i'm 17 and i'm still going to high school so of course there drama, even if your someone like me who try to ignore it, it finds you anyway, my problem is that i have changed from what i used to be (a little kid with an anger problem to one who is trying to grow up to be somebody) i'm losing friends of it because i'm serious about school i feel as if i don't have time to relax and have fun when i know i'm hear for something important as my future, but really even if i'm losing friends, should i look at this as a bad thing that i'm taking my life more serious and forgeting the ones who always want me to have fun when i'm in school, i just don't want to look back on this one day and think i made a wrong chose even if it did help my future.
i don't really care for friend because my goal is larger that the thought of me having friends but there ae alot of people that care for me thinking that i'm not thinking of them.....i'm i wrong for that
2007-01-26 04:21:59 · 13 answers · asked by dfrost16 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The number one rule is friends/family come first. Now this can be broken only if your friends/family are doing something you feel is hurting you. I haven't been out of high school for a year (class'06) and I know what you mean. I had to work really hard to make good grades and get into college, but I had friends who tried to help me have more fun. You can't forget that you won't be young forever. You'll be 18 soon and you'll have a lot of new responsibilities and you can't do some of the things then that you can now. Plus it's high school and you need to make sure you're making good memories that you will always remember. I'm not saying go out and party every night or anything, but I mean you need to have a life outside of schoolwork. Like a day off every week. If your friends are trying to get you to skip your homework frequently then tell them that it's important to you that you work hard to succeed. If they don't understand and hate you for it, then you may need to find some new friends that will embrace your new lifestyle instead of making you feel guilty about it. I'd try and set aside some time for your friends that feel like you don't care about them anymore. You may just need to work on your time management skills so that you can fit in some fun time-It's always good for getting rid of stress. so good luck!
2007-01-26 05:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your future is more important than the "friends" that you have. If they were real friends they would support you in any decision you make. Real friends will be there through thick and thin. If they are mad at you because you chose to have a future. Let them be mad. You are becoming a better person for wanting to give yourself a better life by getting an education. Only reason why they are mad is because your main focus and attention is off of them and into your books. What you will find out is that as you go along you will make new friends and they will accept the fact that you are putting school first. But you also have to look at this. You are still in high school. You still have college to go through. You are going to meet alot of people who are just like you. So not all is lost. What "friends" that you lose in high school for this, makes room for the new and better ones on the road ahead of you. Good Luck and I wish you the best!!
2007-01-26 04:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep your focus on school. If your so called friends were really your friends then they would be there for you and support your choices no matter what. These people that you call friends are not friends at all and while it might be hard at first, you need to let them go. In the end, you will be glad that you didn't let them hold you back. Better your life because it is something that YOU want, not because you think your hurting someone feelings. After all,think about this. If you don't better your education, in 10 years when your still broke and trying to pay bills with money you don't have, do you really think those "friends" will be there to bail you out? I don't think they will. Stop feeling bad for yourself because your doing the right thing and if they are a true friend, they will understand that and a real friend would want you to have the best in life. Good luck to you and I hope you continue your education. You deserve it.
2007-01-26 04:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this from someone who learned the hard way, friends come and go this is your only chance to get a good education that will help you make more money in the future. I know it might not be the popular thing to do but keep studying and doing good and you'll never regret it! I didn't and I'm 25 years old making minimum wage with no hopes of anything more than that. Keep up the good work!
2007-01-26 04:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look man i totally respect the fact that you are setting your goal to get an education i mean dats what im doing im really focusing in school now that im more mature but... i still have fun when im outside of school or going to lunch i mean you gotta have fun in highschool because those are the last four years of your life then things are going to get alot more serious, college,bills, finding your own place. dont you want to have a lil fun? i dont mean go out and drink and do drugs i mean maybe take a girl with you to see a movie or go to a party once and a while and just sit and chill you know stuff like that i mean leave the school work for class and have fun dawg!!!!
2007-01-26 04:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those people were truly your friends, they'd support you in your quest... As long as there is balance in your life, and there should be, I think you're ok... and take if from someone who knows, after you leave high school, none of that stuff will ever matter again....If your goal is to achieve big dreams, you shouldn't compromise it by pleasing people who might only PRETEND to be your friends.... good luck
2007-01-26 04:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by This is what I think 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If people aren't willing to accept you for the person you are or the person you're becoming, then they're either not a real friend in the first place or they're not the kind of friend you're looking for as the person you're becoming. Eitherway, anyone who is segregating you because of who you are isn't worth a toss, end of story.
2007-01-26 04:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by WerX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you school work should come first and I commend you for that but if you can do it without hurting your school work, try to set aside a period of time to spend with them as well so that you have both. If you set aside a time to relax you may find it easier to concentrate on he school work as well. One thing I have recommended to many students is DMAE a natural substance that inproves memory and concentration and they all said that it helps - I take it myself because it is natural and does help, and is available at any health food store for a low cost.
2007-01-26 04:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, trust me, in 10 years, you will be laughing and wondering why you ever let this problem cost you any of your energy whatsoever. do you have a job? try becoming better friends with slightly older people. i always did. i had a couple friends in school, but most of my friends were in college, had a good head on their shoulders, and had my back. you'll be fine, really, don't worry about high school people. do your thing girl!!
2007-01-26 04:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for thinking of your future. These so called friends aren't friends at all. They are trying to drag you down to their level. Ignore them and find other friends. The day will come when you will be successful and they will have dead end jobs and lots of regrets.
You are absolutely doing the right thing.
2007-01-26 04:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋