I feel that if you've got great parents who gave you a great childhood then you should have some loyalty to them, more than to a gf/bf you've known for perhaps 6 months anyway.
What would you do in this tricky 'meet the parents'-gone-really-bad situation?
2007-01-26 01:16:10 · 4 answers · asked by pantocool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I like how you say bf/gf instead of something like spouse (when you talk about who you should be more loyal to). I personally think that you should try to get your girlfriend to meet with your parents again. If she doesn't want to then she probably doesn't think that you're worth it (or so I would think); and if you tell her that if she really valued you, she would do this for you, and she still doesn't want to go then maybe you should find someone who would go that extra mile with you.
2007-01-26 01:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lixender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your parents, just you 3, and ask why don't they like her/him. Listen to their reasons, and if they seem plausible, take heed (being on the outside, they may see something that you're blinded by love over), but let them know that you'll take what they say into consideration, but you need to make this decision yourself and you choose to be with her/him.
Many parent/child relationships have been strained or ceased all together over the partner the child has chosen, only to be reunited with the birth of a grandchild. Some have never recovered. The best way to "have your cake and eat it to" is to, for the time being, don't take your partner around them. Are you living together? If so, for holidays, it won't hurt for you to go to your parents for a couple of hours before joining your partner for your own celebration. For other family functions (weddings, family reunions, etc.) bring her/him along (as long as they are invited too), but keep them clear of your parental units.
2007-01-26 09:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Survivors Ready? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push them on each other. You're the monkey in the middle and can be torn down the middle. Tell your parents and her not to make you chose between them. Everyone can lose, most of all you. I never really got along with my in laws, I am polite and when we get together I let go of him so they can have him during that time. He goes home with me, he wants to be with me, he feels obligated to be with them, he loves all of us. I feel secure in knowing that even when someone says something bad about me, he will defend me and tell them to stop. Set your boundaries and don't get hurt. Good Luck! =)
2007-01-26 09:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would really depend on a few things. How old are you? What made the meeting go wrong? And is there a chance that if they got to know her, would they come around or would that make it worse?
2007-01-26 09:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋