My sister who is 14 met a man on holiday aged 27. He kissed her twice but no-one saw. I have been keeping it a secret from our parents for months and eventually now they know. My sister says she is in love with him but I'm scared for her. I'm scared she will run away or do something stupid like that. He smokes and can barely speak english. He has made a pervy joke with her, it is getting serious what can I do?
2007-01-26 03:44:37 · 39 answers · asked by samara c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please answer :(
2007-01-26 03:47:45 · update #1
He lives in Turkey. She hasn't seen him since holiday and does not have yahoo only msn.
2007-01-26 03:53:05 · update #2
Thank you all have helped very much, I am going to talk to her seriously and talk to my parents. I will also talk to him on msn, the only problem is he is a nice guy so I feel badly if I am rude to him. However, I will tell him I will report him to the police if he continues.
2007-01-26 03:59:51 · update #3
If they are both in the UK you need to be calling the Police. She is still a child
2007-01-26 03:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by OriginalBubble 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont think there anything wrong with you trying to look out for your little sister. A 14 year old girl going out with a 17 year old guy is definitely a larger gap than usual at that age. Probably I am assuming 8th grader to junior guy in high school, and although unusual it isnt unheard of. It depends how long have they known each other, and how did they meet. This guy might really like your sister, he might be trying to get in her pants, or he might be having a hard time finding a girl his age that likes him. Does he seem like a loser or does he seem very socialable. If he is very socialable id be careful and watch out for your sister closely. I suggest the best thing for you to do is get to know him yourself ASAP. Im sure you would be able to judge his character better than through a myspace page. Show initiative to get to know him, tell your sister that you want to meet hiim before making judgements. But overall. Its alright to question the guy. Youre the big sister and thats what big sisters are supposed to do. Meet the guy and make your own assessment.
2016-03-29 03:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man should know better....he is doing something that's against the law.....you should have him arrested...sending pervy messages too....what a filth bag...report him, she is way under age....Turks are always after young English girls...they are disgusting.....tell you parents EVERYTHING including the pervy joke, your not bubbling on your sister, your only trying to protect her, once a Turk gets his filthy mitts on her she will definitely be under his spell, she's still very young and does not understand the meaning o love yet.... make her see sense before it's too late she is too young for this guy and he should be locked up....what a weirdo, if he was a nice guy then he'd leave your sister alone...he's a grown man who likes little girls (that's not right)...your parents should get on MSN and tell him to get lost or they will have him arrested....protect your sister, she may land up in the hands of a peado
2007-01-26 04:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By " kiss" do you mean sex ? you must tell the police and get this sick perv arrested and keep an eye on your sister - if your parents know and are not doing anything about it then you should talk to social services - she is a child "at risk" - > There is no point in talking to her as she will not listen to you - there is also the problem of STD - She should get herself checked at the "Special clinic" it is Private and confidential - Best Wishes
2007-01-26 04:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by jim95 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You told your parents about this and they didn't do anything??? Well, if your parents are, for whatever reason, not taking a stand on this issue, you need to get someone else involved. Maybe someone from school? A teacher or counselor? The 27 year old man you're talking about is breaking the law. So, seriously, you need to tell someone about this.
2007-01-26 03:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One its illegal, and ur sister doesn't understadn since she is young and young girl react like that when they see an older gu paing attention to her. Make sure they don't do anything more, beucase he is older and he might pressure her to do other sexual things that she is not ready, the only way is for your parents to take control. and you as a sister tell her that u can find her her age guy and who is much better looking. Also tell her when she is gonna be 25 gorgeous young girl, he is going to be almost 40, looking old and grumpy does he really wnat to be with a guy like that. Always keep in the back of your head and there can be legal charges done, if talking doesn't work. our paretns can try talking to him.
2007-01-26 03:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Loco 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's really sick that, does the guy actually know how old she is? if so then I would keep her far away from him as possible. if not then tell him if he has any sense he will leave her. You sister will grow out of it we all did it's just she can't whats wrong now, try talking to her and be there for her, suggest things u can do together then she isn't spending time with him. Good luck
2007-01-26 03:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not your job to do anything about it.It is your parents job.You need to tell your parents what is going on and let them handle it.It is illegal for a 27yr old man to have a relationship with a 14yr old.It is called contributing to the deliquency of a minor.If your parents don't put a stop to the relationship then you need to call the police and both the 27yr old and your parents will be in trouble..What is wrong with your parents do they know what is going on..
2007-01-26 03:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The question I'd like answered is, what have your parents done about this?
If she were my daughter, I'd be going beserk! The police and social services need to be made aware of this guy....he is way too old and she is still a child...she needs to be protected.
2007-01-26 03:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must pass on this information to your parents. If anything bad happens to your sister you will not be able to live with yourself. Your sister is too young to be in love and is not yet able to see the dangers involved if she continues to see this man. This is very serious. Your parents will go mad but not with you. They must be told right away.
2007-01-26 03:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow i think he has issues, age difference is no big deal i believe after you are 21 years old so for a 27 year old to be messin with a 14 year old it is criminal and he will go to jail for that if ever caught.You need to tell your parents and have him turned in
2007-01-26 03:51:18 · answer #11 · answered by wblueyesinvt35 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋