i am so fed up with people making decisons for me all the time. i seem to bow to the pressuer that they put me under and it always makes me unhappy. How can i start standing up for myself withut hurting peoples feelings???
2007-01-26 03:22:10 · 15 answers · asked by welshwife 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
not sure of your age
but dont try and take on everyone at the same time
try and sit down with just one person to begin with and explain to them how you are feeling, and ask them to trust your judgement on making your own decisions
once you have tackled the first person then move on to the next
be firm but polite about things, no one has the right to make you feel unhappy........ but they probably dont mean to
they probably think they are doing it for the best and they have your best interests at heart.
but they will have to learn one day that you are going to make your own decisions
good luck and cheer up
2007-01-26 03:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥gigi♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one, don't become a democrat. Thats all they want you to do.
Now Let me digress a minute.
When you do something, ask yourself these questions. If all the answers are not yes to whatever anyone wants you to do or what you believe you want to do then don't do it. This is the toughest decision people have to make and the reason the country is going downhill is when somebody does or says anything, all the answers to these questions do not come out yes. "Maybe" does not fit into the equation.
1. Is it the truth when you do it or say it?
2. Will it hurt anybody else?
3. Is is ethically and morally sound?
4. Is it for the good of all concerened?
The biggest problem is where does your moral standards come from? If you are presenting a morally sound judgement and all the questions are yes, then perhaps someone's feelings have to be hurt to allow them to grow up.
2007-01-26 11:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by KIB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to stop worrying about hurting other peoples feelings. You have every right to be a happy person and to continually do as others want you to do doesnt make you happy. You need to realize that they obviously dont have the same concern for your feelings since they always want you to do something you really dont want to do. You seem to be a bit of a pushover (sorry). Honey, it isnt selfishness to stand up for yourself, its self preservation. I cannot tell you how to be stronger because you are basically asking how to change a personality trait. Its entirely up to you to realize you need to stop being a doormat and worrying about what others think of you.
2007-01-26 11:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're fed up, so you admit there's a problem. Where i use to work there were about 3,000 people in the post office. People automatically used to look at me try to take advantage and everyday i use to get into an arguement with someone. In the end i said to someone 'get all the people who hate me in here and tell 'em to meet me outside'. If you say something MEANT IT! F.U.C.K their feelings.
2007-01-26 21:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breathe when someone speaks for you and correct them nicely but firmly.
At least you know you have to do something about it, that's the first step
Good luck..
2007-01-26 11:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always say no before yes and give your self time to think about it. Never justify your decision to someone who is trying to manipulate you. REBEL other wise you will be dominated all your life.
2007-01-26 11:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by : 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sod the lot of them, say no and mean it, if you have to say no and walk away, then do it. Just remember that these people are hurting your feelings, once they realise that no means no it will all change.
2007-01-26 11:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep a Ak7 fully automatic machine gun in your bag and wait until everyone is pissing you off, when you are at the end of your teather remove the AK from your bag and continue to mow everyone down in the vicinity like them stupid american kids
2007-01-26 11:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by Chris M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to be happy before you can make others happy. you need to have a serious talk with these people.
2007-01-26 11:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by peanut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(see this is why i take yoga) stand your ground girl and definetly tel them that you have a mouth and can talk for yourself. they probably don't know they are doing it and that its bothering you.
TAKE A STAND. GIRL POWER!!! whooooo
2007-01-26 14:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋