How did you know you were ready to have kids?

Question

I have been married for 2.5 years but don't know if I am completely ready. Any insight would be appreciated.

Answer 1

I don't think anyone is ever completely ready. It is a major life change, and those always get people nervous, even if they are something you really want. Heck, I am finally pregnant after 7 years of TTC and I still get a little nervous about whether I am ready! I think if the idea of having a baby is starting to appeal to you, and you are feeling that pull to try to have one, that means you are ready. Many people never really have some big, bold, definitive moment in which it all becomes clear. You just have to go with what your heart is telling you.

Answer 2

I don't think you can ever be truly ready. I think if you're secure in your finances and ready to take on the responsibility then you should be open to the idea.

My hubby and I have also been married for 2.5 years and we aren't on any type of birth control, so if we get pregnant great, if not right now, then that's OK too. We just came to a point where we kept finding reasons to stay on birth control that didn't make much sense. We have a wedding in a few months, we have a rafting trip, we're going to Vegas....etc... We realized if we kept making excuses, we would never have kids!

One of the posters made it sound like, "when you're no longer ready to have fun, then you're ready". That's just idiotic, you can have kids and still have a life, you just have to make sure your priorities are straight.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

I didn't know I was ready and I still don't know, but right now I have no choice! 4 weeks from now I will still be wondering if I am ready! I am glad I am pregnant but I wish I would have finished school and had a career lined up. On the other hand I would like to stay home with my baby and be a good parent. My husband is military and he is gone alot for long periods of time, so I want to be a at home mommy, so our child knows atleast one of his parents. You will go through phases of not knowing what you want. We decided to try then we decided we were going to wait then the next thing we knew we were pregnant. I never wanted kids but after I met my husband and we got married and were married for a year, I couldn't not want to have his babies! You will never know you are ready until the time come then you will be the happiest woman in the world.

Answer 4

i'm a mom of an infant and a infant that do not bypass to college, yet i'm genuinely waiting for different peoples' little ones to bypass lower back to college. even as the little ones are in college the playgrounds and for a lengthy time period the pool are a lot less crowded and safer for my little ones. The shops are a lot less crowded and the community parks and recs commence their instructions for little ones again (they end interior the summer season to manage each and every of the older little ones) The library is way less crowded. each and everything is stunning from 7 am until eventually eventually about 2:30 pm.

Answer 5

How would you feel if you _were_ pregnant? If 'happy' -- go for it.

Re. 'how did you know' -- for me, and a friend of mine, it was a remarkably casual affair.

Husband: I think we should have children.
Wife: Okay.

The friends of mine in question were putting groceries into the car trunk when they had that little back-and-forth.

Having some extra cash is a plus. So is education, a good relationship, and extra time on your hands (or the ability to get some).

About the 'when you're done having fun' -- eh. Just think of it as a different sort of fun.

Answer 6

This question was decided for me when I became pregnant at 28 (1st time) & felt that it was right. I had previously had an abortion at 22. My daughter had her first at 18 intentionally so it's hard to say. I think it's a feeling one has

Answer 7

I think you're ready because you've gotten married, just make sure you have a stable career and a stable family and a stable emotional support system. =) Good luck!

Answer 8

I didn't think I wanted kids at all, but now that my daughter is here, I'm so glad to know her!!!

You can't wait for the 'perfect' time to have a baby... sometimes you just have to give yourself a little nudge!!

Answer 9

when you don't have the desire to go out partying to clubs and that seems shallow to you. when you can realize that the child will be #1 priority and other things like your careers and social life will not take priority.