2007-01-26 04:34:48 · 54 answers · asked by JRSK007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a given that people are possesive, and they think thay they own that portion of another person's life which is made up of their sexual fedelity...
But doesn't it hurt a person to be sexually rejected, or sexually neglected or sexually abandoned? How evil is it to disregard the sex needs of one's spouse?
Is it pure evil to tell your spouse, "no sex for you."?
2007-01-26 06:39:07 · update #1
it is not evil, but it is not good
2007-01-26 04:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to have an affair. I have only had relations with two men that I have been married. My ex-spouse climbed in the bed with me for about a year while not having relations with me. His excuse was that he was emotional?
I just divorced him because I do want to have a loving sexual relationship with a husband who adores me and is capable of loving me on all levels as I am him.
If you believe in God, sex should not be withheld from that marital partner except for the two agreeing to withhold it while praying and fasting!
I believe in this to the full extinct!
That person may not want to have sex with someone because they do not love them!
I hope to meet a kind man who I will marry and the rest is our history!
Do not have the affair, but you may want to tell that your spouse to give it up please, thank you! (smile). Seriously talk to someone and get some help to see what the issues are.
2007-01-31 13:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to have an affair. What is wrong with getting the balls to say im not happy anymore and it's not working out rather than go out and sleep with someone and have sex with your spouse afterwards and not know if the other person gave you an std. It's not just an std either. People make up an excuse to cheat but really if there so unsatisfied at home with their partner why aren't these problems talked about and if they were and the cheater is still not satisfied why can't they just leave?
2007-01-26 05:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see things, you are telling us here that your spouse denied you the pleasure of having sex with her/him. And that is the reason why you looked for it somewhere else. If your spouse did that to you, there should be a reason, and that needs a serious heart to heart talk. Nevertheless, whatever reason your partner has for not giving into your sexual needs, it is still evil to cheat on her/him. Your act of cheating on your spouse hurts her/him emotionally and psychologically. Whatever the reason is, it still does not entitle you to cheat on your partner. It is painful, and it is absolutely pure evil. If you are still contemplating about getting into it then think a million times and if you are already doing it, then be scared of KARMA!
2007-02-03 04:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by brainyluscious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do, its painful, and after you have it, think about it, how are you going to feel after you do the deed? When you look into the persons eyes you cheated on. Will you be able to get past it, have no conscience or will this slowly eat at you till your relationship falls apart? Men cheat I think because they think theres someone out there better, prettier, skinnier, more sex, whatever, but you know what the grass isn't always greener, and women cheat because some man comes along and gives her the attention she is craving, makes her feel beautiful inside and out, instead of her working things out with the man she committed to. Just think it through before you do!
2007-01-26 04:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is evil because It's selfish, and will destroy your marriage and relationship with your spouse. Thats what evil do, destroys, and that's what selfishness and self centeredness do..it destroys as well. Selfishness derives from fear, and evil will cause you to fear. There is no in between, and it's definately not good, because having an affair is displeasing in the eyes of God, and it's sin when you look at it through God's eyes. All sin is evil, and it will separate you from God. However, if one repents (asking for forgiveness) and is sincere, and makes the decision to turn to God. God will forgive them and receive them back into His arms. But they will still have reap the consequences.
2007-01-26 04:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by unknown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not evil if you are hurt because sex has to be done with love it is not some kind of homework it's an expression of love so if u can't do it with a person or vice verse why don't u confront eachother with the true feelings but the alternative is not cheating because it is not only humiliating for your partener it is also humiliating for you in the first place. you should be proud of your actions and descisions and make them in day light not ashamed and disgraced
2007-02-01 19:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex should not be used as a reward or punishment. It's part of a relationship and shouldn't be dangled like a carrot. If you're not giving it to them someone else will. I'm not saying affairs are right but you have to make sure you both are supplying each other's needs to prevent things like that from happening.
2007-02-02 13:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by G L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is with the evil? We all make mistakes . Not everyone's mistake is evil. If you set out and planned to hurt the person a certain way and knowingly knew they would find out, yeah its mean. I always think evil is deviant people getting off on hurting others, plotting to do horrible things to them. THAT IS EVIL TO ME.
2007-02-02 11:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by ENCHANTRESS ROSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair is wrong. If a person isn't getting what they need out of a relationship and has communicated this with other, then divorce seems better than an affair.
2007-02-02 01:43:26 · answer #10 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one subscribes to the view that marriage is a covenant relationship sealed by God, the joining of two into one, then yes it's viewed as evil.
If one doesn't view marriage in that fashion, then I can see why one would not consider it evil.
If your spouse claimed and pledge this on her wedding day to you, and then chose an affair, I believe it to be reasonable to consider her behavior evil based on her statement of values on the wedding day.
2007-01-26 04:43:00 · answer #11 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋