Why do I always think about how other people's lives are better than mine?

Question

Is it normal? Do you feel that way too at times? What shall I do to make myself not to and feel bad about my own?

Answer 1

Get yourself involved in some good things, like helping elderly people, or little children with disabilitys that need your help, something that someone else needs from you! So you can be the hero, and it will make you feel like your on top of the world when you can put asmile on there face because you helped them achive what ever was needed at that time. And if thats not your cup of tea, try doing something for yourself, like a new style , nails, someclothing, or maybe just making a new friend someone new you can talk to.Stop worring about other people because 9 times out of 10 they probley got it worse than you, just because they look good or great on the outside doesn't mean that they don't have a world of problems. Take it from me I know I am one of those people I just told you about .

Answer 2

Envy is a normal but destructive emotion.

The thing is that you aren't seeing the bad side of other people's lives. There are friends that I've been envious of in the past, because they had better jobs and more stuff or whatever and then they told me how unhappy they were and how they envied me! So, look at what you have that you love and see if you can work on the things that make you unhappy but accept the things you can't do anything the best.

And my something grant you the wisdom to tell the difference, lol.

Answer 3

I used to Look at what others had too and felt my life was less than others, however I focused on what I didn't have. Now I focus on what I have and it is wonderful. You Imagine the best in others. Imagine the worst too if you want to see the whole picture. Yes she has a Mercedes, a coach bag, and a great home but he's never home or shows affection. They're in more debt than you too. How you perceive the world is how you will experience it. Try reading " The way of the peaceful warrior" by Dan Millman. Our thoughts control our emotions or do emotions control thoughts?

Answer 4

Just look up how others live who are MUCH WORSE OFF THAN you...go volunteer to help at a soup kitchen or women's shelter etc...then you will appreciate what you DO have. Forget the rich and famous...they have thier misery too...after all they can never have "enough" and what a life to always have to look a certain way and keep up with what society expects...is that life? For some maybe but by choice I say forget it...too many other GREAT things in this world to sacrifice for that and it's not worth it.

Answer 5

you're only 15, you've were given various of years yet to have an excellent life! no one extremely knows what they go with even as they're youthful and that i guess those celebrities did not sense perfect about their lives even as they were 15 both! it is all area of growing to be up, sense free with what you've immediately and be constructive about the destiny, imagine about all what you go with to do and how you're going to do it! concentration on your human being life...different peoples lives in all likelihood are not practically as good as they seem besides :)

Answer 6

Is it normal? --yes
Do you feel that way too at times? --sometimes
What shall I do to make myself not to and feel bad about my own? -- try doing only things that make you feel good
It similar to this "It is due to the fact that when you stand on your own field than looking down you will see the ground, and when you see ahead you cannot see the ground this make you see only green "

Answer 7

Your question is very important because it has far-reaching implications not just for an individual life, but for the way our whole society is operating. Everybody seems to be watching everybody else. With the media so dominant and so well-honed we often think we are supposed to have things that in fact we don't really need. We think we are supposed to be something that in fact we don't need to be. If the whole society is like this then the pressure is enormous. We then create an unrealistic picture of happiness and success. We are all pressured into this together. So even a very successful person has to try to smile and laugh and show the world how happy they are otherwise people turn away from them.

It takes personal discipline not to be deceived by appearances. Few people are in fact as 'happy' or 'successful' as they appear. I have always been amazed by this. Whenever I thought somebody was really happy and that their life was so much better or desirable than mine, on getting to know them more closely I was actually disturbed to discover the price that their 'better life' actually cost them as well as their children, spouses and so forth.

It is important to be realistic. You cannot judge another person's life just from appearances alone - no matter who they are.

So, sooner or later you must fall back upon yourself. You cannot escape your own path. You have to see yourself for what you are moment by moment and discover what you really want, yearn for, love, hate, who you want to be with, etc. None of this can be perfect. So you have to drop the mental patterns that are nagging at you and open up the life that is in you.

Therefore the point will come when you will have to think about just what a good life is. Since no one has a perfect life obviously a good life cannot be equated with perfection. In fact it cannot be equated with anything. A good life is your ability to respond to difficulty, disappointment, disillusionment, pain, loss, resistance, etc. But it is also the ability to know how to handle gain in any area. How to appreciate what you have that others might not have. You have to be disciplined about this as well. You have to learn how not to take yourself, your gifts, your desires, your love for granted. You should not be dismissive, deciding that you are not good enough or as good as this person or that person. It's a habit because you have not let your own life - your own vital wishes - rise up sufficiently.

It is important not to just assume that what you have is not good enough, not sufficient. It is also important not to just assume that what he has or she has is better than what you have. They may not feel that way. So in a sense you are insulting them by not being sensitive to what is really going on inside their lives.

You have to start right where you are. You can be inspired by other people if they are doing something really great. But inspiration is not envy; it is not self-desparagement. It makes you want to get up in the morning and face the obstacles yourself. If there is something your gut is telling you you should be doing, do it.

The really good life is transforming those obstacles - in whatever you are doing, wherever you are. A good life is the capacity to constantly overcome discouragement. This cannot be emphasized enough. If you are always rushing for a result - some ideal or goal - you will never be happy in the moment; you will never feel effective or 'right' about yourself; you will always feel 'out of joint'. So you have to try not to rush to some imagined end result, because then you will get there and it will be deflated compared to the truth of the journey itself. THE SAME PRINCIPLE APPLIES TO RELATIONSHIPS. You have to try not to rush to a result in relationships. Instead let them unfold naturally. This takes time. You have to give important things time. If you are always discontented you will not give things the time they need. So relationships won't be rich.

Discipline is a big part of it. But so is sensitivity because it is unfair to assume that that person or this person has a better life than you because of appearances only. It is also a trap. There will be people whose lives have reached a stage that are better than yours and many others. They may have worked very hard to achieve that good life. They may have overcome huge obstacles and still recall moments of pain or even tragedy. That is part of their triumph. If you are achieving something yourself that feels good you will also be sensitive to their achievement. That's as good as it gets.

So again, start where you are. Be careful of all appearances. Don't decide or presume things in advance - that's too 'convenient'. Find what you love, otherwise face each challenge as it presents itself without lamenting the fact that you have not reached an imaginary goal overnight.

Your question is big because too many of us are inappropriately comparing our lives to everybody else. This can leave us both empty and panic-stricken. We end up wanting too much and even over-burdening the planet.

Keep your heart open, fair and resilient. Your question will benefit anybody who comes across it. So, thank you.

B. Lyons

Answer 8

because u never see the bad things in other peoples lives....u only see what they allow u 2 see....everyone wants other people 2 envy there lives, so they only let u see the good things....trust me, life isnt great for a lot of people...the point is happiness, find someone or something that makes u happy, and never let go....

by the way ur beautiful...

Answer 9

there is 6 billion people in the world. Chances are that at least one person has a better life than you

Answer 10

You suffeer from low self esteme. So do I.