i met two they were awful one got chuked off for giving a woman abuse and he was abusive to me. horrible
2007-01-26 01:50:59 · 24 answers · asked by denise g 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm attractive, intelligent, and a great catch. Never had a problem attracting men. However, I was a single mom, and didn't have the opportunity to meet people in my day to day life. Online dating was a good thing for me. I wasn't desperate at all. It was just an easy way for me to screen people, and to meet people I wouldn't have the occasion to encounter otherwise.
I tried a couple of dating sites. I found that just like the real world, there are all kinds of people on these sites. There are horrible men out there in real life, so there are also horrible people on dating sites. But there are also good men out there on dating sites, just like there are good men out there in the real world. In general, the higher the monthly fee for the dating site, the better the quality of people you met. Not always, but most of the time... Anywhere you go, there are going to be all kinds of people. You really have to increase your screening methods, and know what to look for. Have your friends help you screen these guys and give you their opinion.
When I was doing online dating, I certainly did run across some real jerks and there are a lot of players out there (just like the real world). The internet does make it easier for them to play the field. But I also met some nice guys too... Some I didn't have any chemistry with, others it just wasn't right. But I finally found the right one, and we've been married for 6 months.
Just be smart about it. Don't meet people in a public place, don't tell them your last name or where you live until you know a LOT about them. (Where they work, their friends, etc.) Learn to use your intuition. Chances are, you felt something "wrong" or "off" about these guys and you ignored your intuition. When I made a bad choice, that's where I messed up every single time (ignoring my intuition).
Good luck!
2007-01-26 03:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sharpie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had met 7 different men on a dating site over say 8 months. First one met me and showed photos of the girls hes having sex with. Second one drugged my drink. Third one took over and left his jacket ( I figure he was married!); next one was a no show, next date was my bday he did not show up. He did not call me until 2 days later and said he has his wife show up (he left her 6 months before and told me they live separate). Next one things went very well for 6 weeks then he dumped me by text on a Friday morning. A week later he took me back just to buy me a nice dinner (must have felt guilty). I found out hes on multiple dating sites and has many women for 14 yrs now and this man is 60! Then his friend asked me out who I had met before, I met him for a drink. It was not a real date really he was knocking his friend down. We text and we went out again later in the week. Then he said he wants to stay friends 'for now" due to his best friend its a twisted situation. We texted for about 5 days then his dating profile disappeared and not a peep since, its been a month now. I never did get his phone number but he has mine. He was flirting like crazy with me at his friend's condo when I was dating his friend so really confused as to why he would do that and then not stick around. He claims hes too busy at work and with his life...then he was the one to find me on the dating site and asked me on a date...like why bother. After all this hell I deleted my profile Ill never go on a dating site again. Also almost all men say they want a relationship its a lie they want one date or 2 and sex then another woman! Only maybe 2% of good men on there.
2015-10-27 02:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple if they were worth a damn they would already have found a partner.
Now for a lady to be in a dating site that's different she is there because the few good guys are already taken and she is in hopes to find what she is looking for outside her circle of friends etc.
but sadly as you have found out there are just not many to be found
I am a guy married 36 years it was the same in my day for Lady's then too.
2007-01-26 02:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a senior and recently retired. I've been on several dating sites (OurTime, Match, POF, eHarmony), one at a time, for several years, and sad to say most of the men on them are horrible, esp. the paid ones, which baffles me. If they're actually are nice guys, then they're terribly shy or so stuck in the past and all they can talk about is their ex and how nasty they were to them during the divorce. I'm really so sick of all this crap I could scream. Why don't men realize to constantly ***** about your ex puts a negative light on any future relationship? Women will not see you in a good light and move on to the next guy.
2014-09-11 23:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it there are 2 types of people on dating sites.
1. People who may not have the time/social skills to meet people in the customary manners and use the Internet to make it a little more efficient.
2. People who are so reprehensible that they need the anonymity of the Internet in order to even get there foot in the door to meet someone.
Unfortunately you seem to be getting the men in group 2. You may want to expand your screening process a little before agreeing to meet with anyone or maybe consider a different dating site. I believe some sites have a screening process in order to become a member to (hopefully) reduce the number of dirtballs that join.
Good Luck.
2007-01-26 02:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by glibby3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they can hide behind a nicer persona on the site. Don't meet up with anyone until you have got to know them a bit on email and by phone, even then make sure it is during the daytime and in a public place.
I met my partner on a dating site and we have been very happy for 4 years now and going strong. We feel lucky to have met online as our paths wouldn't have crossed otherwise.
2007-01-26 02:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by MinaF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woopwoop, Maury show! No, I'm just kidding you. Are you serious? 11 years and this man is signing on sites like that as divorced as widowed? Does your friends know about this? Confront him with other people as it will act as witness and pressure. Do you have the feeling that he is, if not, already cheating on you with other women? Does he show the signs, high amount of perfume, coming home late at night (12am +), stopped paying attention to you unless it's an emergency, possession of women's clothing that is not yours, text messages, etc. If he says your marriage is through, kick his *** to the curb! You deserve WAY, WAY better than this man, even after 11 years of marriage. If you find the right man, you can go WAY BEYOND 11 years! :)
2016-05-24 01:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess cos they find it difficult to find a date normally hence why the go to the dating sites.... but I'm sure not all men on the dating sites will be horrible.
Try not to generalise and remain open but you need to remember that you method of finding a date will open you up to things which are not nice (abuse etc) so put your emotional body amour on.
2007-01-26 02:03:07 · answer #8 · answered by Cherchez LaGhost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but where would you expect 'horrible men' to go?
Like all others, they have to go somewhere?
It could be suggested that it is a good place for them to go, there they can be 'abusive at a distance,' and not 'close up.'
All 'men' and 'women' who are abusive can be a pain. They seem to "need to be" abusive, it's as if it's almost a part of their dietary needs.
Sash.
2007-01-26 02:23:42 · answer #9 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because these men can't find any dates in the real world They are Flawed and just plain damaged. so the have to stalk the dating sites. There are some good ones but most likely not.
2007-01-26 01:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋