Female 24 years old............i dont wanna get married at ALL or have kids and everyone one of my friends is all about having babies and getting married and what not am i wierd?
2007-01-26 01:32:37 · 16 answers · asked by NM 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is completely normal not to want to get married. A person, although friend and family members can be very pressuring, has the choice to get married or not married. I was the same way until I met my husband, our love grew and my thoughts about marriage grew. A person just has to find the right person, otherwise why get married. With rates of divorce being so high, I believe that it is better to stay unmarried than to just get married because everyone else is pressuring you to do so. Happiness is the only thing that is needed - so live your life as a rockin single!
2007-01-26 01:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 27. I'm not married. I have no kids. And that is just fine. I've had friends that got married, most have already gotten divorced. I think that in this day and age 24 is very young to decide to get married and have kids. I'm not saying that it's not good for some, but I'm glad I didn't get married at that age. If/when I get married, I'll be more mature and able to deal with the problems that come up better than I would have in my early 20s.
2007-01-26 09:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by CBM79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people get married and have kids because that is what they are expected to do. Or, they just fall into it without actually making the conscious decisions. I think it takes strength and courage to say you don't want to. You are making important decisions with your head and your heart. You will never make more important decision. I said, off the cuff, to my sister one day that you will go from 25 and fun loving to 35 and alone very quickly and it haunted her for years! I should have considered what I was saying. She is 31, happily married and expecting her first child this week! Until about 28, she was not a bit interested and has been with the same man for 12 years. You may change your mind, and that is ok too! Just make sure if you do it is because that is what you want to do and not what others think you should do!
2007-01-26 09:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by D Marie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not weird at all... Some people would just rather stay single and that is ok... I commend you and this is normal. Some people would rather be alone and maybe just date once in a while. There is nothing wrong with this at all.... What you do with your life is your choice and we all have a right to make our own choices in life do we not? My husband was a bachelor up until he was like 29 and then all of a sudden he met me and wham he was ready for marriage lol and he sad he would NEVER get married lol.... My brother was the same way my husband was and he married him his 30's.... We dont all get married and settle down young and others choose to never marry and stay happy and single throughout life.
2007-01-26 09:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not weird at all. you may have witnessed bad marriages or simply don't want to tie yourself down. Actually good for you for not doing something just because your friends are! (I have an uncle who didn't get married until he was in his 40s and a sister who still doesn't want kids! Some say she's selfish, but she figures what's more selfish, not having kids and traveling to exotic places, constantly working (she travels a lot with job too), going out or having kids and dumping them off with parents, sitters, etc. all the time? )
Now, you may decide down the road that you're ready to make that commitment, but for now, don't worry about it! Have fun!
2007-01-26 09:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the human experience is having babies, regenerating life. Another part if pressuring everyone else into it too.
Don't do anything in this regard until you genuinely want to. Beware of pressure from peers, family, religious institutions, television, etc. If you enter into a marriage before you sincerely want to, or should you have babies before you want parenthood as a part of your adult experience, you'll be miserable. Be your own person.
2007-01-26 09:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be that way. i was proclaimed female bachelor for life! then it changed when i found someone worth settling down for :) it happens....
but im just 24 myself and not looking at marriage until a couple of yrs (waiting to see how long this one lasts kinda thing) and def. not looking into kids until 30s...i still cant stand babysitting for long periods of time.
2007-01-26 09:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are like that.
But they almost never stay like that. Every single person I have ever followed who said that, in spite of ANGRILY denying they might ever change their mind, always does. But sometimes it is a little too late when they do, at least for children.
2007-01-26 09:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not weird. A lot of people don't and a lot of people do but wish they hadn't. Don't feel pressured into anything and stick to your guns because both marriage and being a parent is so hard that it shouldn't be something you just do.
2007-01-26 09:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not weird you are a very smart lady if you don't get married or have kids you will never be tied down or feel obligated to anyone which is just what i should of done.
2007-01-26 09:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋