my 14 yr old--?

Question

i found out he's kissing his girlfriend from school. my son is doing good at school so far, is involved in sports too so healthy channeling of overactive hormones, but my worry is soon this kissing might turn to the next step, how do i stop him and make him see right and wrong. am i being a prude
concerned and worried mom

Answer 1

I would just make sure he know about the birds and the bees. If he is a normally responsible kid then its no biggie. But if you find out he is going further than that...i would have to put a stop to it.

Make him understand pregnancy and what can happen and how it can affect his life. Be dramatic and overbearing...dont play it light.

Let him know this can lead to other things. And you never know what can happen or what will happen.

But this better not be happening at school. I would put a stop to that if it is at school. And if you find out other stuf was happening i would talk to the girls mom as well.

Answer 2

Well, you can't stop him from kissing or dating at this age. But what you can do is talk to him about this subject. It might be less awkward for him if your husband does the talking more than you. Later on, both of you could be present. Keep in mind that all you can do is guide your son. You cannot directly stop him from 'taking the next step' or anything else for that matter.
Approach him as an adult; make sure the conversation flows both ways. This way, he can express his opinions while being able to question you about things that concern him. But don't be disheartened if he wants to end the conversation as soon as possible. This does not mean that he isn't listening to you; only that he is uncomfortable having this perticular conversation with you. If there is a uncle, aunt or any other adult that he is very close to, it might help to approach the subject first with their help.

Answer 3

14 is a normal age to be kissing. If they are properly supervised when together, then nothing else can happen. So make sure he is properly supervised, but don't smother him. Sit down with him and talk about sex and proper forms of protection and how easy it is for a girl to get pregnant. It's just time for you to make sure he is prepared.

It is highly unlikely, though, that he will do anything else for a while. Don't you remember how you progressed through this in high school? Just make sure he has all the information he would need to make the right decision, whether it is not abstain or to use a condom.

Answer 4

I'm 14, I know how it feels, what my mom did when she found out that I kissed a guy (she totally freaked) but she set up this rule that I can't date, I can only court. Courting is for someone who is serious about marriage, so you don't just let your boy start kissing girls, or really just "hanging out with them" unless he's serious about spending the rest of his life with the girl. This has held me back from doing a lot of things I would later regret, and it has made me tell myself to wait, because there's really no use rushing something that won't happen for at least another four years.

Answer 5

You are being a great caring mom. Some moms don't even know. Make sure he knows what kissing can lead to. Ask him his feelings toward this girl. Is he truly smitten by her. Maybe another talk is in order? You can never talk enough about sex and never too early. My best friend has a daughter who is 9 that accidentally accessed pornography on the computer and she was able to talk to her about it. Very easily. Lucky her she clicked off of it fast enough. Scary just as seeing your son kiss. Please talk to him make sure he has information to make the right decision.

Answer 6

I kissed my first boyfriend at 13, it never went any further. we didn't do anything else sexual until, we were 17, if your worried, just talk to him and let him know that doing more than kissing isn't acceptable at his age. No one told me i couldn't kiss someone, or that i couldn't have sex(cuz if they did i probably would have done it just to spite them). my mom just trusted me that i wouldn't be sexual because i knew i wasn't ready for that. i knew what it was like to raise a child somewhat because i helped take care of my younger siblings, and i babysat for soo many of my neighbors with baby's, that i knew i wasn't ready. Unfortunately its normal for teens to want to experience that and when hes not at home there really isn't a way for you to stop him. all you can do is educate him on parenthood ( maybe scare him a little) and hope he does the right thing. (I'm 19).
Hope everything works out for you.

Answer 7

It is kinda hard to make sure that her is not kissing a girl at school. Expectly when it is public school. The public schools are not doing their job in that department. But I can say to you, make sure he doesn't have the chance to get alone with her. That is very important. Good luck and wish you the best.

Answer 8

His behavior is normal for his age -- to a point. What you need to do is to invite the girl to your house and be there to supervise their behavior. I would set limits on the time they spend together, especially since they are both still very young. Be sure he knows the risks of having sex at his age and acknowledge the positive side of having sex once he is old enough and mature enough to handle the responsibility. Be honest and open, but set firm guidelines -- do not allow them to be together unsupervised.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with kissing. Just set him down and talk to him. Tell him you don't want him having sex right now and explane why and why he should wait ( and don't go telling him he can't like thats going to stop him ) he'll listen.

Answer 10

Theres nothing you can do to stop him from kissing his girlfriends, but you can talk to him about what kissing can lead too and how he should treat his girlfriend.... Dont try and put a stop to it, because its inevitable that he will kiss girls, but make sure he knows what he's getting into