hi.
my life is wonderful. i have a loving partner, i have a steady (though dreadful) job, i have family that loves me, and true friends, i have a wonderful apartment in nyc. basically, i live a good life.
why do i feel so unfulfilled?because i am an artist at heart, and feel that all this stability has crushed my ability to create. i miss my days of complete chaos, where i might not have had the money, but i had plenty of time and adventures.
basically, i do not want to live this way. i want to love the man i'm with, but i'm afriad he comes with all these attachments of stability, and i would still like to travel the world. i don't know...maybe i'm just afraid to grow up!
2007-01-26 01:16:52 · 4 answers · asked by ingrid 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think that most creatives are afraid to grow up. If we did, we probably wouldn't be creative anymore. Right? Well, we would just have less room to beathe in a creative way. You'll never stop being creative. It's just the logical mind of being responsible will suppress other 'better' side of your thinking -- as it looks like it has with you.
What you are talking about is very important. Many people aren't aware of how important it is to stay true to your dreams and do what makes you most happy. Sometimes that requires sacrifices that seem totally irrational. When you're a single person its much easier to do this as you're less likely to affect the lives of others around you. I'm quite sure you know all about that going by what I've read here in your question.
But there's always a solution. If it means leaving your job in order to persue something that makes you happy in life, I would do it after some careful thinking. In fact I've done it. If you want it bad enough, you'll figure out a way. You know what I'm talking about.
There's a question asked recently by a highly acclaimed writer, whom I respect very much, on Yahoo! Answers who asks about what the world would be like if more people followed their dreams. I was one of the answerers so you'll find the question in my answers history. You might get something out of it if you had a look. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-26 08:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey Nation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Creative people usually don't do well in a structured environment, while they are constantly perceiving beauty as a original art, the ordinary seems lacking. Your awareness of what you have is only part of your problem, the desire to be more is rather hard for some of us to comprehend since we don't have all that.
If you want to feel full filled... try volunteering at a place where others would be inspired by your talent to have a loving and wonderful life. Share you secret with rest of us, you will be rewarded by what we teach you as well.
2007-01-26 01:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by Outside the box 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel a nagging voice telling you to move on, then do it.
*You're obviously an educated woman, you'll be okay when you come back to a "stable" lifestyle.
*Growing up has little to do with it. Create to your heart's content.
*You mentioned your terrible teaching assignment:
**Nail those 'angels' to the wall (check out my response earlier today).
**Apply for something less urban (you did your time, you've earned your stripes, move on with your life ...).
*Please talk to your fiancee about your dreams to create more and "see if the world is round". If he's really the one for you, he'll:
**Take a leave of absence and go with you.
**OR, he'll wish you well, email you every night, and have your side of the bed turned out and waiting for you upon your return.
You can teach overseas in American schools!!
*The pay is okay.
*You get a ticket home every year.
*You have TONS of opportunities to travel and "see the world".
*If I didn't already own a home, and have two children living apart from me (my second divorce -ouch!), I would be outta here in a NYC minute!).
Please hang in there, okay? I hope this helps.
(;=]
2007-01-26 10:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by chuck U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your not just afraid to grow up. Artist or not, I dunno- do you think anything made after 1920 is art? Do what the hell you want. Kick him up, get him to go somewhere with you. Hunt bears. Visit the Middle East. Learn to fly and go on your own aviation tour of the U.S. My guess would be that no one (at least not me) could be happy with a sedate life, and that you've been confused into thinking that "artists" have exciting lives. Up until the Romantic period, artists-from Bach to Michleangelo- thought of themselves as very skilled workmen, not inherently "freer" than everyone else. Humans were built for adventure. And, hell, maybe I'm wrong. Maybe art really can be adventurous. If we weren't built for danger, we never would have left the serengetti. In fact, we would have evolved into herd living herbivores, not omnivores built for hunting and exploring.
2007-01-26 01:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by ian_eadgbe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋