Opinions please, Social status and jobs.?

Question

If someone sugested in a derogatory manor that you need money less than another employee would you be offended? I feel as though I am being victimised because I am well off. It is almost like I am not taken seriously because me and my partner can afford nice things. I am under the impression that the company owner is jealous of my partners sucess. - He is ALOT more successful than him.

I don't need the job but I like to try to stay independant. Why should I be victimised for it?

Please help!

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean !!!

People get very jealous if you are successful at building your financial life. Especially if you are and your partner are better off than your own boss.

The best revenge is success. Start looking for a different job where you will be appreciated for doing YOUR job.

I find it rather humorous in today's world that many people who are in positions of power have little or no money. So many think that because you have a certain job or social status, you then are better than someone who would be a waitress or a barkeep.

When I waitressed, I made more money than many MANY of those so called high society people did at their so higher up jobs. AND it is all how you keep your money that will ultimately make you wealthy. I have done well and I refuse to listen to those who have a problem with it.

If you and your partner are doing well, then congratulations !!! Keep up the good work and let no one stand in your way... and remember : What others think of you is none of your business !!

Answer 2

Well your other colleagues do need the money more than you because you have money already. Even your boss needs the money more than you! He is paying somebody who has more money than him to start with. You do the same job as everybody else though so you should get equal pay. He's not being very professional. If you don't need the job take time out to do what you want to do and then look for a new job. Don't even bring your personal life into the new job though, you don't have to tell anybody how well your partner is doing.

Answer 3

You should be paid for your ability not for how much money your partner has. If you are earning less money than another person who has the same job description as you and equal experience, then you have cause to make an official complaint. However, if you go round telling him that you and your partner are well off and you do not need the job, I can understand him getting a little upset.

Answer 4

It is a very complex question to answer. However I shall try my best to answer it. In America as a whole it's yes and no. Meaning due the fact of what happened in the history of our country, Whites were favored to stay at the top and Blacks at the bottom. Everything in our society was designed to keep that fashion. However other things such as human rights, the constitution favored equality in our society. We see that the negative image of Black people in society was always portrayed, thus this unconsciously played in the way White people viewed Blacks and even some Blacks as well had a low self-esteem. The civil rights movements of the 1960's started to instill some pride in Blacks themselves it helped gain some self-esteem. Thus the "forces" of society which were against that started crumbling until today some of them are non-existant today. In that sense social status does affect race, but there are now plenty of Black people who are very wealthy too and many Whites who are very poor too!

Answer 5

Offended? maybe. I'd be more offended if I were the other person being singled out as not being as affluent. Its not anyone's business and its low-tech to use that as an argument to obtain a raise or bonus. Its also none of their concern how well off you or your partner is. That you are being compensated for your services comensurate with your education and experience is what's important.

Answer 6

No, i would not be offended, who cares what s/he thinks ?

One thing money gives you is the abiltiy to walk away. I find somethings becomes a lot more tolarable once you relax in the knowledge you can walk away.

Sounds like your boss has the british desease of not celebrating success.

Salary should be based on the work responsibilties and how they are done, not on your initial standing.

Why would your boss know your husbands success ?

My wife works, no-one has a clue what we're worth at her place.

Answer 7

I would not take offense to that comment because if you remove the derogatory manner, they are probably saying the truth. You on the other hand need to be proud of your status and try to remain profession at work. If the work environment becomes to hostile for professionalism, then I will advise you leave.

Just brush the dust off your shoulder...

Answer 8

If you're that bothered leave the job, especially if you have the money.

If not, put up with it and just remember that they are jealous.

I can't really answer your question because you haven't really said HOW you have been victimised. What exactly has been said to you?

Answer 9

you are being victimised but you can never hope to avoid it , stupid people never like to see anyone do better than them and stupid people are in abundance .

you have a right to work for your independence but are you taking the place of someone who really needs that job to avoid poverty , if i were in your position i would love to be able to create jobs for people myself and help them on their way through life . most people actually earn for their bosses about 3 or 4 times what they are paid it seems to me that you could earn your independence and gain respect by employing people and paying them a much greater share of their worth than 1 in 4 . i hope i don't sound cheeky i am trying to help .

Answer 10

You should be glad that you have money and can afford nice things. I would love to be able to buy all the nice things I'd like. I'm a trainee on a government supported scheme and make just over half the national minimum wage an hour. Get over yourself.