My daughter is driving us up a tree. We spend a lot of time playing with her, feeding her and making her happy but sometimes I need a break and she cries when I put her in her crib to play on her own lately. As soon as I pick her up and start showing her around she stops. the way she screams is so loud it shatters the nerves so I keep bouncing her and playing with her. Is she getting teeth, she was not always like this....I really do not know what to do. I have a flu and it is hard to take care of her right now so any tips on how to ease the crying would help...
2007-01-26 03:28:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
If she stops crying when you pick her up, that sounds good, like holding her is the answer. Babies need to be held to form brain cell connections - they only connect when baby is held!
A sling is a wonderful tool that can have you holding her while keeping your hands free. Teething does make kids cry.
Good luck and I hope you feel better soon. I had the flu with my first born and it was memorably awful - 14 years later.
Do not listen to these folks who think you can spoil a baby under one year of age. Babies have NEEDS to be with mommy. Look at gorillas and chimps - our very very close relatives. THEY NEVER PUT THEIR BABIES DOWN!!!! For years!!!
THis is how our babies evolved, this is what they need. It is not spoiling to answer your babies cries, it is teaching love, trust, reliability.
WHen a baby cries and mommy ignores her, there are so many bad effects. One, the brain is flooded with a stress hormone that impairs learning and increases stress and depression disorders. Two, the baby learns mommy isn't reliable and doesn't care when she's sad. Three, the baby learns her own efforts to help herself are useless, and tends to create passive kids.
2007-01-26 03:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by t jefferson 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Can she see you when she's in her crib to play? Maybe she feels abandoned. Perhaps if she heard your voice she'd feel better.
You most certainly need a break from time to time. Although I don't believe she's manipulating you at that age, she certainly does know that her crying gets you to hold her.
Do you have a bouncy seat? My daughter loved hers (from Fisher Price) since it was something she could interact with. The seat itself is soft and can be comforting to a little one. It also has a vibration function that can be soothing.
Does your daughter use a pacifier? My daughter started using one at around 6 months, and it can certainly be soothing, especially if there is a teething problem.
It's always hard when you're sick. Maybe you just need to lie her down on the bed with you. You could put some barriers on one side of the bed so she can't roll off. Your body would keep her from rolling off the other side.
Good luck and I hope you feel better soon!
2007-01-26 03:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my experirence, babies prefer being with mom (or their primary caregiver) most of the time. Mine sure did! It can be really hard when it feels like they're continuously attached to you, but their need for that is completely normal. A sling or other type of soft carrier is indispensible, as is having other caring people around who can take a turn holding her. I think a lot of what makes parenting hard is the feeling of doing it on your own.....they say it takes a village to raise a child, but I'd settle for just a small crew to help out! And especially when you're sick - you DO need a break. I would highly recommend getting some help from family and friends to ease the demand on you.
2007-01-26 03:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kim S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my son recently, this is what the doctor said. Separation anxiety kicks in high gear at 6 months. They miss you and want to be near you. Leave her alone with a toy and walk out of the room, when you come back give her a kiss so that she knows you will return, do this a least several times a day and she will realize that its okay for her to be on her own. Its not that she is spoiled, it just means she loves you a lot and wants to be with you. My son finally got out of the habit. He would cry if I walked into the kitchen from the living room, I would pop my head back in the living room to see if he was okay and he'd immediately stop crying and smile at me. This too shall pass, its just a phase, however it does return around 11 to 12 months. Good Luck!
2007-01-26 03:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mare 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she has you trained. Those little buggers are smart and know just what to do to make you come running. You could let her cry a little and try to play with her without picking her up. Do a littel bit at a time. Ten fifteen minuts of play might be a pretty good start. If you start now you can avoid having to contantly pick up a ten month old...they only get bigger and smarter!
The other thing is if your baby isn't sitting or isn't a competent sitter play can be frustrating. Try using a boppy pillow or bumbo seat so he/she can sit up and play. It makes playing a whole different world.
2007-01-26 03:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by jc2006 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can not "spoil" a baby that young. Things I have tried with my children are a johnny jumper, bear in the big blue house was a hit wiht my twins when they were under 1. Certain music wil have a calmin effect. I am sorry you are having a hard time but it will get better
2007-01-26 03:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by DNA 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be near her. Try laying on the floor (on something soft) with her while she plays then she will feel she is clsoe to you. Also try a carrier. Or get someone over to help.
This is a phase, and it will pass, probably faster if you don't push her by making her CIO. That doesn't make it any easier to deal with when you are sick, but just find a way.
2007-01-26 03:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's spoiled to death! My son starting teething a 6 months so it could be this. You can use orajel and maybe some tylenol if you think she's having pain. Just look at her gums and see if they look sorta blistered or maybe white. Or they can also have red cheeks or diarreha while teething. Try to get her to start playing independently. I used to put a blanket on the floor and put him some toys on it and try to get him to play. They are very demanding at this age. I hope that you feel better soon!
2007-01-26 03:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That is the same thing i am dealing with now too.
I think we have spoiled our children.
everytime i pick her up and play with her she is fine, but once i put her down she throws a fit. And so i have to pick her back up. I try to station her around from swing to bouncer and what not and sometime that will work. Sometimes i just have to put her in bed and let her cry because i am at wits end. She will stop crying after like five ten minutes.
Ask for hlep if you need it. Ask grandma grandpas aunts sisters...i am sure they'd be happy to hlep.
2007-01-26 03:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
provide her a cuddle and positioned on some song to appease her, she is lacking her mummy. do not trouble you're doing all that you'll. I do imagine it is totally egocentric of her mom to have left a six month previous infant with you, at that age they do in contrast to lengthy sessions remote from their father and mom.
2016-10-16 03:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by sharona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋