Ok me and her differ on one something, whose more correct?

Question

Ok I was talking with a girl last night. She has been my friend since forever not gf. The other night I was walking home from work (I always do), I work in the downtown near a university and on my way home two different groups of women avoided me as much as to walk to the other side of a three lane street then back again as soon as they passed me in both cases although I passed both of them separately two blocks from each other. I don't believe that I look that scary and I was wearing good slacks, black boots, a nice shirt, a blue nike hat and some headphones for my mp3. I was watching my feet because it was cold and I was using my shirt to protect my face against the cold. I am 6 ft and rather strongly built which is why they would be afraid. I thought that girls should be able to defend themselves and she says that they shouldn't have to worry about rape. Secondly, I don't ike being treated like a monster because I am built bigger. It is not my fault that I am bigger. Who is righter?

Ok just to clarify. My face was not covered. The collar of my shirt was up and because it was 20 degrees outside I was trying to keep warm in a dress shirt. I do not walk funny. And no, because it is cold outside and a man tries to keep warm, or he looks at the ground out habit when he walks, does not that imply he has mental problems or is a pyscho.

Answer 1

Women have a victim mentality going on.The media portray them as victims and men as aggressors. Other women fill their heads with 'friend of a friend' stories about how men are so aggressive. Many of them really do view every man as a potential rapist or murderer.

These days you hear western women everywhere yelling from the rooftops that they can do anything a man can do and some of them end that statement with better but try getting one of those women to walk to the store at 7pm when it's starting to get dark then its a whole different story.

It's sad and unjustified that many women treat men this way but it's a fact that wont go away as long as they keep believing what they are being spoonfed rather than basing their judgement on their own personal experiences.

It's not true that most women have been attacked by men but it is true that they have felt threatened based on nothing but misguided assumptions and ill reached conclusions.

Just because someone is physically capable of overpowering you, it doesnt mean they will. Just because it happens on TV in soap operas, dramas, movies and even comedies, it doesnt make it real life and just because news programmes choose to report male on female crime because its 'sells', it doesn't mean it happens all the time to every woman or that men enjoy crime free lives!

Youre right to feel uncomfortable by this reaction from women but all I can say is, unless society changes its fantastical views, you're just going to have to get used to it and I'm sorry it's like this for you and every other man who experiences this.

Karma.
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Answer 2

Girls do those things all the time. I'm slightly below average height for a guy and am not very intimidating. Yet, if I'm going on one of my daytime walks in a neighborhood, the woman (or women) will either walk to the other side of the street or onto the street to avoid me as much as possible. It doesn't affect me much now that i'm 22 years old, but when I was 16 or so (a very sensitive teenager) it made me feel very sad - it can be crushing for someone who goes from being a little boy (and being adored by women) to being a "man" and being avoided like the plague because you were born with a penis (and, therefore, a threat) in just a matter of a few years (puberty).

I have a black friend who has it worse... white women make it PAINFULLY obvious that their scared to be near him. It's a form of precaution - although it can hurt and i've actually conducted studies on the psychological affects of men who have been deemed "intimidating" to women.

It's a never ending cycle. Both men and women have psychological problems relating to this issue.

Answer 3

As a woman, I always lean to the "better safe than sorry" argument. I will not get in an elevator with a man if I'm alone and I will cross the street if I feel unsafe. It may not make much sense to you, but I would rather offend you and go on my way, than take a chance at being diplomatic to have you be a psycho and hurt me. Face it we live in a very scary world at times, you can't tell a nice guy from a psycho by looking at him. Ted Bundy was very polite and attractive, but if he got close enough to you, he raped and killed you.

Answer 4

Dont be too defensive about it. Women are always concerned about thier safety, especially at night. It is a general rule to walk on the other side of the street if you feel uncomfortable about a man approaching you. Dont take it personal. Im sure youre anice guy but, you can never tell by what someone is wearing.

Answer 5

Well in this case nobody really has the authority to tell someone else how they should feel. If I saw some guy covering his face and walking in a strange way, I would avoid him too because I would be under the impression that he was schizo.

Answer 6

It isn't your fault that your size may intimidate or frighten a woman who might be walking ALONE. You have to respect the fact that physically she may feel unable to protect herself so she automatically assumes the worse in an attempt to feel safe. However a group of women walking together should feel more secure in numbers. Obviously your not wrong for being a big guy but don't forget how intimidating that might be for a women in certain circumstances. Could a 5ft 105pd women really kick your butt? How intimidating would she be to you?

Answer 7

Both of you are right. It would be nice if women didn't have to worry about being assaulted, but they do. It would be nice if women were confident that they could defend themselves successfully vs. a 6 foot tall, strongly built man, but they aren't.

This is the reality of the situation. You can accept it or not, but that's the way it is at present.

Answer 8

You were at an university right ?
"Each man is a rapist waiting to rape." "All sex is rape" and so on and so on. Women are beein turned paranoid of men in modern colleges and universities. Go to some random place and you will notice that women are not as scared of men as it is the case at colleges or universities.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

The women were just being cautious. You must read alot of stories about women getting attacked in the news right? So don't take it personally. These days you can't be too careful.