Has anyone got a divorce and then regretted it?

Question

What is your advice?

Answer 1

I am in the process of starting to get a divorce and I would rather try and work through it but my wife who has an illness wants the divorce and in a small way I do too because of the fact that she has many problems that I cannot help her with and she is not the same woman. No one gets married to get a divorce.

Answer 2

I think at one point or another, you look back and cannot help but wonder if you did the right thing by going through with the divorce. I know that at one time I don't think that I 'regretted' it but I did ponder on, 'was it really all that bad'? I am a big believer in that things happen for a reason and that it is not until it is all said and done, that you may see the purpose or the reasoning behind it all. Hindsight is 20/20. So perhaps it is not really a matter of regretting the divorce, perhaps it is more of wishing things had gone differently. But like everything else, you have to learn to adjust, pick up the pieces however small they may be, and go on. Looking back will do nothing but cause more heart ache. It is looking towards the future that will get you back on track.

Answer 3

Not once...been there done that twice and for different reasons. Regardless, I don't regret either. My first sometimes I still think that maybe we could be together again...because we're such great friends and both have grown as individuals. But I don't regret the divorce because it was right for me at the time. Now I do regret marrying my second...wish I had of never done that...but I suppose I had to go there to be where I'm at today...but I could have done w/out the abuse. So I will never regret that divorce. Best thing I ever did.
In the beginning or newly divorced it is natural to doubt your decision...but always remember what your final straw was that made you decide to divorce. It will always remind you that what you've done was for the right reasons.

Answer 4

Every situation is different. Some people do regret it and others think it was a good move. Advice? Don't divorce unless you are absolutely certain there is no way the marriage can be saved. My wife and I filed but then realized 6 months later that we could save our marriage. So, we dismissed the divorce and are now back together and happy. If you are already divorced and having second thoughts what is to lose by speaking to your ex about it? Nothing to lose and perhaps lots to be gained.

Answer 5

My hubby divorced his first wife, and never in a million years will he admit that he regrets the divorce, but I know there are times when he wonders if he had stayed, if some of the issues his kids have had to deal with would have gone differently/better. I think he regrets not insisting on more time with the kids, and assuming like many people do that kids are better off with their mothers. He did start to insist on more time with them when they got a little older, but I think sometimes he worries it was a little too little too late.

Answer 6

I got a divorce and regretted it and turn around and married the same man twice. One should get counseling before considering a divorce cause it helps.

Answer 7

Divorced with no regrets - things only got better in every aspect of my life.

Answer 8

Nope. Before we got divorced it scared the hell out of me. When it was all over it was like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders. I had no idea how bad the relationship was and how badly it was weighing on me until I was far enough away to objectively look at it.

Answer 9

There are many different situations. Its a big step and u need to think it through. After it over with it the what ifs that get you. Sometimes you wonder if you have done the right thing.

Answer 10

Never regretted it for a second....I regretted that things went that way...but never regretted jeaving her