I had a wonderfull shower with my first son, and i would like one with my second child now. Not really to get gifts but to make it fair. I have all these great pics and storys with my first one and i want my second child to have the same things. Do i plan it myself? No one eles has mentioned it. But i feel rude inviting people to my own baby shower. And who all do you invite? At my 1st my family invited alot of people and family that i barley ever see, is that normal. I dont have much friends or close family. Should i send out invitations that say dont bring gifts. I just want the pics and storys and something to put in the baby book. Did you have a shower for each child? Whats normal?
2007-01-26 04:55:08 · 34 answers · asked by coliepollie22 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I am in the same situation so I'm glad you asked. With my daughter 2 years ago, it seemed people were ready to give me a shower the moment I announced the pregnancy. And now I am 32wks with baby #2 and no one has said a word about a shower. And like you, I wonder if it's weird or rude to plan my own or not. I think each baby deserves one. There's still a lot of things a baby needs, whether you've had one before or not. I'm interested in reading what everyone else thinks.
2007-01-26 05:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by missionhtg 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am having one for my second child, but only because I didn't have one with my first....and my mom just wanted to give me one. I don't see anything wrong with it, but I know some people do. What about just having a get together and still playing some of the games? State in the invites gifts are NOT needed. Also, a lot of people have a "Welcome Baby" party after the baby is born, so that would be neat too....plus then each baby had a seperate "special" day that were different. Good Luck either way! I would invite close friends and family is all.
2007-01-26 05:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should have a baby shower for your second baby, its a different baby, deserves just the same. So many people believe that only the first child gets a baby shower, but why not the second, yes you may have everything but the child still needs diapers, wipes, clothes, bath products. Tell your mother you really want a baby shower, and plan it together. If you don't want gifts, write on it gift not necessary. My aunt had 4 kids, and we had a baby shower for each, they all deserve this. Plus what are you going to tell your child when she/he sees all the baby shower pics to your first child? "Oh nobody felt you were that special" whether its first baby or 4th baby, they are all just as special. Don't feel bad for wanting a shower, just help plan it, get involved, it doesn't always have to be a surprise. I helped out with my baby shower, and it was my first.
2007-01-26 05:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rather than a "shower" wait until the baby is born and have a brunch a few weeks after the baby is born. That way you can include your husband and all of your couple friends. I've seen this done and not everyone brings a gift, which is fine, but those who do usually bring an outfit or small toy.
I had a shower when pregnant with my son, but not my daughter, but I told people who offered to throw me a shower that I would prefer not to have one the second time. We're a lot better off financially than most of our friends, so I didn't want to put them in a situation where they felt they had to get us something.
2007-01-26 05:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think thats wrong at all! In my family it doesn't matter if you have 15 kids we always have a baby shower! I have a big family but we're not all that close but anytime there's a baby shower they all show up! And if you don't want to be the one throwing it talk to your mom or a sister or someone your close to and tell them how your feeling I'm sure they'd love to help! Also I've been noticing a lot of people having coed baby showers! My one friend just did a bbq at they park and invited everyone!
2007-01-26 05:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by only1opal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have heard people say that youre only supposed to have a baby shower for your first child unless your kids are more than 7 years apart but i think thats crap, if you want a baby shower i dont see anything wrong with planning a get together for your friends and family to celebrate your pregnancy and new baby to come, and maybe put something on the invite about "only your presence is required" or something like that to let people know they dont have to bring gifts some probably will but oh well, i think every baby should have a party to welcome them into the world, whats wrong with that? good luck and i hope you decide to have one and have a great time.
2007-01-26 05:04:05 · answer #6 · answered by domsmom701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with it you will still need things that you do not have have and I agree the second child should feel just as special as the first. A complaint that I have been hearing about more lately is, "I went to the shower, but I have yet to see the baby." Remember to invite everyone over for a baby welcome party within six months of the delivery so everyone who showered you with gifts can see the child that they helped you out with.
2007-01-26 05:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by greid13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with having a "party," "get-together" or "celebration" but I think it's tacky to have a shower with gifts. Your family and friends should only be expected to bring gifts to one shower. And even if you had a shower and told them not to bring gifts, the would still feel obligated to bring something. Now, I think it's different if you live in a new town or invite an entirely different group of people or if someone, without your prompting, offered to throw you a shower...then I could see it as being okay.
Also...do you really think your kids will care one day who had a shower and who didn't? I have no idea if my mom did for me (the 3rd child) or not...nor do I really care. It never really occured to me to even ask.
2007-01-26 05:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a shower thrown for me with #1 and #2...but not #3 (my only boy). Showers have to be thrown for you by someone else...but when they aren't - you wait until the baby is born and host a "meet the baby" party. This is what we did for #3 and everyone was thrilled to come play "pass the baby" and we got some small gifts we needed like diapers and all. You still get tons of great pics and a story for the baby book.
2007-01-26 05:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by bgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only had a shower for my first child. But if you want to have one to celebrate before the baby is born have a welcome baby party and put on the invitation let your presence be your gift, or a have a second time around shower and have people bring a hand me down gift just for fun.
2007-01-26 05:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send out invites to people you want there and call it a celebration of the new baby. Have a lunch or brunch. Put on the invites that it is a gathering to welcome the new baby before it arrives and to welcome your son into big botherhood. Put that gifts are not nessary.
I was against the idea of a baby shower for a second child, because I pretty much have everything I need, but my family did one anyway, so I don't really know how to help.
2007-01-26 05:03:12 · answer #11 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋