i have been with him for over 6 months and am extremely satisfied with our relationship. we have a really good sex life, so thats not the problem. thoughts of cheating on him keep popping up in my mind and its driving me crazy! someone please help me! why am i thinking this way and how can i stop it!!!?
2007-01-26 02:09:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No one can tell you why or what you are thinking. You didn't say you were going to do it. But you said it's making you crazy. Fish or cut bait Hon.To take this seriously, I would say that guys are so absolutely gorgeous you can't stand it and that it's as easy as rolling down a hill. Brad Pitt?? Cut me some slack and Get Outta My Way-----I'm Coming Through! So Wow. Don't fill out a form (or a diary) for your lover/boyfriend to find because writing secrets down is dumber than mud!! Diary or Journal just Screams READ MY INNERMOST THOUGHTS! (like I'm doing here) I think you're normal because those men are some powerful stuff and I'm old enough to tell you it never stops!! (and yada yada yada) Right now I'm sitting here listening to Toby Keith sing just to me and no one else!! Yes, I want him!! Because I am a bad person and should be shot!! Right?? Just don't tell your guy because he has a delicate ego and he probably hates girls that think like ALL OF US DO!!! But do not cheat on him please. That is not fair. Then he can't trust you and he has a right to choose what kind of person he's with too. Women should NEVER cheat-----never!! If you respect him at all, you won't cheat on him.
There now!! Find some smarter people than me to talk to you. There are So Many!! It's so true!!! They're all here and trying to find you. Stay Sweet But Faithful Darlin', @8-)
Sorry to make you sound young if you're not. WAIT A MINUTE!!
I'm apologizing for making you sound YOUNG!! Hey somebody do that for ME!! @8-)
2007-01-26 03:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are either upset with yourself for some reason and want to damage yourself for a mistake you made or you are upset with him for something he did and you want to hurt him and believe this is the way to do this. This may be conscious or not conscious. Either way you are going to disrespect yourself as well as disrespect him. There is a reason for this and you need to ask the reason as to why? If you don't know then seek help NOW before you potentiallly lose site of the innocence of intimacy and love. There is nothing fun about cheating for anyone involved. Do not think it is a joke or laughing matter as i see in these posts. Do not ever believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater". If you make the devastating mistake of cheating, learn from it and move on and never make the same mistake again. Coming from experience i lost a marriage and although i can make all the excuses in the world, the main one being that " i warned him" and i did...............i still made the CHOICE that ultimately changed myself and my life forever. Please do not take that path, you will not like where it takes you. If you want to cheat take a break from the relationship to be alone for a time from everyone. I hope you will trust me on this one. If not.............you'll have to live and learn and you'll come out of it with the scars and pieces picked up and remember my post.
2007-01-26 02:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are immature. At least you don't say that you love your boyfriend. Perhaps you should consider not seeing any guy for a year or so until you figure out why you feel compelled to cheat, because it's just not right or fair to the person you are seeing. You are the only person who can control your mind and obviously you are not satisfied in your relationship or you wouldn't give a damn about any other guy.
2007-01-26 02:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex is only one part of a relationship. If you are thinking of cheating, you have not totally committed to that relationship or there is something missing from it that. It could also be that you have seen others doing that so it doesn't seem to be as bad a thing in your mind as it should be. It might also help to draw a line down the center of a piece of paper and on one side list the reasons to be faithful and on the other the reasons to move on with someone else. think of how you would feel if he cheated on you also and either commit to that relationship or move on and try again with someone else
2007-01-26 02:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe be is not meeting a psychological or physical need for you...maybe you need spice in your sex life, do role play and pretend to be someone else. IF, all this doesn't...leave him because thee something missing.
2007-01-26 02:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps it is because you are an immature adolescent.
In time you will grow up and reflect that your 'bedding' someone at your early age was not the brightest of your ideas.
2007-01-26 02:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kunta Kinte 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your a person who doesn't like commitment. This reminds me of a dumb saying that has some relevance.....Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-26 02:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by chris j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not just get another lover so this is not a thought just do it find other lovers, just do it just do it something aint right here you are not satified! your lying and dont even know it your miserable really he is not good for you and you know you are of no good for him leave him be he needs you NOT!
BYE BYE!
2007-01-26 02:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheat on him. If it bothers you don't do it again. If it feels like the right thing to do dump him and live single.
2007-01-26 02:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Max Power 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's the psychological rush you get at the thought of being deceitful!!!
2007-01-26 02:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋