I work fulltime/5 days a week. By the time I get home its about 5 and my boyfriend has to be at work by 6:30. We don't see eachother that much and I have our children everyday. We only have one vehicle and he takes it to work during the nights, which leaves us stuck at home most times.....
He took off 1 day to spend time with us...except we get home, have dinner and then he leaves for 3 hours, when he gets home, I am already putting the kids to bed and then I have to go to bed soon to get up for work the next day.
Is it wrong for me to be mad about it? If I took off a day of work and didn't spend some of it with him, he would flip out. Should I apologize or wait for him to realize what a stupid thing he did, and apologize to me?
2007-01-26 05:27:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey, firstly, you are doing a good job at raising your kids and working full time too - and staying married. Other people would have took the easy way out and divorced, or had an affair.
You go ahead and show us all how you can keep it all together - your children and husband are lucky to have you. Good Job! God Bless
So, here goes ----- yes you should be mad at him, but dont yell yet - if you are having trouble pinning him down to talk - write a short note that you guys need to talk SOON, and let him know the place and time and let him RSVP you....
Talk to him about how you feel and your kids - help him see how this is affecting your relationship with him and his relationship with the kids. Be concerned about him also - maybe something is bothering him and he is frustrated.
something in this life of yours has to give and change honey - please
2007-01-26 05:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Trini Trixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you spend weekends together? during the week when both of you work yes it is hard to spend time together, you say he took time off to spend with the family, yet you worked that day, why dont you take a day off together? if he works evenings he prolly dosnt see his friends much, so maybe the fact that he had spent the day with the kids made him feel he could have some time to himself in the evening, and to be honest 3 hrs is not a great deal in the grand scheme of things!! you both still need to have your own friends and interests else where is your individuality gone?
why not make a special effort to have some time together just the 2 of you too? get a sitter in for an evening and go out for a meal, the pictures, a walk whatever, just have a few hours where it is just the 2 of you and try and rekindle that fun that you had before you became a hardworking couple with the added pressures of kids and house and bills etc?? we all need it once in a while.....
but cut the guy some slack, tell him it has upset you and explain why, but also listen to how he felt, then try to compromise on the time you can spend with your family as a whole and as a couple on your own, plus time for friends etc... we all need a bit of fun to get away from the everyday pressures of work and family life
2007-01-26 05:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by merrpet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your husband may have acted unwusely means you have to follow suit. It seen you both love and care about each other and the family as a whole and thats good. In this case my dear, you should just lead by example and show him what a considerate person would have done. I believe this method will work best and not stir up any conflict in the household or cause resentment.
2007-01-26 05:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Briand K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to be angry, time together seems to be short also, ask yourself if you want to drag this out and be angry all the time...he was wrong or he lied about wanting to take a day and spend it with you and the kids...either way he was wrong...when my guy and I have a disagreement and I know I am right but also know he would never admit to being wrong...I act the same as usual as far as make the coffee, get him a cup, treat him normal like nothing was ever said, it doesn't take him long before he puts his arms around me and says this is why he loves me...for not forcing him to admit when he was wrong, and he apologises...if you know your guy you'll know how to deal with him...remember kill them with kindess
2007-01-26 05:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god, give the guy a break. he gets one day off and you jump down his throat cos he goes out for 3 hours. I have a family and kids and everyone needs some time to themself now and again. You're being over the top! Probably not the answer you want but there you go.
2007-01-26 05:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is definitely nothing wrong with you being mad, unless he was visiting his sick aunt or something he should have been home with you and your children, there was no reason for him not to stay and have a family game night or something. I think you should wait for him to apologize, cuz what he did was stupid and very inconsiderate!!
2007-01-26 05:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by Amy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋