My gf had a nice hairstyle and makeup when I met her. When I told her I like it she grew her hair and stopped wearing makeup. She told me I only liked her makeup and didnt like her natural face. She told me she doesnt mind if other guys like her look but has issues if I do because she feels insecure. As soon as I left she sends me photos looking very sexy with nice hairstyle and very heavy makeup. I cant help to like her look and get turned on but feel sick because she couldnt do this for me. What should I do?
2007-01-26 04:43:46 · 23 answers · asked by Shironeko 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Makeup
You should tell her that her look is not the only thing you care about her. Tell her that you are totally love in her personality, and her look is only a physical appreciation of her. Tell her that more important thing to you is the fact that you love her, no matter how she looks(even though you care about her look,) and whether she puts her make up or not you'll see her as the same person. Remember, show her that you appreciate inside of her as well, not only her looking.
2007-01-26 04:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's got some serious issues with her self confidence. Most people do at some point in their lives, but when people turn their issues into an excuse for intense game playing, like it seems she's doing, it just isn't a good situation to stay in. Messes up everyone in the mix. Move on and find someone you're more suited to, but if you can find a nice way to let her know what damaged your relationship, it might help her. You stated your feelings well in your question on this page, so it shouldn't be too difficult for you to express the same thing to this girl. Good luck!
2007-01-27 03:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by moosviews4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She feels comfortable around you, and doesn't see the need to get all sexy and all up in makeup just to impress you. A lot of women get comforatable in the relationship and don't do this daily thing because they know that you love them for who they are either way! Maybe you should tell her you miss her in makeup and looking sexy once in a while. But you also have to tell her she is beautiful without it also.
2007-01-26 04:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tommy's_Sweet_Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may feel like she has to reassure herself of your love for her. She probably thinks if she looks unkempt and you still love her, then you always will love her. Or she may feel comfortable around you and not feel the need to dress up as much anymore.
My advice: if and when she does decide to look sexy & pretty compliment her. you look so hott etc. But dont over do it because she may think that you are only think that when she is made up.
The second step is to tell her how beautiful she is when she is NOT made up. That way she knows you love her both ways.
Your girlfriend sounds extremely insecure. So you need to be very careful around her. She probably needs constant reaasurance so even if you are frustrated keep telling her she's beautiful and you love her the way she is whether she's made up or not. Goodluck! she sounds like quite a handful.
2007-01-26 04:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by Love <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know how some people have feet fetishes or whatever.....just tell her that you love how she looks either way. Which I'm sure you do....but that you have a makeup fetish or something like that. Tell her you like how she looks with heavy makeup on. There's nothing wrong with that....some men like it, some don't. But be sure to give her attention either way. Maybe try buying her some shades that you'd like to see on her??? I'd just sit down and tell her how you feel but make sure she knows that you love her with or without makeup. =)
2007-01-26 04:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Liz B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to her about it? Somebody is attracted to someone else for many different reasons, with one of them being their looks. Looks are important in a relationship because you need to be attracted to the other person. Ask her how she would like you if you normally dress as a "surfer" but since she likes that, now you dress as a "prep" or "Gothic", etc. She probably wouldn't like your new look as she fell for you for the look she met you in. Or how about if you stopped showering or bathing. She wouldn't like that, either. I understand some people change, but she should try to be more accommodating or pleasing.
2007-01-26 04:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy ♪♫♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on and find a more secure girl to be in a relationship with. A person should respond in a positive manner if someone they care about gives them a compliment on their appearance or some other aspect of the manner in which they conduct themsleves.
2007-01-26 04:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Al G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be honest with you. I personaly wouldnt even care about such a situation. First off, I dont care what people think of me. Specially they way I look. I could care less. I'm the type of dude that likes to connect with personalities. Think im ugly? Guess what... so are you! :-)
2016-05-24 02:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Shirley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the natural case of her letting herself "go." I would feel insecure too if my guy wanted me to wear makeup and do my hair everyday but feel sick when i didn't do it. I say move on. Its one thing to do it for your guy but to be expected too.....come on.
2007-01-26 05:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, I think she doesn't like you anymore. And you'll make her leave you if you tell her she looks crappy... Don't hurt her feelings just becuz she's not wearing make-up. Make-up is not real, it's to cover your face. I think you're kind of mean.
Maybe you shouldn't be getting "turned on" for someone you're not married to. That's inappropriate.
2007-01-26 05:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋