How long do you wait for the love of your life to come back home after you have separated.?

Question

The seperation was due to several factors but the main one was infedelity on my part, I was honest with her when it happend and it was a stupid mistake. I truly love her and am willing to do what ever is necc. to show her that. We have two kids, one lives w/me and one w/her. We still talk and we both still love each other but there is a lot of pain on both our parts to over come.

Answer 1

The first step is to admit you're wrong and have remorse over it which it seems like you do*
Being able to still see your wife with the other child is also a goodstep*
Yes, there is alot of pain on both parts.......and marriage counselling can help overcome it and help you both through it.
SOmetimes even tho one person has cheated*.....sometimes things can still be mended.......it depends on how much your love for each other means to you both.........Time will heal wounds so keep on trying and let your wife know that you want to make things work...not throw them away*
COMMUNICATION and HONESTY are the keys to a Great Long Lasting Relationship*~

Answer 2

I'll bet there is a lot of pain on both sides.... Betrayal, hon is THE ultimate deal buster in a marriage, almost everything else can be worked out.... I think marriage is admiration respect, passion and trust.... THE four biggies. You shared your passion with someone else , she no longer trusts you, and the respect and admiration are now in the toilet along with the other two.... Right now, you don't have a marriage. The visual of your sharing, is something women have a really tough time with. And marriages are also kindnesses, tolerance, doing things together, creating a loving enviornment in which to raise your children, solving issues without rage, and sometimes shutting the hell up, but at all times, putting your spouse ahead of some of your selfish desires. It is as well travel, fun, soccer games, school plays, family time, concerts, time alone, even for an over night stay at a hotel, and someone else babysits the kids, love notes in a lunch, and flowers at work.... it is tiny things that keep the spark alive.

Be aware, right now, that it will be two years in counseling for your marriage to repair, and that is no guarantee, and that is only if the two of you wish to repair it. If she is so hurt, she may never want you back.... sorry hon.

Answer 3

Just know this, when you decided to cheat you took the risk of jeopardising your relationship with your girlfriend. You have to really look and realise what cheating did to your relationship, the unrepairable damage it caused. Meaning, the relationship will NEVER be the same as it once was before you cheated. The deceptions, the betrayals, the hurts, the mistrust all come into play with results of cheating. If you really are remorseful and have a willingness to work things out, then you will give her whatever time it takes. Understand, she may never recover and take you into her heart as it once was. With a lot of time and work, people have been known to at least get the relationship back on track. People do not realise the irreversible damage cheating can create. Hope you come to understand this so that you never take that route again. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I am in the same boat-you can't go home again. She will never trust you and to honest you cheated for a reason and stupidity wasn't it. You will cheat again-we all eventually do. Save yourself (and her) more pain and move on. Remember there were other reasons why you separated they most likely didn't go away they are just glossed over because you are not there all the time. It's like when you first started dating it was all great then after time the little things started to annoy you and then the arguing started. You are back to square one-stay friends. Good friends are hard to find. Too many friendships are ruined by sex.

Answer 5

Sorry charlie - it's over. Once you break trust, it is almost impossible to get back. If you really want to go that route, and she has not started seeing somone else, I strongly suggest counseling. You need practical and proven methods that will rebuild your relationship, as well as you need to know why you strayed in the first place. If that issue is not addressed, the odds are great that you will do so again. It's going to take 100% cooperation on her part and 200% on yours!

Answer 6

Hey man, you f*cked up, and you will never realize how much pain and anger shes going through. Take it from me I, f*cked up a lot. Things will never be the same. Move on or its gonna cause you mre pain than you or the kids need to be involed in. Stay single until you truely are READY to settle down. It will stop hurting when the pain goes away

Answer 7

I wish I had: Separated, as the two of u have done, both parties get individual therapy as well as couple therapy. Let the therapist decide when ur BOTH ready to move back in together, if at all. Good luck!

Answer 8

Once a cheater, always a cheater mate.
You are going to have a difficult challenge with this im afraid. You cant fool anyone into loving you again so i wouldnt be so confident in saying she still loves you. All you can do now, is either arrange a dinner with her somewhere so ye can talk about this, or simply move on.

Answer 9

purely curious- how is your marriage legal if she on no account have been given divorced? Anywho- it is large you 2 are nevertheless getting alongside so properly and can communicate, and you the two care lots approximately your son. Take her advice- attempt to this component, purely for some social interplay. discuss with different individuals, pass carry out at a bar, despite you opt to do. My husband and that i did this formerly we've been approximately to divorce, and we purely found out we did no longer opt to be with every person else yet eachother, and now issues have on no account been greater powerful between us. solid success to you! and Merry Christmas

Answer 10

If you really love this person, you'll wait for as long as it takes. Much as you may think she loves you, you've violated her trust and it may take months for her to learn to trust you again. There's really no way you can show her, it's something she'll have to come to terms with herself, but you can help regain that trust by, even during the separation, keep your pants zipped!