It was no big deal. We both wanted Chinesse Food and she didn't have cash on her, so I bought her's for her, and said you can just pay me back when you have cash. Well today after work I want to drink some beers. I don't want to sound rude to her, but I want to send her a text like, "Chinesse Food for a 6 pack tonight--One for me one for you?!?! Whaddya say!?" ---That doesn't sound rude or demanding does it?!
Let me know if you have any other suggestions?
2007-01-26 05:43:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get over yourself. This week she asked me to replace the .25 cent box of mac and cheese I ate 2 weeks ago, which I did. So 7 bucks, times are hard right now and I want things even, since she wanted her .25 cent box of mac and cheese back....yaaaaaaaaamean?!
2007-01-26 05:50:14 · update #1
Damn, you guys are jerks today. I bought her supper last week too!!!! That came to 15 dollars...but she wants to complain when I ate a .25 cent box of mac and cheese, it was a simple questions. Sheeeesh.
2007-01-26 05:51:40 · update #2
7 Bucks?! You're stressing, thinking, pondering about 7 bucks?! Give it a week. If she doesn't pay up take her to small claims court.
Or get Vinnie to bust her knee caps.
Sounds like she need to take a dirt nap.
2007-01-27 11:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Porksoda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's unfortunate that finances are so ridged between you and your roommate. Such relations can build resentment over time. That said, I do not suggest you text her, the above message as written.
First, no one’s behavior should define who you are. If your roommate is behaving petty over .25 cents, use the situation for enlightenment, not as justification to succumb to her level. Choose to let your behavior define the relationship as you see fit.
Secondly, be honest with yourself and true with your word. Your text does not communicate rudeness; but it does appear manipulating...and rightfully so, because you have a hidden agenda to secure your money.
This type of manipulation is not of a malicious nature and is most commonly employed when people feel ashamed, fearful or unworthy of fulfilling their needs in a direct manner.
To affirm...you deserve to have your roommate repay you in a timely manner. And if she doesn’t, you have the right to remind her of her responsibility to do so. Moreover, if she fails to pay you all together, you are justified in voicing your disapproval with her and can refuse to lend her money in the future.
What do you really want? Either text her a reminder of the $7...Period. Or inquire about her plans for the evening, simply because you enjoy her company. Regardless of the etiology, people can sense subtle unauthenticities when you mix intentions and they respond accordingly to feeling manipulated.
We all want things even; however, we can not control the world--but we can control ourselves. I find that when I stop trying to govern others they strangely govern themselves.
Try to let go of the roommate’s debt (at least for now) and give it back to her. Once it is where it belongs...I'm sure she'll do the right thing with it. Give her a chance. My very best to you...
2007-01-26 14:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by LUCKY3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're right! Not only because she demanded the .25 cents back but because you work hard for your money why should you support her too?
My bf and I live together and we are in our 40's. I have an 8 yr old boy [mine] and we do the same. Unless we state "You do not need to pay me back for this" we pay each other back. Usually I'm the one paying back LOL> He makes twice as much as me but our bills are still 50/50. So sometimes I have to borrow for him for my son. I'd have her pay it back, why not? If she does it to you then damn sure you can do it back. I think I understand what you're saying because I live the same type of problem. That doesn't make much sense. LOL Good luck to you!
2007-01-26 14:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Chinesse Food for a 6 pack tonight--One for me one for you?!?! Whaddya say!?"
I do not think that is a rude text message, If I was your friend, I would be happy you sent that to me. And delighted to have a fun chance to repay you.
Yes $7.00 is not a big deal, but I have always repaid my friends...My friends are the ones that never repay me...not even with friendship.
2007-01-26 14:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound rude, but personally, IF I were worried about a 7 dollar meal, I would let her pick the time to pay me back.
You could always suggest getting a 6 pack after work and see if she pays....if not, then either she can't pay you back at the moment, or she is not going to pay. Either way...I would be prepared to get my own....just in case. Good luck and don't sweat the small stuff!!!
2007-01-26 13:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by bryan c 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't stress over the 7 bucks but it wouldn't be rude to let her know you would like to have some beer and ask her to pick it up on her way home. I am sure she is aware that you bought the dinner and it doesn't need to be thrown in her face as a debt she owes you for.
2007-01-26 13:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her in a polite way for your money if it is a case wher u really need it riTe now and ur not trying to get bak at her for the 25cents. But if u can wait until she gives it back, do so since i kinda figure that she knows that she owes u a huge grand total of...(Drum roll please!!!)....SEVEN DOLLARS!!!
2007-01-26 14:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Bloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my son that if you "loan" a friend money, don't ever expect to get it back and to consider it a gift. And if money is so tight right now, why are you going to buy beer? That stuff is expensive. Water is free.
2007-01-26 14:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I feel you, yes send her a text or a friendly note. I assume you are in school because I was like that in school, it would drive me mad when people would forget to pay me back. And the problem is that it will become a habit on her part and she'll just stop paying you back altogther. And she AGREED to pay you back, it wasn't like you said dinner is my treat. $7, $2 whatever it was YOUR money!!
2007-01-26 14:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by JT 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's 7 bucks, get over yourself
2007-01-26 13:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by jesse b 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋