so i met this guy online about 6 months ago and he's everything i could want in a man. secure, funny...i love talking to him...he likes to dance i like to dance...we have soo much in common. he wants to buy plane tickets for me to go visit him and i want to so badly only i don't want to destroy the relationship i already have. what if this online thing doesn't work out? what should i do? what if this new guy is my prince charming but i never find out?
2007-01-25 22:25:52 · 15 answers · asked by nlightnd26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is simple. Who do you love? Who has your heart ?Answer that question then you will know what to do. .
2007-01-25 22:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sarcastic Sid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a big mistake. You are going to jeopardize a good, 6-year history with the man you are with now just so you can meet a stranger you met online? And you don't even really know what this person is all about! Oh okay, so he SOUNDS secure, funny, and likes to dance- wow, so much in common. THINK ABOUT IT! Anyone can sound like prince charming when they're hiding behind a computer/phone! And you want to take that chance?
Man, you better think long and hard about what you're doing. I imagine if you were with your boyfriend for 6 years, he must have been doing something right.
THINK!!
2007-01-25 23:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Online relationships and love affairs are not real. It’s just a fantasy, an imagination... you don’t really know that person.
Do you think that this online guy doesn’t have any bad habits, bad humour or simply turns out being a normal person as everybody else???
The "prince charming" does exist only in fairy tales for little girls and law should forbid these fairy tales!!
A real relationship is based on hard work. It’s normal that not every day is perfect or wonderful.
What are you looking for? A copy of yourself? Somebody who thinks like you and is doing exactly the same things as you... let me tell you one thing: This sounds very, very boring. You are not looking for a person who has his own will, you’re looking for a toy. By the way, normally everything seems to be so perfect when you start a new relationship. Do you know why? Well, people tend to hide their bad habits and try to do everything just to please the new partner...
What do you really know about this man? You don’t know how he acts, you don’t know what habits he has, you don’t know if he’s a layer or a violent person.... you know nothing, just what wants you to know about him.
A relation ship that lasts for 6 years should be something really solid, so if you through it away just to follow a fantasy, you’re crazy.
What do you pretend? Telling your partner that you have to travel for business reasons or you have to see somebody from your family who lives far away... so you can see your online lover and check out if he really is what he pretends to be???
This is not a game my dear, you’re playing around with the trust and love another person has given during 6 years!!
That’s very, very ugly.
Watch out, the charming online lover can turn into a frog sooner as you think!!
2007-01-26 01:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God created men and women to love-hate each other... lol! that is the way relationships always turn out in the end. You are attracted to the excitement and not knowing of this new relationship. When you meet him, you may not even be attracted to him. I have met twenty some guys, if not more, from online that i enjoyed very much online and on the phone, then when we met it was like...hmmm.. this is not it for me. I wasn't even attracted to most of them. I only hit it off with three out of all of the ones i enjoyed from online, and i thought it was there with them before we met. Out of the three, only one has any long-term potential. There is no way to tell at all if you will be into them until you meet them. If you are truly just not into this guy you are with, if you never were into him, then cut free and go meet this new guy. However; if it is just relationship boredom.... spice things up with the guy you are with.
2007-01-25 22:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six years is pretty long time.I think you about answered your own question when you said about it not working out.But it sounds like you need to work and talk things out some with your partner. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the hill.But watch out it could turn into a dessert!
2007-01-25 22:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by CRZYDV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u definitely should go, cos when u meet him in person u will be soooo disappointed that your affair will end by itself and most probably u will not even have sex. so buy yourself a back ticket in advance. u definitely should go, if u won't go u will be dreaming about this "prince charming" forever and will be constantly unhappy. so go, chek, get disappointed and return crowling to your hubby. if this guy was a "prince charming" why the hell would he be on internet? why wouldn't he be dating women around him? cos u re so special? give me a break, cos u re not. he likes dancing u like dancing - 100% of women like dancing. princes charming do not waste time on computer, they have real life and real women and they re busy with their career
2007-01-25 22:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question when you said you didn't want to destroy your relationship. When it comes to the Internet, six months is really like six days. It's all new and fun, that's why you think he's everything you could want. Trust me, it's a WHOLE lot different when they let their guard down.
2007-01-25 22:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont really know this internet guy.. how can you really know someone when you have never meet them... You are having problems with your boyfriend &this other guy is saying all things that you wanna hear.. i wouldnt take him seriously & would suggest trying to work the probs you have with your relationship now.
2007-01-25 22:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him come to you with no promises...meaning, don't make him think he's coming to get some...If he's serious about meeting you, then you go out and see if there's chemistry. It's better than tryin to cover your butt for an excuse to fly out to where ever he is and screw up what you've got. You're flying blind, because 95% of internet chatters are fakers or posers anyhow. I'd say it's not worth the risk for you to go. Make him come to meet you.
2007-01-25 22:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what if...what if....honestly this is a decision only you can make, but my words of advice are this, the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. What if this other guy is a psycho? They all seem nice to start with!!
2007-01-25 22:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy on the internet is a fantasy, you have not met him... and think back to when you first met your boyfriend, he must of ticked all the right boxes then too... try talking to your b/f, put some spark back into your relationship, the effort you are putting into into the internet "relationship" you should put into your current relationship, then maybe it would get better!!
2007-01-25 22:32:53 · answer #11 · answered by merrpet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋