I am 19 and my boyfriend is 24 he is a college graduate and is about to get a masters degree, i dropped out of college and i am at a ballet conservatory, i am following my dreams to do what i have always wanted to do, dance. however our relation ship has been a problem for a while. we love eachother so much and when we are together we have good times. but because of my school and our schedules we cannot see eachother, sometimes for 2 weeks at a time, and when i leave my school i will be dancing and the same thing is going to happen but he can not handle this and wants me to give up dance, to be with him, i would love to do it but i will not be happy with my own life. i dont know what to do.....
2007-01-26 04:56:30 · 10 answers · asked by Dancer in the Dark 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't take this oppertunity now it may never come again. If your love is strong and right it will survive this seperation. With cell phones and computers you can see and talk to each other daily. Don't ruin your career and his by giving it all up for love, you can have both, one just a little later than the other. You need to compromise with him, but not at the expense of your own needs and wants, do so by dancing for a set number of years and then getting together, you could always open your own studio for young beginners later on. After he gets his job established and knows the direction his future is taking then you will have something permanent to work with, now is not the time to give it all up. Please do this for you, your future, and both your happiness 5,10, 20 years down the road so there won't be any regrets as to "IF".
2007-01-26 05:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You DO know what to do! Read your question as if it was someone else's life. You pose a very clear question, explain the circumstances very well and answer the question in the second to last line. You do know what to do, you just don't like the truth of the answer.
Please, please don't give up dancing. It makes you happy and you must be good at it because not everyone gets admitted to dance conservatories, no matter how much they love the dance. And now, I have to say the obvious, something I'm sure many of the other answers will say also.
Drumroll, please.
If he really loves you and wants you to not just "be" happy but know happiness right down to your toe shoes.....he wouldn't ask you to give up something that you love, that you're good at, that makes you happy and you work at every day with passion.
You say that when you are together, you have "good times". Even as I read it, I kind of cringed. Good times are not enough to give up your life passion, future career and your gift from the powers that be. (I don't know how you feel about God, so I avoided using the word but it looks and sounds silly.)
You have a gift that I would give almost anything to have. Don't waste it because of a guy. If he really loved you, he would never even dream of asking you to give it up. He would find a way to support you in following your dream or change his life to fit yours.
Be happy. Follow your feet. Odds are, you'll dance yourself into someone who really loves you and supports you in your passion. Break a leg, kiddo.
2007-01-26 13:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dance, dance, dance. I wish I could go back in time I would stay in dance. I left the one thing I really enjoyed doing and I didnt even put up a fight. Now its to late for me, it made me whole. If this is how danceing makes your feel, someone who loves you will love what makes you happy. If they dont there only concerned with themselves and will always be. Try talking to him but dont give up you.
2007-01-26 13:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hardly a life or death situation. That would be fighting cancer or something like that not OMG - my BF does not want me to dance. Please.
If you do not have a relationship where both of you can grow and do you own thing what is the point. Do not make these kind of sacrafices for relationhships.
2007-01-26 13:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not going to marry you then why should you give up something you love to do. He completed what he wanted to do with his life. I think it is selfish of him to want you to quit dancing. Girl, I think it will end soon because he wants you to be with him right now. Determine how long it will be before you complete dance school? Then try to compromise such as when you have to go out of town etc. If he is not willing to compromise then cut your losses and move on.Sorry!
2007-01-26 13:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he wouldn't ask you to give up your dream and would find a way to make it work. Follow your dream and then in time you will find someone who will support you 100%.
2007-01-26 13:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Mandela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make the descion that makes you happy. Sounds selfish, but now is the time to be selfish. Don't wait until you are married him and given birth to his children. You are care free and unmarried right now. Think about what you want and do it.
2007-01-26 13:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue with your life and follow your dream, if he is un-willing to except that and be with you, then I'd say find a new boyfreind, one with the same kind of dream...
2007-01-26 13:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and DON'T stay in school it counts more in life than a man ever will!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-30 05:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by GEN-GEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋