I know my sister is cheating on her husband what should I do? She is married with 3 kids, and the guys she is with is married to her "best friend" and they have 4 kids. I don't think she is a good mother and I feel sorry for my BIL and nieces. Advice please.
2007-01-26 03:58:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to her that the only wa and then talk to the guy she is cheating with. If it doesn't work then i would try to stay away for a little to see where it will come too, no changes again then go and talk to their spouses.
2007-01-26 04:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Loco 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
NOTHING. Its not your place to interfere with their lives. Trust me her husband will find out soon enough. It would be very bad if you got involved. Sometimes its just better to keep quiet about things like that. I know you feel ad for your nieces but hey its not your place to interfere. All that cheating your sister is doing will come back to bite her in the @ss. What you can do though is be there for nieces make sure they are well taken care of and are doing okay. Fix them meals, arrange time to spend time with them. This cheating thing is between your sister and her husband.
2007-01-26 04:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is an adult. That is the first thing to remember. As an adult she will sooner or later have to face her own demons & pay for her own mistakes. Right now I am not sure there is much you can do other then confront her privately. If she knows she has been found out she may want to do something about her situation.Take care thiough for unfortunately the ones who will pay the biggest price for her foolishness are 7 children. In time 3 of them may need your help. If they see you as the bad guy they will be angry for sure at you. So tread lightly & quietly. Put them first for they are the innocent victims here.
2007-01-26 04:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to talk to your sister first, and tell her how her actions are affecting more than just her. She has kids she needs to think about and she needs to stop being so selfish. Dont be afraid to hurt her feelings by being strong in your wording. If she refuses to stop I always think its the right thing to do to tell the person who is being cheated on. I know this may hurt you and your sisters relationship for a little while, but morally its the right thing to do. Good Luck and I hope your sister grows up and fast!
2007-01-26 04:09:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tamra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep this between you and your sister and say something like, "I know you're having an affair with X. If I know it, it's just a matter of time before everyone else knows it. Do you have a game plan in place for when the inevitable crap hits the fan?"
I would do this because if you tell the husband he's either not going to believe you or she will deny it and blame you. You cannot win.
2007-01-26 04:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Karen L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation as you :( I hated that I found that out, the person that is doing this I love very much I talked to them about it and it helped a lil because I found why but still I feel bad to this day. Talk to her and ask questions, But as what should you do, just don't get in the middle of this! Let it all unwind on it's own, there's no good in getting in the middle of a marriage. All bad things are discovered at the end, so I know it will all come out on it's own later, you just have to live with it. I do :( I know it's sux to know this though!
2007-01-26 04:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advise is that you just stay out of the situation. Eventhough this is your sister and I know you wish she would be better then this, it's really her life and if she chooses to make the mistakes that she is making, you can't do no more then to tell her better. Atfer you talk to her leave it alone. It is up to her if she listens or not. You just be there as you are. I know this is a hard place for you to be in but you must understand we have to pay for our own wrong doings. I know how much you care but this issue you will have to let it fix itself and it will sooner or later. Love her like you have always have don't judge her or her situation. Be a sister and friend.
2007-01-26 04:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talking with your sister. Confront her, privately, on the issue and try to get some answers out of her. Be stern with her, but don't threaten to go tell her husband; this is not your problem directly, and getting involved may do more harm than good. Try and get the honest truth out of her.
If there's a sex problem involved between your sister and brother-in-law, suggest to her that she bring up the issue with her husband about their sex life. Odds are it's a lack of communication between them.
If talking with her doesn't produce any results, though, my advice is to stay out of it. It's quite possible that her cheating on her husband is having no real effect on her capabilities as a mother, and the kids shouldn't have to suffer because of an issue between the parents if it's not really affecting their ability to parent.
In short, get the truth out of your sister, try and get her to solve the problem with her hubby, and do your best to stay out of it after that. This is a problem between the 'happy' couple, and butting in may eventually do more harm than good.
2007-01-26 04:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by vfaulkon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that whatever you decide to do it is your sister and she will always be in your family. I think that I would tell her "It's hard for me to tell you this but I know what you are doing and I dont think it's right" then just let your feelings go and make sure she knows that at that moment it is between the two of you. I'm sure things will be fine.
2007-01-26 04:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by Amber J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
M>Y>O>B>....mind your own business! This has nothing to do with you and who says your BIL doesn't know? Stay away from the situation. You can help by being close to your neices and nephews, but don't bring up the cheating part and don't discuss it with your sister. If she wants to talk about it, tell her to keep it to herself and it's her problem not yours. Godloveya.
2007-01-26 04:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You can ask her what she is doing and be supportive to her when her husband files for divorce. I would stay out of it but be there when she needs family support. I know that it's difficult when there are kids involved but it really isn't your place to tell her husband. There really just isn't a whole lot that you can or should do.
2007-01-26 04:05:01 · answer #11 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋