Neither my girlfriend or myself has ever been with a man. Im more feminine and she's a tomboy. We dont use toys bcuz im not really into them. BUT recently she xpressed interest in using a toy on her because she wants to have her hymen broke, but of course she is disgusted with the idea of having sex. I dont really understand why she wants this though! I mean to each her own, but im fine with mine stayin exactly where it is! And she's a tom boy! Arent they supposed to not want anything goin up there??
2007-01-26 05:39:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When i say shes disgusted with the idea of having sex, i mean with a man.
2007-01-26 05:40:49 · update #1
Don't judge your friend but leave her to do whatever she wants. It is natural to experiment while you are young (and also when you are older).
2007-01-26 05:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You answered your own question with your additional comment on how she is disgusted with the idea of having sex with a man. That's the reason why she has expressed interest in using toys. And yes, to each her own but as her partner/girlfriend, it is on you to be able to pleasure her and make her feel good. If she wants to try a toy, then you can use a toy on her. Its still a give an take relationship you know...whether it be between a girl/girl, boy/boy, or boy/girl.
2007-01-27 03:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by kristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no normal and not normal when it comes to a person's preferences about her own body. Have you asked your friend why she wants her hymen broken? I can tell you that it hurts worse than anything I've ever felt and I'm glad it could only be broken once. But perhaps that's why she wants it broken. So she won't have to worry about it anymore.
Just because a girl is a tomboy doesn't mean that she doesn't want to feel the pleasure that having something in that area can bring. However, no matter what anyone says, you'll never really know the answer until you ask her :)
2007-01-26 13:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Avie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im sure you and her will grow out of not using toys..... if you have never had sex with a guy or used toys you are still a virgin and that is probably why you dont like the idea I suggest you do it..... you dont know what your missing out on until you try...... i have alot of gay friends, and they couldnt imagine doing it without ALL THE TIME
I dont want to pressure you. Do it when you feel the time is right it will come sooner or later. Im sure your not going to be a virgin for the rest of your life.....unless your tryig to be a nun lol which i doubt they would allow it
2007-01-26 13:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Motivation.Inspiration 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal for her to want that, I wouldn't worry about a thing. I am fem, and I want my hymen broke, I have never been with a man, but I just haven't gotten to that point yet, my girlfriend is the tomboy, and she's been with a man, and she wants me to use toys, don't worry too much about it, lesbians are allowed using toys, it's really not un-normal :)
Good luck, and if you ever want to talk, you can always email me on dixiexccoach05@aol.com :)
2007-01-26 14:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she's a tomboy has nothing to do with her sexual preferences. And as for wanting to experience new physical sensations, I don't htink that's odd at all. It's NOT gay for a straight man to want to experiment with anal sex with his girlfriend / wife. It's physical stimulation. The gender of the person you're with has not changed.
2007-01-26 18:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by Atropis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toys can be fun used in the right combination with *ahem other things...and you never know if you like it till you try it...so experiment away. It's normal if someone wants to know what penetration feels like....even if they aren't interested in sex with a man...
2007-01-26 15:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual desire is a complicated business. If she is asking you to be involved I wouldn't worry about it. Some women can't orgasm externally so maybe she just wants to experiment with what feels best. However, if using toys makes you uncomfortable then you should discuss it with her and find something you can do that satifies you both.
2007-01-26 13:47:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dani 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you're having sex with each other, i'm hoping you're both at least 16. if that's the case you've both probably broken it already. participating in sports, tampons, even a car wreck can all break it. as far as penetration, the vag is built a certain way. to enjoy penetration is natural and healthy. usually to not enjoy it is a mental or emotional issue.
2007-01-26 14:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pain and intense experiences go right along with being a tomboy. I'm not really all that surprised.
2007-01-27 02:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with men. Women are supposed to like sex whether they are lesbian or not. Putting things "up there" is normal no matter what you are. But as lesbians it is that you just don't want "men things" up there. Try it. You might like it.
2007-01-26 13:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋