2007-01-26 04:30:06 · 27 answers · asked by WhyNotMe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If a couple have a healthy and loving relationship, both partners should be allowed to have friends of both genders and whatever sexual persuasion.
It's all about trust and mutual respect. If the guy has not given his wife reason to mistrust him, then he should be allowed to have "gal pals" just as she should be allowed to have male buddies.
However, if he ever slept with this woman then, yes, I think it would be inappropriate for him to think he can remain her friend after he marries someone else. That's disrespectful to the wife.
2007-01-26 04:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Plumeria Passion 4 · 10⤊ 1⤋
It all depends. If while me and my husband were dating he would have said, this is my friend "Lisa" from highschool or college, and "Lisa" and I would have had a chance to get to know each other, then I would probably be okay with that. But if my husband says, this is my friend "Kesha" and I met her at the sports bar where me and the guys went last night, then no. I don't know "Kesha", "Kesha" doesn't know me and for all I know "Kesha" is after my man. Not everybody has the best intentions when it comes to friends of the opposite sex.
If your wife says she is okay with you having female friends, then it's okay. If she says no or if she seems a little uneasy about it out of respect you should avoid that situation. I feel that by married people having friends of the opposite sex that could potentially cause problems in the long run. Like I said though, it all depends on the circumstances.
2007-01-26 12:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not just limited to married men but to all who are in a longterm relationship. It's not just women telling their men NO opp s*x friends either. I feel it's for the best though. Why make trouble? Why tempt the "devil"? What do u need a female friend for anyways? U must be missing something. I dont have male friends anymore & I don't miss them. My man is all i need and if I need a male opinion, I've got Yahoo Q & A! lol
2007-01-26 14:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No woman wants to be friends with a married man unless they 1) have known one another since they were in diapers or 2) she wants to steal him away. I say this as a man who has gotten the friendship advances from women. I didn't bite.
2007-01-26 12:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If the wife was OK with him having this woman friend BEFORE marriage then she should be OK with him having this friend AFTER marriage.... unless, of course, the wife didn't find out that he'd slept with the other woman until after marriage. A married guy can NEVER be friends with a woman that he already slept with. On the other hand, if he's known a woman for awhile and they never slept together, they're always been "just friends," then it's unlikely he'd sleep with her after marriage since he never slept with her before marriage.
In case of doubt, the guy should avoid the appearance of impropriety and not go out alone with a woman that is not his wife. If it's a friend or co-worker, invite a 3rd person so it does't look wrong.
2007-01-26 18:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the type of friendship. Out to lunch with co-workers, etc. is no big deal. But developing an intimate friendship and bond with other females and telling them things you should be telling your wife will only lead to trouble. It goes for men and women.
2007-01-26 12:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
because sometimes it develops into an emotional affair, where they are sharing secrets they shouldn't, about the problems in their lives, and eventually they will feel so comfortable with each other that it often ends in a full blown affair. than someone is going to get hurt, all it takes is just a few arguments with the married couple and he is ready to go talk to the friend about it, cutting the wife out of any communication she might want to have with her husband.
2007-01-26 16:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This way of thinking has to be the dumbest method of thinking I've ever heard of. I have more women friends than men and my wife knows that she and I are together because we want to be together. We both have better things to do with our time than worry about is the other going to stray. One of my woman friends even helped me to do something really special for my wife and I was grateful, basically because I don't think like a woman. You have to either trust each other or be apart from one another.
2007-01-26 12:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A man tends to then lean on the opinions of the other woman and starts to spend more time with her than his wife, which of course tends to lean towards intimacy, I've had it happen to me, it's emotional cheating, sharing his personal feelings with someone else.
2007-01-26 13:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married... My husband has female friends from before we were married...I'm fine with that....If he develops friendships with new women now, and if I am not involved with those relationship, I'm going to have a problem...why? Because for one, a woman who had no alterior motive for anything wouldn't try to be friends with a married man... besides, would you feel ok with your wife having male friends????
2007-01-26 12:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by This is what I think 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋