My ex-friend and I have been friends with benefits for the past 4 months but lately his closed me off because he dont feel comfortable dating someone and we're really good close friends. He feels like its unfair to her and all I dont know what I should because its not the first time that his closed me off as his friend and all he can offer me right now is a few nights a week for about 5-10 minutes. When we use to talk almost everynight for hours about things. I'm just not sure if I want to put myself in a situtation where I can get hurt again. He knows that I would like for us to get back together someday but for now I'm ok with good close friends I just want that chance to see if things can work. We dated for 11 months and were exemetly close and had a deep connection but things ended badly and I just want to see if things could work if we matured some more. I just dont know how to handle the position he has put me in.
2007-01-26 02:13:14 · 9 answers · asked by softball_badgirl_169 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, he only wanted you for a booty call. Someone always gets hurt when it comes to friends with benefits. He wants to date other people, so stop waiting around for him. When him and his new compantion stop seeing each other, hes going to only want to have sex with you again, but thats it. Never wait around for someone, because you might miss the right one!
2007-01-26 02:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by chizzylene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad truth is some relationships that get broken can change things from what they were....especially when a new relationship has begun with someone else. It sounds like your friend is right....how would you feel in his girl friend's place if things were reversed? You wouldn't want him spending time with you.
I also think this is a relationship you really miss....you may have broken it off for the right reasons, and time may change things if you know each other so well....but you need to back off for now and let him decide if he wants to come back at a later time.
You can't hold onto
the old relationship and it would be better for you to just let it go for now. He is right, and trying to treat his new girl friend fairly.
2007-02-03 05:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start by facing the fact that you are no more than a booty call to that man now. You never go from friends to friends with benefits. He doesn't respect you and he could care less how you feel about him and the other girl. You need to get more respect for yourself. If you want a man to appreciate you then don't be a w h o r e. It's that simple. Sorry if the truth hurts, but it needs to be said. Thank you.
2007-01-26 10:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yal are definitely on different pages! he is moving on and only using u as a rebound til he gets someone new! take the time to re-read what u wrote out loud so u can hear how silly this situation is when the obvious is right in fornt of ur face!
2007-01-26 10:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by foxzie006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pursue your peace and let him have the other apple.
2007-01-26 10:31:01 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to find someone else after awhile he will feel wierd and want to come back to you and talk
2007-01-26 10:20:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could just close your legs.
2007-01-26 10:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep your distance and be supportive.
2007-01-26 10:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by stricklins 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
JUST FORGET HIM.GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
2007-01-26 10:17:42 · answer #9 · answered by amadeus_denis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋