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Question

I have a really bad view of myself. To others I have accomplished a lot and am realyl creative. I know that I am not heavily overweight, but I am so unhappy with myself. I hate the way that I look. After having the baby, my body has changed dramatically. My husband says that I look great, and I know that he loves me and he wouldn't lie to me. But, I just do not see what he sees.

Can anyone help me with the view that I have about myself.
I need to lose weight and I know that I need to excercise. This is part of it all, and it is my fault for not getting into it more.

Answer 1

Hire a personal trainer.

Answer 2

Well as hard as it is to get started, I think you probably will feel so much better if you start exercising again. Exercise is the best cure for depression (not saying you have it) and if you had a baby not that long ago then you probably are still have hormonal issues going on. And since you know that it is something that you want to do and the fact that you're not doing it will make you feel bad, I always feel the exact same way b/c I am not exercising as much as I want to either. Even if I do something small though, like some sit ups or take a walk, I feel better, so maybe everyday just try something small so that starting some big workout program doesn't seem like such a daunting task. If you have the time, I always see women out with those jogging strollers and they seem to be having fun and the kids enjoy the fresh air. At any rate, your husband does still think you are beautiful, but I'm sure he'd rather see you happy and happy women are beautiful and sexy. I think you have a pretty healthy view on the whole thing actually and I think it is totally normal to not feel as pretty if you aren't used to seeing yourself a certain way, but I guarantee it is not as bad as you think. Think about the times when your husband has been sick and nasty-looking, I'm sure you still found him attractive though, so it goes both ways! :-)

Answer 3

So what is your question?

How do I loose weight? Find a nutritionist, join a gym and get a personal trainer.... and make arrangement 3 times a week for someone or some service to baby-sit your child. You should be able to make great strides in only 8 weeks, and with a nutritionist, your weight will come down easily, and the fat will turn to muscle... It takes effort--anything worth while does, hon, but you'll love what you see.

How can I like myself better? Same answer as above... change what you see in the mirror. And sometime during this process get your hair and make up done by a pro. If they can turn complete dogs into Hollywood beauties on TV, you yourself can do it far cheaper.... and present the new you to your sweetie. He may like you now, he'll like the new you better. By April 1, you'll be a star.

Answer 4

Do the things you know will make you feel better. JUST DO IT....even if it is a little at a time. Exercise and make better food choices as often as you can, and don't beat yourself up if you skip a day or two, just start right back on. Once you start making better choices day by day to change the things that you do have control over, you will start to feel better about yourself from the inside out....you can do this, you have the power to make yourself FEEL better! You go Girl.

Answer 5

Try reading the following when you are feeling really bad about yourself:

Oh, Great Spirit
Whose voice I hear in the winds,
And whose breath gives life to all the world,
hear me, I am small and weak,
I need your strength and wisdom.
Let me walk in beauty and make my eyes ever behold
the red and purple sunset.
Make my hands respect the things you have
made and my ears sharp to hear your voice.
Make me wise so that I may understand the things
you have taught my people.
Let me learn the lessons you have
hidden in every leaf and rock.
I seek strength, not to be greater than my brother,
but to fight my greatest enemy - myself.
Make me always ready to come to you
with clean hands and straight eyes.
So when life fades, as the fading sunset,
my Spirit may come to you without shame.


(translated by Lakota Sioux Chief Yellow Lark in 1887)
published in Native American Prayers - by the Episcopal Church.

Answer 6

You might want to talk to a doctor about re-balancing your hormones if you're feeling exhaustion, irritability, sleep disturbances, anxiety, appetite changes, hopelessness, memory loss or changes, uncontrollable crying, guilt, feelings of inadequacies and worthlessness, and/or exaggerated highs and lows.

Because postpartum depression is often related to a sharp drop in progesterone levels after delivery, you might want to consider natural progesterone replacement.

Answer 7

Please start BELIEVING in YOURSELF! Speak to your medical professional to ensure that you're physically ready to start your activity/exercise/diet regime. YOU, your husband ,and baby need a mommy who is secure with herself, both physcially AND mentally! Please take care, and do NOT be so hard on yourself.
It may NOT be totally YOUR fault. Your body may not be ready.