It's been a little over three years since my fiance died. I don't think I've healed emotionaly and I really don't know how. Does this feeling ever go away?
2007-01-25 22:15:14 · 12 answers · asked by kishigurl 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There is no way to neglect the pain you will experience by losing one you loved.
The think of not seeing or hearing him any longer will surely hurt you. But this will happen in your life. I'm writing a story at the moment. In one section a character tells another:"Listen to me. There is always a time which you are caused pain. There is always a time you lost one you loved. You will have the pain. But then is the golden time. You have to get up and live. You will always remember the one you lost. But if you want him or her happy you have to live."
Now if you have lost someone you have to get up and live. Time is what you need.It will recover your wounds.
2007-01-25 23:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gildroy Lockhart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to recover especially in cases of death. It may be a different story if it was a break up. But I do believe that the feeling of loss will decrease with time though not going away completely. I can give an example of my mom who is a widow, she has learnt to live her life alone but still misses my late dad very dearly.
You will learn to love again in your case and that might help the healing process and it will reduce further. These are my thoughts on that.
2007-01-25 22:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by fedzli2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling will stay with you forever, I'm afraid. Rather than focusing on the feeling of loss you have, try to focus on the feelings you felt whilst you were together, and be thankful of the time you had. Not everyone is as lucky as you to have loved someone that much.
It is horrific that the love you felt was cut short, but like the 'poison' song says:
"Like a knife that cuts you the wound heals, but the scars remain."
2007-01-25 22:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mawkish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one area of life that just takes time. You'll always remember, but as each year passes, the pain becomes a little less. Do something to remember and honor his life by. Send a donation in his memory, write an article about how his life changed yours, plant a tree and have a small dedication ceremony.
2007-01-25 22:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but some (most) people move on from it. There is a difference. Recovery would imply that you are back to the original state before the loss occurred & this cannot happen but you can (and should) move on with your life and not be ruled (or defined) by the past.
2007-01-25 22:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by noonenowhere23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, lost my granddaughter last summer. A friend who lost a child (8 yrs ago) said it doesn't go away. You just have to accept it. What choice do you have? This long? Maybe some consuling would be in order. Good luck
2007-01-25 22:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals most wounds to some extent. You need to go on with your life, He would want it that way. Cherish the moments you had together, but don't obsess on the past. My heart goes out for you.
2007-01-25 23:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by scott p 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely hurts & you need no one telling you to 'get over it' those that do have problems themselves..
The emotional pain will lessen to where you can resume enjoying life.
If you're still imobilised by your grief there may be unresolved issues you need to deal with, then I'd suggest you consider counselling, Social Workers, Bereavement counsellors or Psychologist can help.
Please consider it, I wish you all the best.
2007-01-25 22:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by bejay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that, it takes times when you lose someone you love, you feel as tho you can't go on without him, because of the love you had for him,it would kill me to lose my husband i believe i would die to if that happened to me because he is my best friend,my soulmate, but with counsling and friends you can get through it. It will take time.You just have to take one day at a time.You can't move on in the fututre if you live in the past.
2007-01-25 22:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have lost someone very valuable!
That would definitely hurt!
But it is not the end of the world!
Your pain will eventually heal - and it will heal completely|
Although he seemed to be everything, God has an even better plan for you|
Wait and see!
You will be pleasantly surprised|||
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2007-01-25 22:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋