I keep putting myself down? why do i do this?

Question

I always think so low of myself and keep wondering what people may think and start to worry when someone says the slightest thing! why do i do this? how can i help myself not to??

I seriously don't wan't to be seen as weak and someone people can take advantage of just because i feel like this!

Answer 1

When life get you down, just remember that 90% of guys would do you in a heartbeat.

Answer 2

How you were raised has a lot to do with it. Were you used to negativity or was it a positive affirming envirornment? Were both parents present, both physically and emotionally - i.e. not just watching tv 24/7, but interested in you. My hunch would be you were in a negative envirornment.
You might be continuing a tradition if you put yourself down as others did - and it could be siblings or extended family doing that too. You might be "beating others to the punch" since you are expecting negativity - you supply it if no one else does.
Getting out of it is a process, so relax and don't pressure yourself.
1. Do a journal daily and periodically review it - or do that with a counselor or a very trusted friend. Become aware of both positive and negative patterns in your thinking. Really notice those positive ones; times when you break out and notice you put a postive spin on things. Congratulate yourself for small steps.
2. Find some positive affirming statements and read those to yourself daily. I prefer verses from the Bible that remind me I am deeply loved by God and have worth.
3. Surround yourself with positive people and limit as best you can the time when its a negative envirornment. You may choose to cut off some of those negative relationships.
4. Change your thoughts (this is a spin off of #1). Explore different ways of interpreting the same event. When Einstein failed over 900 times he figured each time it was another way to not make the bulb rather than telling himself "Stupid me".
Be patient!!!

Answer 3

Maybe talk to them, explain how you feel. If they're decent friends, they wouldn't be ignoring you like this, it isn't your fault. Maybe they will see how hurt you are and stop ignoring you. Or it could make them even worse, but that proves that they aren't worth it and they're not decent friends. If you don't feel that you can talk to your friends, talk to someone else, maybe a teacher, a school counsellor, a parent or another trusted adult. A counsellor would be good, because the way you've described that you feel 'no good and ugly and unwanted' and the way you keep putting yourself down sounds like depression. Hope it all works out well though :)

Answer 4

You need to build confidence, make a list of all the good things about you, it will surprise you to see how many things you can do well. . Everyone has some talents and abilities. Remember you are as valuable as the next person. God does not waste time creating mistakes. I would recommend reading "The Purpose Driven Life" By Rick Warren.

Answer 5

For some reason you have a low self esteem. Try building yourself up by being around positive people that make you happy.
Stop worrying about what other people think about you.There opinions do not matter. What matters is that you are happy with you.

Answer 6

You have low self-esteem, you need to find the courage in yourself to express how you feel. You shouldn't care what others think of you nor what they have to say about you. Only thing that matters is do you feel good about yourself? are you happy with your life? and mostly what do you have to live for?

Answer 7

You are doing this because other people are putting you down.


Inside, you are believing their garbage.

But you are a very good and decent person inside.

But the people around you are trying to tell you the opposite.


When they try to pull that, just tell them to f*** o**

Do it, and they will back down|

Then you will get your freedom and dignity back.


You are much stronger and more capable than you think.





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Answer 8

The biggest problem you have is lack of self knowledge.
You don't know who you are. stop worrying what others think, and worry about what you know. You said you don't want to be weak, so focus on that. Learn your own mental strengths, and build on them. When you know who you are, you will not think lowly of yourself, and neither will others, not that what they think matters anyways...