After a few years of nuturing, do parents take children as an obligation rather than their preferance...to take care off,to love?
2007-01-26 04:57:05 · 10 answers · asked by Shell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think sometimes it feels that way, you just get so caught up and they are not exactly charming when they are teenagers...then you feel soooooo guilty if you even think what your life might have been like...I am over now, they are both in their twenties, are actling like human beings again. I am happy to report that I am sane agian!!!!
2007-01-26 05:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What obligations you talking about? They don't play around with you anymore? They don't pamper you anymore? Why do you expect them to treat you as the same 2 year old kid.
Parents do the best they can for their kids. As they grow up they allow them some space. They allow their kids to carry some tasks on their own, to make some decisions on their own. Does that mean that their love is act of an obligation now?
There's a lot of difference between a 2 years old, a ten years old and a 15 years old. Tell me if you are given a raw human being how would you make sure that his future is secure? By assuring that he becomes wise enough to make his decisions on his own.
A person learns to be self dependent only by tasting the falovrs of life all by itself. Nobody is capable enoughto create the best human being in the world. Yet your parents want you to be the best. They do whatever they think is the best for you. Although they allow you to make your own decisions, they keep an eye on you, in case you land up in any trouble. That is the reason why they restrict you for some things at times. This doesn't mean that all their feelings have become obligatory.
Look into their heart. You will always find love for you. Children may disappoint their parents, they may dismay them, they may be rude to them... But parents. Even after bearing all such stuff would be parents. They see you trip and their heart would pound. So how does it matter whther they show reaction to it or not. What matters is that they still love you....
:-)
2007-01-26 14:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by plato's ghost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My truth for me is... I got married unexpectedly (I was married at the time) so I wasn't actively seeking to have a child. And I was divorced from her Father a month prior to her birth - and have raised her on my own physically and financially ever since - he's no where around. However, she is the biggest blessing I have ever received in life. Having her made me refocus my life and my priorities. I love being her mother, and I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world - I felt that way at her birth, and I still feel that way 11 years later. Although parenting can at times be difficult - for lots of reasons - I never consider her an obligation - I care for her and go through the difficult times willingly because I love her and I can't imagine not caring for her. I do realize that all parents don't feel this way, and I feel sorry for them - because parenting can be one of the most amazing journey's in life!
2007-01-26 13:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nurturing of children will never be obligation to any sensible parents.In fact they derive maximum saisfaction by way of nurturing them only.But in fact as in modern times,the children feel and prove that the taking care and loving thier beloved parents are obligation and burden...so the statistics speaks on boom in Home for Elderly people in India...But pl remember it will be the similar treatment for U also when U grow old ...History repeats itself...it is proven fact..So pl show some concern and love for your parents who gave U the better life and prosperity.
2007-01-26 13:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter, although I have never looked after her as she was given to my girlfriends father and step mother shortly after birth against my will. However, it does depend on whether you wanted the child in the first place in my opinion. I didn't and I personally feel that if I did still have her I would see it as more of a burden than anything else.
2007-01-26 13:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by WerX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think they believe its an obligation to love and care for us but after nurturing us they become attached to u and so its normal for them to carry on with their duties which they had started from our births. But not all parents are this way some just try to love us cause they dont want people to talk bad about them.
2007-01-26 13:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if the parents wanted the child in the first place. u either love ur kids or u dont and sometimes because of gulit or a bad decision or the because of the person u have the child with some parents look at their kids as a burden.
2007-01-26 13:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a privilege an obligation and a great joy...that's what having children is
2007-01-26 13:06:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all in India. It depends on Culture
2007-01-27 11:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by RAJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a chld is a gift from god and no parent will ever think so!
2007-01-26 13:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by bhatrax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋