I am seriously considering moving to Baltimore in September. I have been living here in Michigan for about 5 years now and I am sick of the lack of job opportunites in this state. In Maryland I have friends and family that will look out for me. The only bad part about leaving Michigan is that I have a 5 year old god son here that I love very very much. He is my little baybeee and has been a part of my life ever since he was 4 months old. His mother and I don't get along very well and only really keep in contact because of him. I know that if I move out of Michigan she will not allow me to see him and if I did come here for a visit, I wouldn't want to stay in her house. What should I do? I really want to move to Maryland because I have no family or true friends here in Michigan and I'm tired of the lack of jobs. But I will also miss my little baybeee very very much.
2007-01-26 00:54:51 · 9 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's sad that she wont let you see the child if you moved away and came back for a visit. You have to do whats right for you* The child is Not yours........although you love him very much*...I would move if the job opportunity is better and you'll have friends and family around you when you move.....I would still write letters to your godchild....and HOPE the mother sends photos of the child. When you come back for a visit hopefully the time way will let the mother of the child allow you to see him. Nothing you can do if she doesn't..Yes it wlll break your heart......but I hope she comes around and grows up some to allow you to see the child. GOODLUCK* But do what you need to do to make You happy*/successful in life.....
2007-01-26 01:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your child will only a be a child a few more years and now up until age 12 are the most formative years; if you could possibly postpone going for a few more years it would help your son be a better man throughout his life.
By that age, you son will also have much more of a say as far a visitation and may be able to spend a few weeks in the summer and holidays with you (if you make arrangements with an airline in advance, they can make sure someone watches your son while he is on the plane and that someone picks him up at the destination...ok for a 12 year old, but too scary most of the time for younger kids)
2007-01-26 01:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave! It's the best you can do for YOURSELF. I know you love him and you will miss him but that's not reason enough to sacrafice your life. I moved to Michigan about 2 yrs ago (I'm originally from NY) and I only stayed there for about 6 months. I hated it! I can't believe you been there for 5 yrs, bless you. When I was in Michigan I had no family or friends either. I moved out there with my boyfriend and we lived with his cousin. Make a long story short, I was miserable! The only reason I went was because of someone else....the only reason I stayed was because of someone else...the ONLY thing I did for myself...is bring my butt back home to New York...where my family and friends were waiting for me. It was the best decision of my life! Life has only gotten better for me since. I know you said you don't want to leave your God son but you and the mother don't get along...eventually she will push you out his life and then what? You sacraficed your wants for what? To end up alone anyway? Go home to your family. You will regret it if you don't.
2007-01-26 01:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by SexyMommy2B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move to Maryland!! You may miss the boy but in time you will find someone good, get married, and have children of your own. If she is a single parent or perhaps even if she is married, the perfect solution would be if you were to find a reason to convince her to move there as well for more job opportunities or simply to leave Michigan and move to a better state to live in.
2007-01-26 01:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, you know the answer to this question: you have to choose between your god son or moving to a better state. If you moved, there's no reason you couldn't contact him with letters. Perhaps you should make peace with his mother so she will allow you to visit.
2007-01-26 01:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by obsdabeff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you cant live your life based on a child thats not yours!! I know that sounds mean but if you stay because of him what will you do when hes all grown up and gone?? If I was you I would try to make arrangements to visit him but I would move!! When he grows up explain to him what you did and why and he will understand you need to live your life for you!!!
2007-01-26 01:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got to be looking out for yourself seeing how it is not your real son then you should be able to call and check on him and talk to him on the phone,just have a talk with the mother and tell her you need to get a job and get out on your own and that the time has come..
2007-01-26 01:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have a serious talk with his mother. Maybe she will let you do video conferencing with her son. After all, you are his godmother. And he will drive his mother crazy asking about you all the time.
2007-01-26 01:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait...this is not your child? I could see you asking this question if he was your own flesh and blood.
2007-01-26 01:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋