My 12 year old daughter went on a group date with some of her friends and their boyfriends, and yes, HER boyfriend. when they all came back to my house, the boys hung out with my SON and the girls hung out with my daughter. See, the thing is, when i went to check on the guys, my son was talking dirty to everyone in the room! OMG, what should I do?!?!
2007-01-26 03:31:02 · 42 answers · asked by jilly babe 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Lets see,um the kid is 13,which means he has just recently hit puberty,so that probably means his hormones are through the roof,
Whether you like to accept it or not,13 year old children talk dirty,because they are growing up and usually think they know everything! He was probably being one of the "guys",you know peer pressure and all.
If it turns out your son is gay,then be a supportive parent,and dont treat him like dirt just because his orientation is not what you want it to be.each person is their own,and they will be who they are whether you want it or not.
2007-01-26 07:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by deafeaglessoar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold your horses! The teens are/were a tough place for everyone and people (even grown ups) try and do different things to discover themselves and their identity. He's 13! He may or may not already have decided or know that he's gay. Chances are he has not even really thought about stuff like that! If you walked in or overheard your daughter talking about lesbian sex and how that might be interesting - does that make her lesbian? The only way you would know is if you continue to spend more time with him and continue to be open to what he has to say about anything. He might be gay and it's complicated being straight-teen and sometimes, more complicated being gay-teen. He will need support whichever way. I don't think dirty talking among the boys is the gauge at all.
2007-01-26 04:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by valo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by relaxing. There are alot of possible explanations many of which do not mean that he is gay.
First, it probably is just teenage boy goofing around stuff, especially if it was to everyone in the room. At the age of 13, he probably doesn't know much at all.
Have you tried talking to him? I would start by asking him about the appropriateness of his language and topics. Coming right out asking if he is gay in any type of accuatory or judgemental way will just shut him down.
And if he is gay? So what, he is still your child, still a growing human being and still deserves your love and support.
2007-01-26 03:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get down on your knees and pray to The Good Lord that he forgives you for daring to raise a gay boy in your Christian household. Beat your bare back with a cat-o-nine-tails until you bleed as penance.
Seriously, even if dirty talk at 13 instantly made him gay, what do you expect you could do about it? You can either prove your love by only hoping he finds love and fulfilment as you did or you can cast him out to fend for himself (although I imagine there are laws against that where you are). Either way should it be that he is gay (have you had a quiet chat with him about his use of language?) you won't be able to change him.
2007-01-26 04:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say "talking dirty" what do you mean? Was he simply using foul language, or was he trying to talk the other boys into sex?
Foul language is the norm for boys his age, I wouldn't worry about it.
But, even if he is Gay, so what? It won't be the end of the galaxy as we know it, and he'll still be your son. If you are really worried about him being Gay, you need to calm down. It's his sexuality, not yours. If you have any SERIOUS questions about this, contact your local chapter of PFLAG-Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
They can help a great deal with your fears.
2007-01-26 03:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, your 12 year old daughter is WAY to young for a boyfriend. and secondly who cares if your son is gay or not. Live and let live. Just talk to him and let him know that type of talk is not allowed for a CHILD that age.... Keep in mind 12 & 13 STILL CHILDREN.
2007-01-26 03:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by CheeseGoesBlub~~~~~~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start by getting over myself. Part of what boys at that age do is talk dirty to one another -- it has NOTHING to do with sexuality and a great deal to do with socialization.
Leave the boy alone -- gay or straight he is what he is -- let him grow up to be the person he is and be a loving parent -- which is what he will need regardless. While I do not think that his talking dirty to other boys means anything, I do think that if you care one whit, one way or another, who he prefers to sleep with -- then you are not only a lousy parent, but one that should have given your child up for adoption long ago.
Regards,
Reynolds
believienyou24@yahoo.com
2007-01-26 03:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your son is gay, then he's going to be gay... It's going to be very hard on him, so make sure you don't force him to talk about it sooner then when he's ready... He is your Son, and always will be, just be happy for him, accept whatever he decides to do. He may just be going through a phase in his life as well, plus, boys are boys, they may just be talking dirty for kicks and attention, don't worry too much about it. Good luck!
2007-01-26 04:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the course Growing Kids God's Way. It is SO practical. It will change your life! In this case, it will help you deal with him not coming to first time obedience. Mom shouldn't have to repeat herself 10 times! It talks about giving our children too many freedoms before their maturity level and how that poses problems. You are a mom, you are supposed to gripe! If no one cared about this boy to teach him, it will be harder for him to deal with life when he is older! There is a whole discipline chart to follow regarding obedience and I was surprised to see that because I always thought there should be a flow chart so we, as parents, know where to progress when our children need help to regulate their behavior. Good luck! ----Update---- Oh yeah, have him say "Yes, Mom." with whatever you ask him to do. It seems as though once a child confirms a yes, then they are obligated to do because it came out of their own mouths. But, if he still does not comply after saying "Yes, Mom" then it is outright defiance and it needs to be punished.
2016-05-24 01:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys talk dirty, straight or gay. I think you're over reacting just a bit.
All boys think about is dirty things, so it's not really to unexpected for a room of them to be talking dirty.
2007-01-26 03:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by Vantado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋