u will never guess what he did a couple of months later (insert *gasp of shock) he cheated again!!

2007-01-26 06:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0 1

I would never take a cheater back. If they cheated, then the cheater really doesn't care very much about or for the feelings of the other person. It says a lot about their lack of consideration for the person and the relationship really. Not only does it leave the relationship open to the possibility of it happening again, it will also cause deep-seeded hard feelings and mistrust between the couple. The best thing to do is for both people to move forward with their own separate lives.

Good Luck and Best Wishes!
Spirit

2007-01-26 17:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit 2 · 0 0

Yep, and have. People say that they won't until they've been in the situation. I think each situation needs to be looked at separately. Understand WHY it happened, and get to the reasons. Defining what cheating is also. Is it kissing? Is it sex? Is it a date? Is it talking on the phone? Yah, perhaps...as all that is dishonest. But, what is going on (or not going on) in the relationship that is causing the cheating? People make mistakes, but figuring out why is the real question. Now, if this is an affair rather than getting drunk and kissing someone, well...that's another story. Pre-meditated cheating, affairs, all that are not worth working through.
I guess my point is...mistakes happen, figure out why, then make the decision.

2007-01-26 06:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 0 0

How much does it bother you that your partner slept with another person. Is fidelity very important to you?

What are the circumstances? Did they get drunk and fall into bed?

If the cheater met somebody, chatted them up, and had an affair, why? I think that if a person chose to do it once, they will do it again. If you don't want an "open" relationship I think you should let the person go.

2007-01-26 06:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by John T 6 · 0 0

I would never take my husband back if he cheated. Not only is there a saying "once a cheater always a cheater" but the fact is there are too many sexually transmitted diseases not to mention AIDS that are a genuine risk for the cheater and their "loved one".

No, never. I have too much pride for myself. He cheats, he's gone.

2007-01-26 06:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I don't think I would, I think once a cheater,always a cheater, it would be really hard to ever trust that person again, and a healthy relationship is built on trust.

2007-01-26 06:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The ability to cheat says a lot about someone's character. It means that person is very self centered. This isn't something that will change. It's in their nature. Do not take a cheater back. If he/she doesn't cheat again, this character flaw will manifest in other, equally repugnant, ways.

2007-01-26 06:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by Trinityklm 2 · 0 0

My personal opinion of this is that I could never take a cheater back. I have had someone cheat on me before and I really really wanted to take them back. But when I looked deep into my heart I found that I could really never truely trust that person again.

2007-01-26 06:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by ubbriggs 2 · 1 0

Definatly not. One time a cheater always a cheater. Never believe a person two times, its the biggest mistake you can make.

2007-01-26 06:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lyza R 1 · 0 0

I took back my guy or better put I didn't kick him out after I wanted to when I found that he'd been calling his exwife every time I left to pick up or drop off my kids for visitation! They were even talking while he was "at work". I was never allowed to call him unless it was break time! Of course now i'm allowed to call him at any time of the day! Oh, did I mention I found naked pics of his xwife hidden on a disk in his bible?!!!! Oh, yeah, he had NO idea what was on the disk! And, NO he NEVER had them to begin with...they NEVER had sex after the divorce was final...but the pics were taken 2 years AFTER the divorce! NO matter the circ, they will cheat again, and again, and again. Even if there wasn't any s*x, it still hurts like H#LL!!! And I can't get her naked pics OUT of my head! This was last April & I'm just now wondering if he's with me b/c our bodies were similar...puke! I'm hangin by a thread here. I'm still in love...and I've NEVER cheated on him! NOT in any way! Best way to handle it? I told my guy he must let me check his phone, emails, text, etc until I stop finding reasons to check them. Which hasn't happened yet. Why do I stay? 8 kids (3 his-5 r mine), 4 years, we bought a house-new boat-newer car (none of which I can afford on my own), but for the most part...I stay b/c he never had s#x with any of them. If I ever found out he did, it would kill "us"...I'd kick his azz out for sure!

2007-01-26 06:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0 0

well it all depends. Lets say if he has changed to a good person, then he sure does deserve a second change. However, keep this in mind. Some people never changes, they never learn their lessons. So i cannot really say if u should get back with him. Ask your self, and if u think he has changed to a good man, then u should see how thing goes first. But No sleeping with him atleast for quite some time. Dont sell your dignity

2007-01-26 06:22:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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