I have given him a year to do the things I have asked and he still has not changed. He doesn't make any money and this is his 3rd marraige. I think he wasnt a mother instead of a wife.
2007-01-26 06:13:41 · 16 answers · asked by browneyedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ANother detail I left out. He was promising me the moon and stars before we got bmarried. He had all sorts of plans. Yes, I should have seen it, but anyone else that has been married knows how clouded your judgement can be when it is all happenening. When I say no money, I mean no money!!! Not even gas money.
2007-01-26 06:32:20 · update #1
I feel sorry for him being married 3 times and he has no money and no where to go. Not that he will not have me anymore.
2007-01-26 07:39:14 · update #2
There is the key, 'I have given him a year, and he still has not changed'.
No reason for you to feel sorry for him. You acted fair and square. Separate!
2007-01-26 06:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm maybe u should of figured this all out before u took a vow for "good times and bad" "sickness and in health" "RICHER OR FOR POORER " till DEATH do u part" .. sorry but on this one i cant feel sorry for u , if u wanted a change u should of asked for it before u married him, but u married him knowing he was like this , knowing this was his 3rd marriage, knowing about his job situation..and if u knew him well enough prior to marriage u would of known he was looking more for a "mother role" then a "wife role" didnt u ever wonder why 2 x wives????
2007-01-26 06:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you feel sorry for someone who has the opportunity to change but not the desire? Seems like he is exercising his free will and it is time for you to do the same. He will find a 4th wife, she will need to be more gullible that you now are. Your choice is to feel sorry for him now,and then to feel sorry for yourself after wasting your life with him. You can hope that making your move will jolt him into action, but.....it's not likely. Good Luck.
2007-01-26 06:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jim N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you consider marriage a sacred union sanctified by God, or a loving partnership, both partners should carry their own weight. If, your husband doesn't do anything to offset the fact that he doesn't contribute financially, then he's not fulfilling his role in the partnership. Time to move on. You gave him a chance and he didn't come through. Give yourself a chance to find someone willing to pull his own weight.
2007-01-26 06:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by FitinOjai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should feel sorry for him...i'm sorry to say this but he may be wrong for not making any money and being on his 3rd marrage...but you shouldn't have married him if you thought you were going to change him...people only change for themselves...otherwise it is impossible to change! so really, you knew you were getting the beans when you wanted a sofa...you should have just gotten the sofa that you wanted because the beans will not change into a sofa.
2007-01-26 06:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by cantthinkofauseridsohereitis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting someone is hard, but you are going to just continue to be miserable. You need to go ahead and end it as soon as possible... It's not going to change, you will though however, as you continue to be unhappy. Have you tried therapy? If you still want to give it a chance, maybe going to therapy, having a 3rd party helps. He has to see his mistakes in order to change. This very well may just be who he is.
2007-01-26 06:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if you are not happy then move on with your life...would you rather feel sorry for him or sorry for yourself???? You can't change someone and there is a reason that he is going to be a three time loser.....guess he just doesn't get the fact that it takes two to make a marriage....good luck
2007-01-26 06:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get out as soon as you can and let him fend for himself, maybe then he will realize your worthiness. The grass is not greener on the other side, he will realize everything you do for him and maybe he'll change. You can do better by yourself, all woman can.
2007-01-26 06:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by lyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel sorry for him? Harden your heart, and look after yourself. Otherwise, you'll waste your life with this guy out of pity.
2007-01-26 06:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. You feel sorry for him that he wont have you in his life anymore? You must be some prize....gosh some people are so vain and self centered.
2007-01-26 07:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋