I just recently found out that one of my friends is pregnant and due to have the baby in May. I can tell that both she and her boyfriend are scared. I'm just as scared for them. What can I do to help them out?
* Neither of them are about to graduate, just to add to the dilemma. They have at least another year to go in their studies.
2007-01-26 03:30:51 · 12 answers · asked by Licia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I must add that I am currently in school myself, so I know that I can't offer any assistance as far as babysitting. Also, judging by what I know about their families, they may not have much support in this situation.
2007-01-26 03:45:20 · update #1
Your friend seems to be on a good path being in college as it is.
I would help her out as much as you can in terms of the baby.
You can get her things for the baby, do some research to see about daycares/moms in school type of thing. Try and help her to keep her options open so she can if she chooses to, continue her education.
There are options for her, she just may need some encouragement along the way. The schooling she has now will always be with her and help her toward furthering her eduction when the time is right.
Being there for her is great support, I am sure you just standing by her is helping more than you know.
Everything will be fine.
2007-01-26 03:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by katy k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how your friend feels. I too had a baby while still in college. As a matter of fact, I am only 22, working full-time, going to school full-time, and my son is almost 2 years old. I was so frightened when I found out that I was pregnant. However, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. My son is my life. He is what pushes me to become a better person, and to keep pushing forward no matter what. Dont get me wrong, it has been a very hard road to travel, but anything is possible when you set your mind to it. If you truely care about your friend, the best thing that you can do it to be there for her. Tell her that everything will work out, no matter if her and the father stay together. I know that she is young, and it is hard to tell where you will end up in the next few years. I promise that once your friend looks into her baby's eyes for the first time, her heart will melt. Just be there for her, show her that you care, and make sure that she takes care of herself.
2007-01-26 03:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by candyxss07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This i a hard situation. Maybe they should try to see if someone in the family can watch their baby during the lecture times. Or maybe one should do day school and the other night school.
Im in a some what similar situation but ive been engaged since auagust 2006. I just found out im pregnant, and im in university. Luckily my fiance is done school in april and already has a job lined up. So our plan is for me to do summer school and complete an entire semester course load, since im not due until the end of september. Then take off the fall semester and go back in the spring semester taking night classes mostly or late afternoon classes so that my fiance can watch the baby or his grandparents watch the baby for a few hours until he get home.
Tell them good luck, everything will work out in the end.
2007-01-26 03:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Leslie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found I was pregnant with my son a month before I graduated high school...started college that fall (he was born in Sept) and had him my second day of classes. I finished school in four years so them only having like a year to go isn't a big deal (at least not to me) It can be done you just have to be strong and just do it. Maybe you can reassure them that you'll be there for them if they need to talk or need some help. Things always have a way or working out I think and I'm sure they will be ok. Having an unplanned pregnancy sure is scary but well, there are a lot of people who do it..I'm one of them! Everything for me has turned out fine too...my bf (sons dad) and I got married and we have a home and we are expecting our second baby any day now!!! Just be there and be a good friend. Be supportive and let them know things will be ok and that they just have to adjust and some things in their lives will have to change but that baby will be the best thing in the world to them once it arrives!
2007-01-26 03:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Offer to babysit, if possible. Even if it is just when she is home so she can do her homework.
See what breastfeeding support is available at her school, and other programs regarding free pumps, lactation consultants and what not.
Basically just try to be there as much as you can to help with whatever she needs. Cook for them, help around the house, whatever. Even before the baby comes she may be very tired.
Just be a good friend and you will do fine!
2007-01-26 03:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't much you can do. Just be there for them as a friend and encourage them to stay in school. A year is not a long time at all, and they could always take online classes once the baby is born.
2007-01-26 03:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to check with their counselors at the college. A lot of colleges have day cares so they can have someone watch the baby while they are attending classes. A lot of single moms have graduated from college without the help of the baby's father so if they stick together they can do it.
2007-01-26 03:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They should seek help from guidance counselors at the college as the college more than likely has daycare centers for the students to use. This should keep them both in college. They should never be too proud to beg from friends and/or family if needed. "It takes a community to raise a child."
2007-01-26 03:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by AngieBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always offer to babysit when you know they have a big test coming up or a big project due(if you aren't in college or you don't have anything).
2007-01-26 03:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for them. They need support and to know that you will not judge them trust me they have thought about everything that you are concerned about and they just need someone to be there to talk to.
2007-01-26 03:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋