i just got a bf, i like him a lot but my parents dont, my mom is now being a complete b*tch with me like yells at me for anything, im always wrong, i do everything bad and she doesnt let me even go out like i did before... and i want then to accpet him... the reason that they dont like him is cuz he is isnt 100% white, he has tanned skin... (my mom is very racist, everyone in thsi country is) what can i do so my mom accepts him and leaves me alone and me not breaking up with him....?... talking doesnt work....
2007-01-26 01:39:01 · 6 answers · asked by gaby f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not everyone is a racist, but it sounds like your parents are. Maybe your mom thinks you are too young for a boyfriend? If you live with her, you have to do as she says and stop seeing this boy. Whether you want to believe this or not, she does know what is best for you.
2007-01-26 01:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should just give your mother some time to relax a little. Give your relationship a "quiet front" for a few weeks. Don't stop talking to him and don't stop talking about him to your mother. She has to get used to the fact that your boyfriend is here to stay. My husband's parents were the same way, I didn't look as "sporty" as they had wanted their son's girlfriend. Although he was always being setup with other girls (by his parents - and he didn't go), given the silent treatment, yelled at all the time, and etc - we still got married. It took a lot of time though to convince them I wasn't leaving. Your mother will realize that you are in love, therefore she might lose you if she doesn't realize you are an adult and have to make your own choices. Don't get mad at your mother though, she grew up in a different time than us, therefore it is not her fault that she has a so-called "racist" aproach to things. Your mother is just taking what she learned from her childhood and trying to do the best for you. Time is the true essence here - not anger!
2007-01-26 02:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a shame your mom is ignorant and you are a more open person. I hope she can come around and like him but it is not likely if she has been this way her whole life. I hope when you get older you will move from her and that area and live a better life. As for now just don't do too much that will make her lash out at him or you or let it get violent. You will have to make the best decision for you and your friend.
2007-01-26 01:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my mom, when she is calm. Say I love you and I understand that you are concern. I am willing to listen to those concerns, but are you willing to hear my reply, don't yell!! just talk softly while speaking to her. Ask her if, she would rather you be with someone who beat you up, as long as he's white, (I am not saying that all white males do this) Or, with someone who treats you right; no matter they're color?
2007-01-26 01:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by mommyof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sooo sad! Play her a Martin Luther King tape...I really don't know what to tell you. Depending on your age, she really doesn't have the right to tell you who and who you cannot date. Tell her you're runnung away or something, maybe she'd believe you.
2007-01-26 01:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by *+* Miss NATION*+* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what your moms says she is your mom and family will be there long after the boy is gone ..she loves you he loves whats in your pants....
2007-01-29 20:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by GEN-GEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋