shes 11 in june is this hormones kicking in early?
im sure i didnt get to that stage till i was at least 13!
2007-01-26 04:31:00 · 38 answers · asked by fran p 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she hasnt started her period yet but it just feels too early for her to be like this
2007-01-26 04:38:05 · update #1
my daughter has been like this since she was 11 and she is 13 now, it doesn't get much easier for a few years, but just try to tolerate her for now. ensure that you have clear boundaries and be firm but fair. Also try to spend lots of time with her to talk and give her hugs when she is behaving correctly, this will ensure that an irretrievable gap doesn't emerge without you realising it.
Finally, i noticed with my sweetheart that her moods were worse when she had problems at school. it tends to be a sign that she may be worrying about something.
i wish you the best of luck! Tx
2007-01-26 04:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...as the mother of an 18 year old night mare daughter...the first thing i would like to point out is that a lot of the answers given seem to be centered around "hormones and periods". it may well be that like a lot of females your daughter might be affected like that. however can i just state that there are a lot of women out there needlessly suffering each month from pms. there are treatments and tactics to survive that. don't let men get away with that "it's her time of the month" attitude, (therefore dismissing your feelings around that time) and also learn to be responsible for your own moods. maybe your daughter is being bullied, feels inferior, is confused by feelings of desire. i would hate to think that she's going through that and it would end up ignored or put down to "hormones". and besides even if it IS pms, then if she's the type that suffers with it she'll have it until her menopause. that's a lot of years and potentially a lot of underlying reasons that could be ignored as "hormonal". take her out shopping, talk to her in general asking how school is etc. her periods may not start for years yet. don't make the mistake of brushing her inner anxiety under the carpet and labelling it incorrectly. you may let a more serious worry be pushed to one side. it happens to them all. they turn from being beautiful little girls into snarling bolshy madams. top tip though...perfect time to start her in some sort of engrossing club or activity. try to schedule her life a bit...the devil makes work for idle hands and there's LOADS of kids out there whose parents couldn't care less what they get up to...and they'll turn your daughter into a nightmare. don't underestimate peer pressure...invite the horrors home if you have to...anything to keep an eye on them under your roof. make friends with the vile trash she announces is her best mate. you don't want their "influences" as an enemy. take it from someone who's walked that long path...my daughter's 18 now...i was told it was a phase...HAH!!! what they don't tell you is there's another phase after that...and after that...and so it goes on. KEEP HER BUSY.
2007-01-29 03:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hormones. I have a 12 year old and she has been like this for almost a year on and off. She hasn't started her periods yet either. Also along with hormones it's them changing and maturing on an emotional level as well. Testing the boundaries with new found independance once they start secondary school. Just take it with a pinch of salt and whilst you shouldn't let her disrespect you, you need to try and stay calm with her. Let her know you find her behaviou unacceptable and ask her to try and be a bit more thoughtful.
2007-01-27 05:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by SHARON A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to do this from memory now... (i have no kids and have gone through puberty lol) i think i started when i was 10, it was mainly cause i was unhappy at school i think, when i became happy i stopped and by the time i was 13 i was less moody. Get her in a good mood, try having a girly night in, watch her favourite movie, give her her favourite meal, and try and cheer her up. THen ask if anything is bothering her and if she wants to talk you are their. She should open up to you cause you have bonded. YOu were probably the same and remeber how you felt and just try to work with her.
2007-01-26 07:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter just turned 11 in November. I'll I can think is, if this is 11, what will PMS be like! However, looks like general consensis is this is PMS ... or the beginning of. Me and my girlfriend used to joke: Read all the parenting books you can buy then beat your children with them! Try different parenting techniques you may have read about, they will work just from the shock-different approach. Just keeping varying a few key approaches. Ta think...they were so cute and beautiful when they couldn't speak weren't they? Good Luck!!! If she is really being out of control, try throwing her in a cold shower...clothes on. She'll stop in a real hurray, won't hurt her, just snap her back into reality!
2007-01-26 05:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter was 12 in november, her periods started last summer and YES, she was extra moody and very tearful for a few months beforehand! i was expecting early menstruation as i also started at 11. she's managing her moods a BIT better now, but other problems emerging1 i don't think it gets easier, just different!! good luck, stay calm and count to ten a lot yourself. stock up on sanitary towels, let her know where they are - she may be like mine and not tell me they began, but at least i had had a brief chat (she looked very awkward and squirmed til i shut up!) and let her know where the pads were and that i'd put a new bin with a lid in the bathroom. thesedays they grow up so much faster, and they depend on their friends for so much support, and most schools give better informed talks too. leave some info leaflets about, or there are a lot of good books around too for her age group. we have one called 'lets talk about sex' - i balked at first, but its 'sex' as in gender, puberty, hormones etc, rather than a teenage karma sutra!! i'd love to be cool and groovy and sit down for interesting chats with her about stuff, but she's made it obvious she isnt comfy with that right now, so i've left book in her room!! GOOD LUCK
2007-01-27 22:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents split up when i was like 9 and from 11 to 16 i used to throw these huge fits with my mom and never agreed to anything she said and made her feel like anything she said never mattered (i realize now what i did was wrong lol) but most of my friends and my cousins and nieces now are doing the same things. Its normal for a girl from 11-18 or 19 will be like that. I was that bad that my mother used to threaten that she couldnt handle me and that she would send me home with my father (which she never did) Im just saying, its normal. But get used to it because it will get a lot worse before anything is going to get better!
2007-01-26 12:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my full sympathy my daughter is 11 and has such a bad attitude at the moment if i had spoke to my parent the way she speaks to us i dont think i would have sat down for a week. We keep trying to point out that it is not necessarily what she say but the way she says it, but it all falls on deaf ears. I'm afraid kids grow up quicker these days and think you just have to accept that like mine she is a mini version of a teenager!
2007-01-26 05:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this may not seem like a lot of help because I'm 13, but i feel so trapped at my house. Let her know you trust her, and want to understand her. Don't go trying to be the "cool" mom. If she knows she can trust you, then she'll come to you. Don't ever assume things. We want time with friends, i think it's all about balance. You know? I mean, personally, I want to be with my friends, and be at home. I think it's all about finding balance. Don't just let go of her. But losen the "leash." She is growing up, She will like guys ( cutes ones ) and she will wanna talk to her friends about it. Friends are so important in someones life. Just take things one step at the time. Let her grow up, it's something new for both of you. I'm sure you remeber what it was like for you. Let her know you love her, and will do anything for her. Also let her know that she needs to make the right choices, because with freedom comes responsability. ( I'm starting to sound very mature, it's scarying me) so I guess the best advice is just to take things slowly and try to be her friend too.
2007-01-26 13:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by angel_in_pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear !!! i find girls very complicated from the age of 11- 19 years old they are quite moody i should know i have a 16 year old i never know what type of mood shes in.
2007-01-27 01:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by Future Sailor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋