I am 17 and started having sexual intercourse about a year ago. At first I thought I wasnt feeling anything special because my partner and I were new in this but after a yearof Im trying to wander if my body is able to have an orgasm.
2007-01-26 01:41:00 · 6 answers · asked by Kasia 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Yes it is very normal for you to not "feel" anything special during intercourse. You would be surprised if you talked to a few girlfriends whom you trust,That would say the same thing. I thought for along time,There was somthing wrong with me..Untill I finally confided in My Best friend and My female Gyno...
If only the clitoris was closer to the vagina,That way you would feel more sensation...So this is what you do..First..To feel more during intercourse try a postion that works better for you...Possibly on top..that way your moving your body around more and can allow your clitorious to get closer to the shaft of his penis...I know this is kinda personal writings,But I want to help you...Another postion is, doggy style..as he is behind you,ask him to reach his fingers around the front and to stimulate your cliterous,while his is doing his deed. This is a nice way for you to both get the same excitement without alot of work or concentration on your end.
There is also nothing wrong with doing a little fantasing in your head...as long as it is not alll the time. If all else fails..have him please you first and then have intercourse to please him...Dont please him first with intercourse or other means because once he orgasims,He will not be in the "mood" as much.
If you have him go down on you first..You will reach orgasim...Just remember your clitorous is towards the top of your vagina..top meaning like towards your belly button...So when he works his magic down there..he wants to do alot of magic in that location...Soon as you start to orgasm proceed to intercourse OR orgasm all the way and then let him have his fun with the intercourse.
If any of this makes you feel uncomfortable to do or read..You may want to think having sexual relations at all..Because if you are having sex,then you should be totally comfortable with him on every level and should be able to communicate what pleases you the most. Also please make sure you are having safe sex..
.But again I say you are very normal..Some woman are able to orgasm threw intercourse alone and some arnt...Those of us who are not so lucky to orgasm threw just sex..need a few extra touches,licks,and kisses...Feel your vagina find the spot that excites you the most and have him work the magic...Hope my graphic details do not offend anyone..Just trying to help woman to woman.
2007-01-26 05:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is NOT a stupid question so people shouldn't be giving you stupid answers. I was just like you, so worried to lose my husband over our lack of sex because it hurt me so bad. I actually started to dread having sex with my husband. I finally saw my gyno about it a little over year ago and found out why this happens. For me it's a two part issue. I have a difficult time getting and staying wet which is an integral part of being comfortable during sex. My birth control is the reason for my lack of wetness. Unfortunately i have messed up hormones and this is the only bc i can use that works so changing it was not an option. We solved that problem by using lubrication and it was MUCH more comfortable. The other problem i was having actually is that my vagina has great muscles... i know that sounds strange but that's what my dr told me although in more eloquent terms. The vagina is a very stretchy muscle and has the ability to stretch to accommodate a penis and a baby. After stretching the vagina goes back to it's original form. You may just have a very small vagina and it needs to stretch. There are SEVERAL other reasons this might happen to you though. Every woman's body is different. Hope i helped a bit, but i'm sure your dr can help you better than any of us on Yahoo.
2016-05-24 01:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you just need to learn how to achieve an orgasm, most women can't get one throught just sex alone, you need a build up, your mind needs to be into it, and you need more than one spot of rythmic stimulation....
if its any consolation i have been at it for about 4 years and i think i have only had one or two real orgasms,
i enjoy the sex everytime, just not that "explosion" you hear so much about. if you are that worried about it, you could talk to a doctor, you could have sexual dysfunction disorder.
2007-01-26 01:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your partner need to commnicate and let each other know what feels good and what doesn't. You have to be in an almost erotic state of mind and just go with it. I climax everytime my husband and I do it. Learn your body!!
2007-01-26 02:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try reaching an orgasm by yourself and you will find out. I am sure you can.
2007-01-26 01:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it for yourself.
Then show your partner how.
You deserve it!!!
2007-01-26 02:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by G M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋