I have recently separated from my husband and feel ready to go out on the town again, but most of my friends are either married or have children, I work 5 days a week with special needs children and don't really mix with any adults.
I want to make some new friends to go out socialising with, but really can't think of a way to do this (I am quite shy) I would never walk into somewhere alone, and am not interested in art galleries or doing any courses or things like that, cant join a gym as I am slim, does anyone know where I can make new friends?????
I am in Manchester, UK
2007-01-26 03:56:36 · 35 answers · asked by lisalou1970 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just wanted to add that I am 37, don't know if that makes any difference?
2007-01-26 03:57:38 · update #1
That is hard to do, your life has been with your husband and now you feel lost, well the sad thing is unless you find friends at work or go out to clubs, it is hard to meet people. I am in a similar situation, I am married, but moved out of state and work in a small company so nobody to be friends with here.
It is hard to say unless find someone online and then you can meet them. Good Luck and hope all works out for you and stay strong with your recent separation.
2007-01-26 04:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by kirsten215 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really understand your problem because I feel similar. I'm also very shy and thinking about how I could meet new people.
It's not true you can't go to gym. I am slim too and I like going to aerobics every week. Maybe there are other "sports" you could do, maybe dancing... if you like to be "forced" to dance with a "stranger". I think this helps a lot when you are shy, to look for situations where you have to do something. So you can get used to it and one day it may be no problem anymore.
If you like to, try going out alone. I never thought I would be able to do it, but then there was this great event and no one of my friends wanted to accompany me, so I thought "why not"? I think if you are not scared, you should really try it.
Maybe you also could go to a cafe and take a newspaper or book with you so you have always "a way out" of the boring loneliness. Don't put some stress on yourself, try to enjoy the moments.
Hope this helps!
2007-01-26 04:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't laugh, but joining a church isn't such a bad idea. It is right that the other members will go out of their way to make you feel welcome. In turn that may build up your own confidence.
You said you worked during the week but perhaps a weekend job in a pub - just for the social aspect. Doesn't have to be a "trendy hip hop place" or the other end of the scale "an old man's pub" either. Something in between.......
2007-01-26 04:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look for clubs or groups to join that have interests you might like. Maybe do volunteer work or take a class. Setting up a yahoo 360 is also a good way to make some net friends.
2007-01-26 04:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hobbies work best - Take a nite class at a local college - computers or photography - ther has to be something that interest you!! all the students have something in common to talk about.... Find a freind
Join something - garden club, bowling league.... again find those with similar interests OR Volunteer somewhere - get involved!!!
2007-01-26 04:04:20 · answer #5 · answered by Slim Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not volunteer some of your extra hours at a hospital? Any volunteer work will bring you in contact with other new people....and doctors and nurses and staff. Join a dance group or take ball-room dancing. Maybe you should be interested in art; or at least be willing to learn. Take a course in mechanics...lots of guys there! The posibilities are endless!
2007-01-26 04:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful about meeting people that you hook up with on the internet. The best thing is to meet people at places you frequent, the library, a local coffee shop, someone you work with. Start up a conversation and if you click with that person you'll know it, give them your number and ask them to call you sometime, they probably will.
2007-01-26 04:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by S T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church.
No really. At a good church its the other peoples responsibility to meet you. Perfect for a shy person. In addition to that its a place where you are kind of expected to be alone, so no embarrassment over that.
2007-01-26 04:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by Shorty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a shame because if I lived nearer to you I would gladly take you out for a coffee or even better a glass of wine and a chat
2007-01-26 04:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by loadsofgoesatthis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, definitely repost this question for UK. since you don't want to take courses, why not join some clubs, i.e. book club, cooking club, poker rooms. rekindle friendships at high school and college reunions. singles networks, either online or ones w/ real meetings.
2007-01-26 04:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by whattodo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋