wants to have sex anymore and i want it every day!!! why is this its like i have to force him to do it!? what the hell is that about and how do i get him to pay more attention to me he wont listen to what i have to say?!
2007-01-26 03:01:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds to me like that is cause for concern. Especially if he used to and now he doesn't.
You might want to investigate on that one.
2007-01-26 07:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has attention deficit? Maybe he's just exhausted or under stress? I know I get a lower sex drive when I'm stressed. Is he more interested in things are more passive, like watching TV? Taking new medication?
Not that you do, but if you nag him about it, then he'll just find you irritating and try to slip into a more passive role.
Try to get his attention by maybe doing a little strip tease or wear some nice lingerie. Don't be discouraged if he rejects your advances the first time. Try again when he's more relaxed, and try again. If he still isn't budging, then maybe counseling? Low sex drive does not necessarily equate to having an affair. There are a lot more likely reasons for low sex drive.
2007-01-26 11:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sure isn't easy for you. And the more you are deprived of it, the more intense those desires get. In my case, it's probably the other way around. So, I know how you feel. And by now you would've realized that forcing isn't the solution. It only creates more drift and lack of passion.
You probably might have tried a few things differently ~ like trying something more playful and naughty, even performing on him to arouse him more, or dressed more erotic, etc. I do believe you would have tried some of them at least.
Beyond all your one-sided attempts, there's really nothing much we can do to get them to be as passionate and interested in sex. I can tell that from my personal experience. If you'd like to, feel free to IM/email me. Good luck :-)
2007-01-26 11:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Me,
Do you find yourself attractive? Your husband married you because he loved you correct? Is the husband masturbating? Tell him how much you need him and you have to have the intimacy of sex to satisfy your needs. This should make your husband think! Try being naked everyday when he comes home. Ask him if he's gay (not implying that he is). Talk to him and tell him specifically you do not plan to be married with someone who doesn't want you for who you are (a wife has needs, just as a man does). I wish you the best of luck in the future.
2007-01-26 11:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've come to believe that different people have different sex drives. It seems as if your hubby just has lost interest in sex, and is under the impression that it is o.k. for him to leave you "without".
It's like, if he doesn't want sex, then he feels like he has no obligation to see to it that you remain sexually happy.
I really feel sympathy for you. I've been without for 2.5 years.
There is a group for people in our predicament - SWAGE
Its a good bunch of people that can relate to all the horrible **** being sexually abandoned / neglected can put you through.
People with happy sex lives have no sympathy for those of us that have been treated unfaithfully by our mates in this manner.
They'll try to make it seem like it is something your not doing, or something you have done wrong. They don't know what it is like to deal with the rejection...
Some will even call you a whiner for saying anything... others will try to callously "hit" on you. This is a serious problem in your well-being, but who is willing to face it head on with compassion?
Not Dr. Phil... Not Oprah... Not the ignorant.
2007-01-26 11:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either he is getting it somewhere else or he's just not physically attracted to you anymore. If you're in shape and attractive then something is going on. If you're over weight and you've kinda "let yourself go" then that's the reason.
2007-01-26 11:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by gozedown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but when men or women do this, it might be because there getting it somewhere else. You need to have a talk with him about this. Need a stand in, lol.
2007-01-26 11:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first read this book "the proper care and feeding of husbands" or " the proper care and feedig of marriage" those books helped me soooo much but how strange for a guy not to want sex......???
2007-01-26 11:11:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man's sex drive decreases as he gets older. A woman's increases.
A man's drive is at it's peak when he is in his late teens. A woman's is when she is in her 30s. Funny joke God played on us, isn't it?
2007-01-26 11:23:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband goes through periods of not wanting sex, but it is when he is extremely tired and only lasts a day or so.
2007-01-26 11:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋