Why dont parents trust their kids?

Answer 1

My parents trust my older brother and I. we go on trips all the time, the mountians, the beach, 4-H congress, just any where we want to go.

Answer 2

It all depends on if their kid has broken their trust (for the most part). If trust is not the issue then it depends how vulnerable they believe their kid are in certain situations and believe they can't handle it correctly. Most parents are just too controlling and don't really know a lot about their kids or what they are capable of doing on their own.
My kids are teens and there are no set rules, they are free to make their own decisions, to a point. If at any time trust has been broken or they are heading in a dangerous direction that may cause them unnecessary harm, I will intervene. They know that their whereabouts and what they claim they are doing is a must and they know that if they are caught in a lie, rules and consequences will apply.

Answer 3

If you don’t trust them, then don’t let your daughter sleep over. However, since you don’t know the friend’s parents well, your lack of trust may not be justified. The solution? Get to know them. Schedule a joint outing to a public place like a zoo or a museum. Spend the day with the family, have lunch with them, talk to them. Until you spend time with someone, you cannot say you know her. In the investment world, such research is called “due diligence.” Investors find out what they need to know before doing the deal. It’s time for you to do your own due diligence. And as a final thought, you might want to perform some of that research while looking in the mirror. If you have never allowed your daughter to stay overnight at a friend’s house but have no problem with hosting those friends, perhaps the problem lies with you. You need not rush out and trust everyone you meet. But neither is everyone a threat. With many things, including children, holding on more tightly can increase the risk that they will slip away from you at a later date. Are you overly suspicious? Have you given the parents of your daughter’s other friends a fair shake? They may not have pressed you on sleepovers, but they have probably noticed the one-sidedness of this relationship. Before you conclude that no home is safe enough to allow your baby to sleep over, you should at least consider whether you have become overprotective.

Answer 4

Because children by nature will push to see just how much they can get away with.

A child must be taught & learn to be responsible before they can earn trust & many parents do very little to teach children responsibility, and enable their children to make proper choices. Then when they make a wrong choice the parents feel it is the child’s entire fault & deems them untrustworthy. More parents should discipline (not beat) their children consistently from a very young age at what is okay & not okay...I hear parents say "Well that's okay they didn't know better." Well they didn't know better because no one taught them any better. Trust is something you earn, it is not something you can demand or deserve for no reason. Trust, responsibility, discipline, education, consistency all go hand in hand. If your kids do wrong as adults you can’t clean up after them anymore they made their choice. But they make their choices based on what they learn as children. Today it could be something as seemingly trivial as cheating at a board game but tomorrow it is plagiarizing/copying a college paper.

Answer 5

I'm assuming you're one of those kids whose parents don't trust!? Parents start out trusting their kids, but more often than not, they get burned -- especially by their teens. Parents are also aware of the temptations out there for teens, and it's their job to step between the child and the temptation as much as possible. Much of it boils down to the fact that a teenager's brain is not yet fully developed (although he or she will tell you that they're all "grown up") or mature enough to be able to rationalize efficiently enough to always make the right decisions. If you want to try to establish trust, be open and honest with your parents. Talk to them, learn what's expected. Participate in drawing up a clear contract -- one that specifically spells out what is expected of you and the consequences for not living up to your end. You need to work hard to earn this trust. Good luck...

Answer 6

It could be alot of things. Some parents may have reason not to trust their child. Previous things that have happened could impair trust between a parent and child. It could also be that the parent doesn't trust themself in the way they raised the child. If a parent has confidence in how they raised their child, the only time trust would be an issue would be if the child betrayed that trust.

Answer 7

SOME parents don't trust their TEENAGERS because SOME teenagers have proven that they're not responsible enough to be trusted. I have proven to my parents that I am mature and responsible enough to be trusted...they trust me and let me do things with my friends without having them breathing down my back.

Some teenagers, however, are irresponsible. AKA they do drugs, have sex, smoke cigarettes, etc. Those are the types of kids who are always being watched and not being trusted by their parents. If you feel like you're being spied upon and your parents trust you...sit them down. Ask why they're always watching what you do. Listen to them. Talk. Prove that you're responsible. Then they'll slowly trust you with more things.

Basically, parents want the best for their kids. They don't want their kids to get pregnant and be emotionally scarred at a young age. They don't want their kids to get raped. They don't want their kids to do damage to their bodies through self-harm or through drugs. etc. They care. That's why.

Answer 8

Adults did not get zapped onto the earth fully grown and wired to mistrust children. They were children once themselves and if doing their job, raise their children based on experience and EARNED trust not BLIND trust. Every adult was a child once and has every right to raise their children in a way that steers them clear of some of the same needless, painful, possibly deadly mistakes they made. Children from babies to teenagers make plenty of those on your own and do not need to repeat the ones parents know by experience that you may be headed for.

Answer 9

If kids have given the parents reason not to trust, why should they. Trust is EARNED. It isn't a right.

Answer 10

Well usually when parents don't trust their children; their children have done something to lose their trust! Sometimes its because their parents did things when they were a child and they just don't want there children to make those same mistakes.

Answer 11

I trust mine completely. They are 16 and 19 now and I have always trusted them. I brought up two intelligent and sensible young women. I didn't place any restrictions on their activities without a very good reason. They have never lied to me about what they were doing or where they were going because they have never had to and if they prefer not to tell me I respect their privacy. I'm glad I brought them up this way because now they are both studying away from home and I don't have to worry about what they might be up to because I know they're not doing anything stupid.