how would you react?

Question

-I sent my brother an email to establish bounderies since he won't listen in person. (he tends to blame me instead resepcting my bounderies)
-he writes me back a 'I guess I am bad person... I'll try to be better' email
-I write him back and say, 'Don't be hard on yourself, but I am surprised and glad that you heard me!'
-then he writes back 'uh, that was sarcasm'.... how would you take that email?

Answer 1

let him go... stick with people that support you on lifes journey.. not tear you down and make you feel bad

Answer 2

Uh!! Brothers suck! Try sending back to him

"Duh, how stupid are you, as if i care whether your hard on yourself, couldnt you sense my sarcasm back. I told you already what i wanted to happen and I meant it. You better stop being so immature, and blaming me for your problems. You need to learn to listen or you will never succeed in life. Start showing me the respect that I deserve, cos if you cant respect your sister what hope do you have in the real world? If you wanna keep being an idiot, be prepared to have your life made a living hell...!"

This should do the trick, obviosly you need to go over again what those boundaries were, because brothers are useless and he probably deleted your first email to him already... Have Fun! And if it doesnt work spread rumors about him so he never gets a date in the future :)

Answer 3

I would take it as his denial to face the truth. I have a brother like that and I have learned that the best thing for me to do was distance myself some, try to see things from his perspective, which is often distorted due to addiction, accept that he is how he is, change myself in ways that feel right to me so that we can get along when we are together, like, back down when we start butting heads-- I have to step back and figure out whether or not it's worth arguing over or being disrespected and will it amount to anything good. What I have found is that I have more peace inside if I don't get too mixed up in his issues and don't let him get too mixed up in mine. I feel sorry for him because he hasn't found that peace inside yet, as he is still an addict, hiding from his true feelings. It makes me love him even more knowing that he needs me in his life, but in a way that remains neutral. I couldn't change him and I knew it, but I changed my own perspective and it has helped a lot. We both know when it's time to back down with each other. Good luck. Hope some of this helps.

Answer 4

Any person who has personal boundaries is responsible for keeping them intact. If he crosses the line, you tell him then...not in email. You can't be taken advantage of unless you allow it to happen. So...when he does something you don't like, call him on it immediately. If he's in your home, ask him to leave. If you are in his space, take a hike. Sooner or later he will realize that it is inappropriate behavior. Godloveya.

Answer 5

He is trying to make you feel guilty. You slapped him on the wrist and he didn't like it. He would say anything to push your buttons.
Don't fall for it.
When you sent him the e-mail first you should have left it at that. He responded correctly. He needed to feel bad about his actions.
Then you wrote back trying to make him feel better, after reprimanding him....
You messed up the whole thing by doing that.
I think you will be at square one again, cause he knows he can manipulate you, make you feel bad, play on your emotions......
Be firm and play tough love with him, or you are going to lose at his game, cause he knows all the moves.

Answer 6

I don't care what it was, but you better understand the rules, and the bounderies. If i am not making my slef clear. We gonna have to take harsher terms.

Answer 7

Brother sounds like he has issues. Space for both of you might be the answer that works best for now.

Answer 8

Stay away for awhile sounds like he has some issues

Answer 9

He is an ****, and totally will walk all over you

Answer 10

Let it go, if he wants to be unreasonable then let it go knowing you tried!