Just wondering if doubt is a recipe for disater or a normal part of the process.
2007-01-26 05:10:45 · 26 answers · asked by Myself 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait until you feel more comfortable. Marriage is a life lonbg committment
2007-01-26 05:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had doubts - it took me 20 years to get divorced!
My marriage was never great, I tried! My life was not bad though: I got 2 beautiful kids, and I am starting over.
Sometimes we have to chose a certain path just because otherwise, we will always wonder the 'what if'...a good friend of mine told me once: there are no wrong decisions, decisions are just the path you chose, and you have to deal with the consequences!
Remember, we can't go back to change things, so, weigh your options...what doubts do you have? Are they doubts that will be mostly influenced by life itself (meaning, they might be the same doubts with another partner), or is it this particular person?
Have they lied to you? They will probably do it again. Are you wondering if you could do 'better'? Think it it is better to wait or take the chance right now 'cause this is good...you will have to work on your marriage each day, life is unpredictable!!!
Good luck!
2007-01-26 05:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by avechm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how prone you are to doubts in general. I think, it would probably be abnormal to go through life and to never ever doubt the choices you make. But you need to learn to interpret your doubts, and learn to distinguish between the normal decision-making process and the situation where something IS seriously wrong. There's nothing wrong with questioning your choice, especially when it concerns something as life-altering as the choice of a life partner. Evaluate the situation as realistically as you can, take your time; if you feel that there's something that just doesn't feel right to you, there's nothing wrong with reconsidering. Just keep in mind that too much doubt creates dysfunction - I mean, if you're looking for a written-in-stone guarantee, you will never find it, and will always be doubting yourself; this is no way to live.
2007-01-26 05:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the doubts and what they are. If you are concerned about how much money your partner brings in--than can be resolved and it's a superficial doubt, materialistic doubt. If you are concerned about the type of parent your partner might be, that can be discussed.
If you expect that your partner will do this or that, the way you expect--that's an unfair doubt.
But ifyou can see yourself 20+yrs in the future with this person but you just don't know exactly where your marriage will go and progress, that's normal. We can't predict the future.
If your doubts, however, are about how much you really love your partner and you aren't sure you really want to be committed to them long-term, then you certainly need to take a step back and re-evaluate your relationship and the direction its going.
2007-01-26 05:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts now they will come to haunt you down the road. You need to step back, take a good hard look at what your doing and where this relationship is heading. If what has happened less important than what could be and it's to the good then give it a try, everyone makes mistakes in their life, but some are repeat offenders and that is not a good sign.
2007-01-26 05:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funds is a fleeting subject right here at the instant and long previous the next day so in case you attempt to construct a relationship with the money and that's long previous so is going the relationship. Love is perpetually and once you get married that love by using God turns the two considered one of you into one and you take care of one yet another comparable to you may take care of your self . Love is th only subject it is perpetually so I say circulate with Love . i be attentive to it works becasue my spouse and that i've got been married for 40 two years now and it unquestionably has no longer been the money that saved her around , via fact I served 13 years as a Marine and 23 years as a instructor/coach . No earnings the two one yet we are nonetheless together
2016-09-28 00:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by emilios 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to examine your doubts and figure out when they surfaced. You asked to get married, did you have doubts then?
Freezing a little before the alter is a normal response, its called cold feet.
If you have serious doubts, you do need to confide in someone you really trust. Then you will need to discuss these issues with your fiance.
Good luck.
2007-01-26 05:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kinds of doubts.. if your doubting ur partner based on past occurances.. then u have a right to doubt.. if ur generalizing and just doubting out of fear of the unknown, then that could just be a case of cold feet.. which is normal.. so u have to decide if ur doubt is real, or just fear.. if theres real cause for doubt then yes back out..
2007-01-26 06:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doubts with supporting evidence is bad. just nervous doubts are not bad. every couples worries about if they are making the right choice before they get married cuz ppl put so much pressure on getting married and staying happy. if uve been with the person forever there really isnt no difference other than living together, sharing responsibilities, money, kids, and having rings on ur fingers.
2007-01-26 05:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
too much doubt could be trouble, but there will always be things to ponder and wonder about, little quirks and things that happen between two people who are in love. Have a nice long engagement at least 6months to a year, maybe live with them, and then assess your feelings after that
2007-01-26 05:24:03 · answer #10 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT get married if you have doubts or your partner or you have cheated .If you are not Truly in love with this person and don`t trust them completely ,Don`t do it !!!!!
I should have listened to my own advice before I did .My marriage ended in divorce after 23 years and 10 of them were pure hell .
Think with your head and not your hormones .
2007-01-26 05:23:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋