i have had a friend for about 6 or 7 years, and whille she is fun to be with, it can be one sided when issues come up. i have tried to talk to her to clarify things, just like in any friendship where things are said and misinterpreted. the last few times she has said "i dont have time for this ... I have a husband and a child" and that really made me think. we ALL have busy lives, single or married so what kind of comment is that?
the other day i got this long winded message on my machine that she has to talk to me about something, and yet she says "not that I really care what you think"
Personally i care about what my friends think, so that was a red flag.Why bring it up if you dont care???
I saw her at work yesterday and said what was that phone call about? "Oh its nothing serious, I'll call you tonight" she says. No phone call.
I feel a bit confused and moreso manipulated at this point.
If you have a problem, say it. Don't make it into a big production. Am I on track here?
2007-01-25 23:49:08 · 10 answers · asked by maggiemae821 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really don't like the sound of this person...maybe you should think about stopping all communication with this person. Or at least tell her what you think. That it is very rude of her to make comments such as she has no time for you and that she doesn't really care what you think. Friends come and go, and yes you've been friends for years, but there are way better people out there to start a friendship with, that will listen, and say nice things, and care.
2007-01-26 00:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jay's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this so-called "friend" of yours wants to end contact with you and end the relationship. It sounds like it's reached a point where this person no longer wants to put the effort in. Do yourself a favor and stop calling her and making the effort yourself - ignore her voice mails and just move on. It's not worth the stress!
2007-01-26 07:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say your instincts are right on track. She is manipulating you.
Your issues are of no importance to her, Yet if she has an "emergency" You need to be there for her right away.
I'd tell her YOU don't have time for this sh** either & find a new friend.
2007-01-26 08:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going through a tough time (She is not in a clear state of mind), talk to her about it. Eventually everythings gonna be ok.
2007-01-26 07:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sop the friendship because it is not a friendship. This person is rude and inconsiderate
2007-01-26 09:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should consider finding new friends. Shes messing with your feelings!!
2007-01-26 07:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by Stormy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to corner her and kick her to the curb, you are being so walked all over.
2007-01-26 07:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by Monte T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she's a loon. Blow her off for a while, and let her get her head on straight.
2007-01-26 07:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by Gasman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's so walking all over you.
let go of her shes so rude.. and i bet you can
get SOO MUCH better in a friend.
2007-01-26 07:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by sheila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your "friend" is only using you to keep busy...
with "friends" like that, who needs "enemas"?
2007-01-26 07:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by an_articulate_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋