we have lived together for 7 yrs, and love eachother, but we are far from "in love" we have not been intimate in over 3 months. can any body tell me why i can walk thru the house naked, and he doesnt look. im not ugly, even though i dont exactly feel sexy
2007-01-26 01:27:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him back the engagement ring and "Run, Forest, Run!!"
Seriously - why would you want to marry someone who doesn't give you any love in return? It may be hard to break away and leave your comfort zone, but going into a loveless marriage will eventually lead to divorce. Why set yourself up for failure?
Good luck to you.
2007-01-26 01:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been together 7 years - that is why. Your relationship is not in the early bloom, where everything you say and / or do will excite him. Just because you are engaged and not married does not mean that your relationship does not change over time, just as it would if you were married. Now, what is going on in his world - work, family and such. There could be something that is causing alot of stress and has become a distraction. The only way any relationship can stay strong and grow is to have an open line of communication. This is not where you need to be posting a question - you need to be asking him that question. Tell him you have concerns about what has been going on, he may not even know you are feeling this way, and that can only be blamed on you. True honest communication is one of the sexiest parts of a long lasting relationship.
2007-01-26 01:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communuicate. You need to talk about this with him and find out what the problem is. I am not certain that I could NOT look if a woman walked naked through the hall.
Is he doing anything differently in the last 3 months? New job, drinking more, drugs, out alot. I ask cause this goes beyond simple stress or fatigue. Even a cheating significant can be gotten to show interest.
This may end up with you two seperating but I hope you are able to figure it out.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-26 01:45:07 · answer #3 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I know what you feel like. My husband and I were living together for about 10 months when I was 18 and I got pregnant. We had talked about getting married before I was pregnant and when the subject came up after I found out about the baby, He actually said, "Why don't we wait until AFTER the baby is born." We got married when I was 4 months along, and during my wedding his words echoed in my head the whole time. I felt miserable and really unloved. Why part of me cares about him, after ten years of marriage I feel like he didn't do it out of love but more out of obligation. I know exactly how you feel it really sucks. Sex does seem to deteriorate after living with someone a long time and it is hottest when you really feel in love. It takes a whole lot of work to get the spark back into a old relationship, it's usually up to the women to decide if it worth the extra effort as men rarely put in the time and work. Do you have kids? or do you think you would be happier as friends and end the relationship? I know these are really hard questions to ask yourself, as nothing ever seems to be easy in the matter of love. If you decide to try to spice it up maybe try something exciting like lingerie or when it is warm outside may be find a (secluded) spot in the woods by a quiet lake and have a picnic and some alcohal and make love outside. I know guys love the thought of having sex outdoors, as they find it really erotic of the thought of getting caught and imagining that they are being watched. I had an old boyfriend that totally got off on that, and that's what he told me. Good luck, and rest assured, that there are many women in the same boat as you. Just do it without telling him what your up to one day and make it a big suprise.
2007-01-26 01:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you but is content to have a house to live in and food to eat. whatever you do, don't marry this guy, unless you want to live like that the rest of your life, but move out and look for someone else. Live is too short to put up with losers like that!!
2007-01-26 01:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all - he has to make you feel sexy. Secondly - talk to him and be as honest with him as you were with the veiwers of what you wrote.
The following things could be happening here:
A) he could be depressed
B) he could be wallowing in the same feelings that you are having
C) he could be cheating
D) you could be not sharing the truth with us as viewers
2007-01-26 01:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi :) im kind of in the same situation as u . . . i've been with my bf for 7 years now too and he dosent love me back the way i love him either and people ask me how can u love someone that dosent love you? When your a good person and love deeply its not that easy just to turn away and leave! u always want it to work my bf is stubborn thou one day he loves me the next day he hates me and we'll be intimate and the next day he dosent like me Im in the process of trying to figure out my life and i know i cant live like this for the rest of my life and its really hard for me to leave expecially when u have noowhere to go. but i think its going to have to be done and i hate to be the one to make that descision but i think i need to or else im going to be miserable for the rest of my life... just deeply think about it if u know its not going to work if he dosent want help to work things out then i think u should leave sorry to say and i know its not easy cuz im going throu it but we have to be strong ! were to good to live our lives like this!!!
2007-01-26 01:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're living on Depression Blvd. This Clown is gonna run you in the ground. Take pride in who you are. if he ain't interested. Take it to where you can be Loved. Love is "For Better or Worse". Does he believe in that? GTFO! Luck & Love!
2007-01-26 01:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not me, But I imagine its like having 50 billion dollars but you can never spend it on anything,even if you need food,clothes and a place to stay. Its not you its him. Get some counsiling, talk it out
2007-01-26 01:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well me and my now husband were engage for all the wrong reason it wasnt after months that we endup realizing we were in love, i guess sometimes we take people for granted not letting them know how we feel until is too late to get the feeling back****
2007-01-26 01:43:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋