i am a brother of three and am treated the worst and it's suffocating.
2007-01-26 02:15:14 · 7 answers · asked by rjhamuk 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Yes, I'm the middle child of three. I had two sisters, and it seemed I took the brunt of a lot of things as well. Being the middle child, sometimes it's hard to figure out just where you fit in. The older one was cherished as the first, and the younger one is "daddy's little girl", and the baby. Most often, it felt like I had to work twice as hard for half the recognition. So, for the most part, I gave up trying to win my parents' affection and marched to the beat of my own drum. Unless I did something bad to warrant their negative attention, I was pretty much ignored.
I think that's why I'm so independent now as an adult. Unlike my sisters, who run back to our parents every time they have a problem. I also moved out-of-state, and rarely see or speak to my family. You reap what you sow.
So, keep your chin up. You'll be a stronger individual than your brothers. Even if it seems so far away, 18 comes fast, and you can make a smooth transition into the real world away from your parents.
2007-01-26 02:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Karma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer and it may be many years before you find out the real reason. Also it is not until you get older leave home and let the dust settle that you can look at it objectively. The problem also may not be with you but with your parents. All I can recommend is don't make the situation any worse just get on with you life to the best of your ability. Don't let it get you down, things do get better.
2007-01-26 10:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
sorry to hear bout your situation. Are you old enough to move out, as you don't say? Maybe its time to leave and start a new life where people would appreciate you and you can be loved by someone else.
Goodluck
2007-01-26 10:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by kylie_rm13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guy was the eldest of 3 and can't ever remember any affection at all , he didn't have a father and his mother struggled so hard to feed them that there just wasn't time for it . for him being good was not being seen or heard and being bad was asking for something that was not absolutely vital (even if it was school that wanted it not him) his younger brother and sister didn't have it so bad because they looked to him for comfort and when they accidentally broke something he would take the blame (and beating) for it .
still he loved his mother and knows she loved him , life was just hard that's all . he says it is his upbringing that made him who he is and he gives thanks to his mum because she taught him that he can take anything that life can throw at him and face it alone without fear .
2007-01-26 10:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever think that you're not worth anything or beyond love.
"Seek and you will find"....as the saying goes.
It's been my great pleasure to love a couple of people who never got loved at home, and whilst it took a while, their first smiles, the first laughter and the way they started to love themselves, was just the most marvellous experience.
2007-01-26 13:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by musonic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. You just have to keep telling yourself that you are worth something and then go out and prove it to yourself in positive ways.
2007-01-26 10:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad. There's not much you can do about other's actions, just don't let their actions change who you are in your heart.
2007-01-26 10:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy Lake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋