After a heated debate last night with my partner I want to know from ADULTS if they were affected in any way by being brought up by parents of the same sex?? On the TV last night there was something on about gay couples adopting babies and children and I got quite angry with my partner when he said it shouldn't be allowed - I disagreed with him and he said it was unfair as it would seriously affect the child when it was older.
So I want to know if you have been affected by it or not!! I believe that people whether they are gay or not should be allowed to raise children and I think the problem lies with society for not accepting this - surely it is better for children to be raised in a loving home and does it matter if the people raising them are gay or not!!
2007-01-26 02:45:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thank you guys - I personally don't know of any people that were raised by gay couples which didn't help my argument but now I can go back and finish this conversation with him.
2007-01-26 03:03:20 · update #1
My son is Almost an adult, but I can tell you from knowing him what he would tell you.
He has been raised by two lesbians since he was very young. He's never once been teased, bullied, harassed or harmed in anyway.
He has always just seen my partner as another step-parent just like his father's wife is.
His friends simply never really cared who he was parented by, but rather what kind of a person he is.
My partner and I know most of his friends' parents and we actually all get along just fine. They all know we're lesbians and simply couldn't care less. They see what kind of a child we've raised and how hard working, honest, caring and compassionate he is. They know him to be talented and charismatic.
He's one of those kinds of kids people just automatically like.
Many of his friends parents and ourselves have held cook-outs and get-togethers where we all chat about our kids and enjoy being involved parents.
We've had nothing but compliments by other straight parents on what a great job we've done raising our son. In turn we compliment them on being and raising their kids to be just as open minded.
We all have a great laugh and it's simply a non-issue from there on out.
oh...and just in case you're wondering...our son is straight, but we didn't think any less of him, he's still our son and we love and support him no matter what.
2007-01-26 03:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have been together 13 years. I brought into the relationship 3 children. Our daughter is now 29, sons are 23 and 19. I can honestly say that all three are the most well adjusted, happy indivduals you would ever meet. Our house was the "Kool-Aid" house growing up. All their friends enjoyed being there. Our kids have never had a problem with our relationship so why should anyone else. They honestly believe that it has made them more understanding of others. So maybe they were affected.
2007-01-26 03:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by wilwell 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact is that heterosexuality is the 'norm'. I know all the arguments about 'what is normal', but continuation means heterosexuality. Homosexuality has no 'point' other than pleasure, and of course, fullfillment, for gays.
Think of the child being brought up by a same sex couple. His world is different, out of step with the majority. At the very least, it will be extremely confusing, and the child may well grow up thinking his or her situation is absolutely normal, when in fact , it is not! Humans have a deep-seated antipathy to homosexuality
which homosexuals find it hard to understand. One is tempted to say it is entirely a biological, deepseated feeling, and is in fact experienced by some homosexuals. They 'know' it is not quite right, and staying in the closet, for many, is partly because of that feeling. I treat my gay friends like I do my heterosexual friends, but for everyones sake, I do wish it were not there. Most people, and I think I can include homosexuals, would want their children to be 'in-step', that is, heterosexual.
2007-01-26 09:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
This is a difficult subject. I don't live in the U.S. (I did when I was younger tho)...and I'm a lesbian. From pressure from my parents, I decided to get a boyfriend...I ended up pregnant and now my baby boy is 1 yr. and 4 months old. I'm going through a very hard time right now. My baby's father wants to take my baby away from me just because I'm a lesbian. The goverment supposedly has the right to do so...the good thing is that they don't have a way to prove my sexual orientation. It's so freaking messed up...they compare homosexuality with prostituion, drug addiction/trafficking, child abuse, etc....now I have to pretend I'm straight, even get married or something...gross...
But to answer your question, I agree with you. It's not about how homosexual parents raise a child, it's how soceity doesn't accept it. The majority of homosexuals are raised by heterosexaul parents, and why are we gay?
2007-01-26 04:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My last boyfriend was thinking about having a baby with my sister (lesbian) sometime in the future. I liked the idea, I'd be more or less raising my niece/nephew as my own child. My bf loved the idea of having a child that would be related to both of us. But I'm not with him any more (though he is my sisters best friend, so who knows what they might still be planning), and it takes a special kind of relationship to make me consider raising a child.
2016-03-29 03:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised two straight boys from their early teens to adulthood. I will see if Mike has time to comment on this if I see him in the next couple of days (we don't live far apart, but he and his wife and Jonathan and I all work alot). I'm sure Pete would have been happy to comment, but he passed over after an automobile accident two years ago coming home for Thanksgiving. I still miss him very much.
I'm sorry that unless Mike has time to comment though I can't really answer your question the way you wanted.
Peace,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-01-26 03:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't raised in a gay household but my husband, partner, bf, whatever you want to call him, and I are raising my 14 yo son. And we are doing a damn good job of it. His school grades were poor and he was failing, his social skills were almost non-existant, and he was having to see a psychaitrist monthly for a diagnosis of Bi-polar disease. He moved here from his STR8 mothers house last April with all these problems, but now is passing all classes, has alot of friends, and is slowly coming of the medicine for a problem we believe was just caused by depression and anxiety. And BTW - he has a girlfriend- oh wow not gay even tho living in gay house! Hmmmmmm
2007-01-26 02:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by reb 1 · 6⤊ 1⤋
My father was Bi.... i found this out by meeting his gay lover of many years after his death....that messed my head up more than being from a str8 partnership and thinking i was wrong for being gay all my life! I don't think it matters which sexual path you travel as long as your honest with yourself and the people who come with you for the ride... the world is weird and people are weirder...lol
2007-01-27 07:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. . .I think as long as its a loving home it shouldnt matter. . . I had my mom and her friend raise me and I am fine. They weren't gay, but they have always lived together.
2007-01-26 03:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_treat101 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't personally know anyone, and I doubt that it's very common as it's only been the last few decades that homosexual couples have been allowed to adopt.
2007-01-26 02:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋