2007-01-26 01:56:24 · 39 answers · asked by just_another_emo_duck 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No you re not. At 13 you made the best choice for you, your family and the child. Please keep in mind this is a very controversial question. You are bound to have PRO LIFE people telling you you are. Ignore them.
2007-01-26 02:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by E-Razz 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
you only think with a mind of a 13 year old.. there was someone else, perhaps an adult that took you or the person performing the abortion.. thats the real murderer. the thing is you knew that you were killing a fetus. and you willing went to do it, you also knew you should have giving the child for adoption..thats why you indeed are a murderer in your own eyes and some peoples eyes.. however, what you did not know is, this.....cause you thought as a child of 13, you were pretty dumb and selfish that you thought you would not get pregnant.... however, the only thing you did not know was... that your body was not ready to have a child and you would have died...the bible clearly states you have the right to defend yourself to live.. and you did live... regarless of what each person was thinking when you went there... it was meant to be... that makes you innocent and you are not a murderer cause you would have died having the child.. it also makes you dumb, too.. so be smart and don't let it happen again till you are older and get married...
2007-01-30 00:40:53 · answer #2 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I gotta say this: All you "PRO-LIFERS" you are so sick. You tell this young GIRL that she's a murderer. The ones of you that do so in the name of the bible are very wrong! I'll even tell you why: It's because in this "bible" that you so adore and obviously follow to the very last word you are breaking God's Laws! You should not be judging this young GIRL. But you do. You are going against the bible. Remember in the bible it says one sin is not worst than the other. DO YOU READ YOUR BIBLE??? WHAT MAKES YOU GOD AND ABLE TO JUDGE THIS GIRL???
Now to the asker: Honey, you are not a murderer. You did make a mistake and for YOU that was the best answer. I have no stand either way on abortion, I wouldn't do it but I still allow for others to make their own choices. You are not a murderer.
I do hope that you learned from this though. Either stop having sex [best idea] or use a condom. Trust me you could have gotten something a lot worst than having an abortion. You could have gotten HIV. YOU WOULD HAVE DIED. People need to realize that STD's are very dangerous and deadly. Please, treat yourself with enough respect to do the right thing. Either stop having sex or use a condom.
2007-01-26 05:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're asking people not to judge you, but at the same time asking them if you are a murderer. Do you want honest answers, or do you just want someone to make you feel better? I'm going to be honest, not because I want to be nasty, but because that is the only thing that's going to help you in the long run. Killing an innocent human being is murder. You killed an innocent human being. I know this is hard to see, but this is what abortion did to your son or daughter:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
I want you to know that there is a free, confidential post-abortion counseling program available at http://www.healinghearts.org If you sign up for the study, you will be paired with an email counselor, most likely a woman who has aborted a child herself. They can help you. Please try it.
2007-01-28 12:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope it was your decision and that you were not pressured into it. What about the father? Is he your age? True, you are too young to handle a baby. I wish adoption was the route you had taken. But you can not undo what's been done.
Know that your child is in heaven now and if you are a Christian or become a Christian you will see him or her one day. Don't despair. Your child is safe with the Lord. Just ask for forgiveness and the Lord will give it if you are sincere in your heart.
Live your life with peace in your heart but don't let this situation happen again. You are so young-too young to deal with something like this. I hope you never have to go through this again. I wish you all the best.
2007-01-26 02:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Starfire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No sweetheart, you are not a murderer. You gave yourself the opportunity of life. Just make sure that you don't get into that position again. If you are going to have sex (which you shouldn't at this age) then use condoms or at the very least get on birth control. The easiest thing for you would be the depo shot because you only have to go to the doctor to get the shot every three months. Keep in mind that you are most likely to get pregnant 14 days after the first day of your last period. So if you start your period on the 1st then you will be fertile arong the 15th of the month. Pray for forgiveness and don't let it happen again.
2007-01-26 02:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by micg 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No you are not at 13 you are mentally and physically not ready to have a baby you made the best decision you possibly could under very difficult circumstances please don't be so hard on yourself you are human and people make mistakes just be more careful next time you decide to have sex or better yet don't have sex anymore I am truly sorry that a girl your age had to go through such an ordeal I think you should talk to a counselor or some other trusted adult who can help you better understand your decisions. Good Luck to you
2007-01-26 02:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Expect judgement... both from other people AND from God, when that day comes. IMO, yes, a child was killed. I would not call you a murderer. I would say you are foolish and should not be having sex... if you don't learn from this experience and do it again, then I would call you a murderer since you could have prevented this. There is NO excuse to get pregnant in this day and age if you don't want to be. I hope you spoke to your parents about this and I hope you choose a man next time who will not have sex with a child.
2007-01-26 04:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're not a murderer. You did exactly what you should have. You are too young to have a baby and you can't deal with the presures of raising a child. It saved you a lot of problems and it's good that you took responsibility for what you've done.
2007-01-29 01:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by World of Suffering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetheart your not. Everyone can't handle being a parent right now especially if they are 13.
I would suggest that you hold out on sex for a while (you see where it has gotten you) an focus more on your education. You should be thinking about education and not boys they get you in trouble at that age. I think you should learn from your mistakes and never do it again until your married.
2007-01-26 06:17:50 · answer #10 · answered by Student 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! You aren't a murderer! It is natural for a person who has had an abortion to feel that way. Please don't listen to people who say you did the wrong thing. You are only 13! You have your whole life ahead of you. Could you imagine what having a baby at 13 would be like? Is there a non judgemental person you can talk to just to vent and unload some of your feelings? Does the clinic you went to offer a counselling service? Having an abortion can be a very emotional experience especially at your very youthful age as pregnancy really is for adults who are ready for a baby. Especially considering the expense and the responsibility of having a child. Please be careful in the future kiddo. If the pregnancy was a result of a sexual assault, you really should get help. Please take care and enjoy being a kid! Believe me it goes so fast!
2007-01-26 02:27:05 · answer #11 · answered by sydney77 6 · 2⤊ 5⤋