They are going to a resort for 15 year. I do not want to go and am going to stay home and take care of our 3 kids. She wanted me to go but I really do not want to and have things going on at work that week. It is only 2 days and 1 night. For years we have both had fantasys about this typ of thing during sex. Now that she is 33 and done having kids she is ready to try. It does turn me on but I am not sure about going though with it. Any advice on this subject?
2007-01-26 06:11:11 · 32 answers · asked by Johnny S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
fantasy is best when it doesn't become a reality
2007-01-26 06:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is going to change each and every thing. it would make your marriage chop up. that's an truly good fantasy yet previous that?.....feels like a can of worms i might want to've left closed. Now that she's opened it, eek! even with in case you stated no, who's to say she'll comply? if you aren't any further there, isn't it adultery? For the first time you want to be there so that's some thing you share as a pair. also, you may have safe practices words which will be stated once you've had sufficient in case you won't be able to cope with it. That way the consultation will end earlier emotions are damage.
2016-12-03 02:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would say go for it, if you do not mind and it turns you on. Tell her she has this permission only this time and to enjoy herself to the fullest, and that you want her to tell you all about it when she gets home. Then when she comes home, get into bed together, have a few candles lit, and have her give you all the details. Let your own fantasies go wild and let her being turned on turn you on. Touch her. And make the most incredible love that you and her have ever made.
But most importantly, you are at a crossroads. If you say no now, this opportunity may not come again. Plus she may feel a little resentment since you were okay with it before and now aren't. But if you say yes, who knows what problems could arise? Make your choice and decide that whatever you choose, you do so with no regrets. Don't second guess your choice.
2007-01-26 09:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts whatsoever, don't let there be an opportunity for that to happen. Matter of fact, it would be best to make arrangements to go with her. She said she wanted you to go. She's telling you an exboyfriend will be there. She asked permission to sleep with him. Uh... go with!! Get some relatives or friends to take care of the kids and go, for the sake of your marriage. Don't "open up" your relationship until you BOTH feel right about it. Also, you might want to talk with her about this in depth. But don't expect her not to sleep with the man when she obviously wants to and you have both considered an "open relationship." If you're not there, chances are she will do it if the opportunity arises, even if she has to lie to you. But know that, from what I've learned about people I've known who have had open relationships, it tends to cause problems and jealousy and distrust. so be prepared for that.
2007-01-26 06:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say no. If you were going, and the old boyfriend had a good looking wife and you guys could arrange a swap, then that would be entirely different. However, some guys who are not jealous, and who trust the wife will be honest, really get off on this kind of thing and it can work for them. However, I think the old boyfriend needs to know what the score is, you don't want him calling her all the time thinking they have a relationship now. Then again, who says the old boyfriend will even be available to the idea or attracted to your wife.
2007-01-26 06:20:11 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, if u let her u mine as well kiss ur marriage, and ur family good bye.. is it worth the risk???? Guess we'll find out if your life is worth risking on a fantasy..
Poor kids, wont know what hit them when their life gets torn apart all because Mommy is using the excuse of wanting to explore a fantasy to cheat on her husband..
Im curious.. how does she know that the x bf will even want to have sex with her, or if he's even single??? I mean almost sounds like she knows for sure this will go down.. which makes me think she's been in contact with him.. which tells me, that ur an idiot if u believe this is going to just stay in "fantasy" world and theres nothing but "sex" going on..
2007-01-26 06:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Glad I read whole thing, shes just upset that u aren't going!
Be a husband and stand up to the plate and go with your wife.
I'm sure u will never understand, but she wants u by your side.
Be happy she's proud of u, work is work it will always be there.
She is trying to get a rise out of you by making these ideas, deep
down she just really wants u to go, maybe this is the boost
u need for your marriage right now? Whats more important?
2007-01-26 06:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks as though you in a real bind......Look my friend , if she is going to cheat she will do it any way........Is there something wrong at home in the first place?? you have to ask your self that ... try to fix that problem, if you can...... but don't you want to watch maybe even some D/P with her and him hay if you don't go you miss the fun...If you think that you like it and can have an open relationship that you will have to try to find out.But on the other hand it could wreck what you do have.or make it better once sharing always sharing........best of luck if I were you I would go!
2007-01-26 06:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by yourmallthat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes fantasys are meant to be left alone and remain nothing but a fantasy...not to mention that you didn't say her old boyfriend felt the same way. Coming from a wife...even though you don't want to go to the reunion...make your wife feel that she's important enough for you to arrange your schedule and go to something that's important to her. While your there, act like the perfect gentleman...that would really mean a lot to her. No one wants to go to a class reunion alone and there's nothing more fun than introducing your spouse that remains very attentive to you the whole evening. It would really make her feel important.
2007-01-26 06:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by little_chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, you told her before it was OK, so you can't blame her for still being interested. But on the other hand, a lot of people have fantasies during intercourse that they don't think about any other time. It's called hormones. I think your problem is that she is the one going to do it and you don't get to. You should have thought about that before you agreed to it. Be careful what you wish for.
2007-01-26 06:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies involving other peolple are best left never being played out. But if you want to, I say go with her to make sure it only happens that one time and who is to say her ex-would even do so anyways because he may be married or not into her anymore. I wouldn't let her to be honest. That is not what marriage is about, especially one invovling children! Don't risk your kids!!!!
2007-01-26 06:20:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋